Sue Monk Kidd
Author of The Secret Life of Bees
About the Author
Sue Monk Kidd was born in Sylvester, Georgia on August 12, 1948. She received a B.S. in nursing from Texas Christian University in 1970 and worked throughout her twenties as a registered nurse and college nursing instructor. She got her start in writing at the age of 30 when a personal essay she show more wrote for a writing class was published in Guideposts and reprinted in Reader's Digest. She went on to become a contributing editor at Guideposts and a freelancer. She primarily writes non-fiction, but is best known for her novel, The Secret Life of Bees, which won the 2004 Book Sense Paperback book of the Year. The book was made into a movie in 2008. Her other works include God's Joyful Surprise, When the Heart Waits, The Dance of the Dissident Daughter, Firstlight, and Traveling with Pomegranates: A Mother-Daughter Story. The Mermaid Chair won the 2005 Quill Award for General Fiction and was adapted into a television movie by Lifetime. Sue's title, The Invention of Wings, was selected as the Oprah Book Club 2.0 read in January, 2014. This title also made The New York Times Best Seller List. (Bowker Author Biography) show less
Works by Sue Monk Kidd
The Dance of the Dissident Daughter: A Woman's Journey from Christian Tradition to the Sacred Feminine (1996) 1,309 copies, 21 reviews
Love's Hidden Blessings: God Can Touch Your Life When You Least Expect It (1990) 38 copies, 1 review
Associated Works
After Jesus Before Christianity: A Historical Exploration of the First Two Centuries of Jesus Movements (2021) — Foreword — 132 copies, 3 reviews
Of Love and Life: Three Weeks in Paris / The Secret Life of Bees / Fair Game (2002) — Contributor — 9 copies
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Common Knowledge
- Birthdate
- 1948-08-12
- Gender
- female
- Education
- Texas Christian University(B.S. ∙ 1970)
Emory University - Occupations
- nurse(registered)
instructor(nursing)
writer-in-residence
novelist
memoirist
short story writer - Agent
- William Morris Agency
- Relationships
- Taylor, Ann Kidd (daughter)
- Short biography
- Sue Monk Kidd was born in Albany, Georgia and raised in the tiny town of Sylvester, Georgia, a place that later deeply influenced the writing of her first novel. Her original career was as a nurse and nursing instructor. Her first published book was God's Joyful Surprise (1988), a spiritual memoir. In 1996, she published another memoir, The Dance of the Dissident Daughter, which had a groundbreaking effect within religious circles.
In her 40s, she decided to return to her earlier fiction writing, and enrolled in a graduate writing course at Emory University, as well as studying at Sewanee, Bread Loaf and other writers' conferences. She wrote and published short stories in small literary journals for which she won several awards. Her first novel The Secret Life of Bees (2002) became a major hit, selling more than 6 million copies and spending more than 2½ years on the New York Times bestseller list. It was also published in 35 countries and is now widely used as a text in high school and college classrooms. The Secret Life of Bees was produced on stage in New York by The American Place Theater and adapted into a movie in 2008.
Sue's second novel, The Mermaid Chair (2005) sold nearly 2 million copies and was #1 on the New York Times bestseller list. It has been translated into 24 languages and was produced as a television movie by Lifetime. - Nationality
- USA
- Birthplace
- Albany, Georgia, USA
- Places of residence
- Sylvester, Georgia, USA
Charleston, South Carolina, USA
Florida, USA - Map Location
- USA
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Reviews
Over 15 years ago a spiritual director pointed me to this book. Timing matters. I know that I read through Monk's personal journey, but it didn't resonate with me then. Now every page found home in me.
I cannot really read without writing and underlining, (nor can I write without reading). Happily, I realized this was a keeper and returned the library copy and got one of my own to enjoy and digest at leisure. As I write about life changes and the process of transition, I found Monk's show more thoughtful and personal approach wise and honest. She speaks of her midlife passage, which for her was her 40's. In my early 50's I find myself just now catching up to many of her soul experiences. Lovely weaving of one woman's story of change with the wisdom of a variety of other writers and thinkers. A treasure.
update: 4.5 stars. Even better the third time through. What a wise and honest companion. Thank you, Sue. show less
I cannot really read without writing and underlining, (nor can I write without reading). Happily, I realized this was a keeper and returned the library copy and got one of my own to enjoy and digest at leisure. As I write about life changes and the process of transition, I found Monk's show more thoughtful and personal approach wise and honest. She speaks of her midlife passage, which for her was her 40's. In my early 50's I find myself just now catching up to many of her soul experiences. Lovely weaving of one woman's story of change with the wisdom of a variety of other writers and thinkers. A treasure.
update: 4.5 stars. Even better the third time through. What a wise and honest companion. Thank you, Sue. show less
Except for a slightly slow start, this is a wonderful story of what a woman who became the wife of Jesus might have been like, what life gave her and what she took from the life she had. I, being of reform Jewish background, was frankly shocked by how poorly women were treated at that time. Women who lost their husbands, their babies, etc. were stoned, exiled, had their tongues cut out — every possible torture and humiliation was visited upon them. They were not allowed to learn to read show more and had to maintain stoic obedience to their fathers and their husbands. I don't know whether this was just in Judea and Samaria, which was ruled by the Romans at that time, or whether it also extended to other countries and religions such as existed in Egypt, where the wife of Jesus also spends time. The author creates Ana as an abrasive and ambitious woman for those times. She is fully human in a way we can understand. She wants to read. She wants to write. She wants to determine her own destiny. While all does not go according plan, she does end up being blessed by becoming the wife of Jesus. While Jesus is in the story as a loving husband and a kind, compassionate man who reimagines human relationships with each other and with God, he is not the subject of the story. The main subject is Ana and her response to what life lays in front of her, her family (especially her brother) and her husband, Jesus. I think I would need to read this several times to extract all the meaning of this story for women and, indeed, for humanity. Highly recommended. show less
She was a voice.
It's not hard to imagine that if Jesus of Nazareth had had a wife, she would have been written out of history. In The Book of Longings, Sue Monk Kidd writes Ana in: Ana, sister of Judas, wife of Jesus, who aspires to read and write and have her life and her writings remembered; who dreads the marriage her father arranges for her, and escapes it; who is a stranger to her mother, but close to her wise aunt, Yaltha; who is loyal to her friend Tabitha, who is raped and her show more tongue cut out - Ana writes her story, too; who marries Jesus, but endures several periods of separation from him; who watches her brother become radicalized by Herod Antipas' Roman-loving ways and aim to wear the title King of the Jews; who travels to Alexandria and back, just in time to witness Jesus' crucifixion; who lives out her days in Therapeutae, a monastic community in Egypt.
See also: The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller; People of the Book by Geraldine Brooks; The Red Tent by Anita Diamant
Quotes
To be ignored, to be forgotten, this was the worst sadness of all. (5)
If my life must be torn apart by this betrothal, then I must try to reassemble it according to my own design. (58)
When you love, you remember everything. (62)
The sins of the son were visited on the father just as the father's sins were visited on the son. (95)
I knew of no one who put compassion above holiness. (123)
Jesus, I would discover, was a peacemaker and a provocateur in equal measures, but one could never say which he would be at any given moment. (143)
Most men knew nothing of the ways in which women avoided pregnancy. When it came to children, they didn't much consider the agony of birth and the possibility of death; they thought instead of God's mandate to be fruitful and multiply. It seemed to be a command God has devised with men in mind, and it was the only one they were universally good at obeying. (145)
"It's always a marvel when one's pain doesn't settle into bitterness, but brings forth kindness instead." (Mary to Ana, 151)
"I've heard [the reasons the prophets have no female disciples] tenfold. Traipsing about the countryside exposes us to dangers and hardships. We cause dissension among the men. We are temptations. We are distractions....It's thought we're too weak to face danger and hardship. But do we not give birth? Do we not work day and night? Are we not ordered about and silenced? What are robbers and rainstorms compared to these things?" (Ana to Jesus, 222)
Jesus's capacity for mercy baffled me. I didn't know if I could give up the wrongs my father had done, the way I hauled them around like an ossuary of precious old bones. Jesus made it seem as if one could just lay them down. (239)
There was an incongruous peace in my helplessness, in the knowledge that what was done was done and could not be undone, and even if I could change it, I wouldn't. (247)
"Anger is effortless...Kindness is hard. Try to exert yourself." (Skepsis, 334)
Were we women the only ones with hearts large enough to hold such anguish? (375)
I didn't know how the rubble inside me could ever be put back together. (382)
"You don't have to feel love for her. Only try to act with love." (Jesus to Ana, 388) show less
It's not hard to imagine that if Jesus of Nazareth had had a wife, she would have been written out of history. In The Book of Longings, Sue Monk Kidd writes Ana in: Ana, sister of Judas, wife of Jesus, who aspires to read and write and have her life and her writings remembered; who dreads the marriage her father arranges for her, and escapes it; who is a stranger to her mother, but close to her wise aunt, Yaltha; who is loyal to her friend Tabitha, who is raped and her show more tongue cut out - Ana writes her story, too; who marries Jesus, but endures several periods of separation from him; who watches her brother become radicalized by Herod Antipas' Roman-loving ways and aim to wear the title King of the Jews; who travels to Alexandria and back, just in time to witness Jesus' crucifixion; who lives out her days in Therapeutae, a monastic community in Egypt.
See also: The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller; People of the Book by Geraldine Brooks; The Red Tent by Anita Diamant
Quotes
To be ignored, to be forgotten, this was the worst sadness of all. (5)
If my life must be torn apart by this betrothal, then I must try to reassemble it according to my own design. (58)
When you love, you remember everything. (62)
The sins of the son were visited on the father just as the father's sins were visited on the son. (95)
I knew of no one who put compassion above holiness. (123)
Jesus, I would discover, was a peacemaker and a provocateur in equal measures, but one could never say which he would be at any given moment. (143)
Most men knew nothing of the ways in which women avoided pregnancy. When it came to children, they didn't much consider the agony of birth and the possibility of death; they thought instead of God's mandate to be fruitful and multiply. It seemed to be a command God has devised with men in mind, and it was the only one they were universally good at obeying. (145)
"It's always a marvel when one's pain doesn't settle into bitterness, but brings forth kindness instead." (Mary to Ana, 151)
"I've heard [the reasons the prophets have no female disciples] tenfold. Traipsing about the countryside exposes us to dangers and hardships. We cause dissension among the men. We are temptations. We are distractions....It's thought we're too weak to face danger and hardship. But do we not give birth? Do we not work day and night? Are we not ordered about and silenced? What are robbers and rainstorms compared to these things?" (Ana to Jesus, 222)
Jesus's capacity for mercy baffled me. I didn't know if I could give up the wrongs my father had done, the way I hauled them around like an ossuary of precious old bones. Jesus made it seem as if one could just lay them down. (239)
There was an incongruous peace in my helplessness, in the knowledge that what was done was done and could not be undone, and even if I could change it, I wouldn't. (247)
"Anger is effortless...Kindness is hard. Try to exert yourself." (Skepsis, 334)
Were we women the only ones with hearts large enough to hold such anguish? (375)
I didn't know how the rubble inside me could ever be put back together. (382)
"You don't have to feel love for her. Only try to act with love." (Jesus to Ana, 388) show less
This book surprised me. When I started it, I kept reading because it seemed like something I would enjoy, but I never would have thought that I would feel as deeply as I did during this story. It was a book that portrayed grief through someone who didn't even realize she needed to process and grieve, and that was so beautiful to me. Lily, the main character, grew and matured and healed throughout these pages and it was refreshing to see her embrace her authentic feelings, even when she show more didn't want to. Anger, sadness, joy, [real, "I choose you in your mess"] love, infatuation, grief, belonging, emptiness, persistence, and so many more real and raw feelings were so beautifully written down on paper and I just absolutely loved it.
One of my favorite quotes that I can't seem to stop thinking about is pasted below. Lily was talking about the hurt you go through in life and her ponderings were thought provoking it me:
"I wanted to know what happened when two people felt it. Would it divide the hurt in two, make it lighter to bear, the way feeling someone's joy seemed to double it?" show less
One of my favorite quotes that I can't seem to stop thinking about is pasted below. Lily was talking about the hurt you go through in life and her ponderings were thought provoking it me:
"I wanted to know what happened when two people felt it. Would it divide the hurt in two, make it lighter to bear, the way feeling someone's joy seemed to double it?" show less
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