Richardderus thread 27 of 2014 new thread by proxy

SOME FRIENDS OF RD have reopened his WECARE fund...The one Morphy started with months ago...it can be found here:

http://www.youcaring.com/medical-fundraiser/for-our-beloved-curmudgeon/179809

I doubt I will put in any headers or photos, but just in case i move something over... i am saving this space. Feel free to decorate as you like, I'm sure rdear will appreciate it.

saved just in case

Makes sense that you did this, but I got all excited thinking he was posting hisownself.

Hey Richard, I miss you hope you come back soon. LT is not the same without you, have a lovely weekend.

UPDATE:

Richard is doing well. He is being cared for very well. I have his permission to share that he is in the hospital and has been. ALL of his needs are being seen to. He has limited access to phones. I am very pleased with the way he sounds... so much better. From the hospital, he will be transferred into another place where he will receive care. I don't know when or where but I will share that as soon as i hear. Even rd doesn't know yet.

He can receive packages ...pm me.

So there ya go. A few friends besides myself have located him, and been able to contact him. He has received a few packages and sounds like an 8 year old when he talks about them...

So... carry on, he has no internet access either, but hopefully will when he moves. Fingers crossed.

Sending love and hugs to you Richard my friend, looking forward to seeing you back on here soon. Today has been Hannah day and she sends special smooches to you and Karen has been baking, which I know you like.

>3 michigantrumpet: Sorry, I had hoped that I could avoid that by adding by proxy.......

Oh, Kath, that is excellent good news. I'm so glad that he has landed in the land of caring people. Internet access would be a bonus, so we can hope for that. I'm so pleased!

I am glad he is doing well.

>5 mckait:, Thanks Kath for the update.

He is in a good place and is managing well. The very best thing of all is that he is receiving medical care and drugs for his condition. Less pain is never bad.

Aww, poor guy. Do you know what happened to his dog? Is someone taking care of it for him?

Shoot. I was waiting for the results of the 500 post experiment. A hospital sounds worrying, but “cared for” sounds positive. Delurking to wish Richard well.

Morphy, rd was moved in an emergency situation. Stella remains with Claudia, and will be okay there.

Thanks very much for the update!

>13 mckait: Oh, good. I know how much he loves Stella.

I am not trying to be difficult .. but I would just rather not post his address here.. there is a certain LTer that has been quite unkind to him, and I just think it's best to do it privately for his friends.

Sorry :(

>16 mckait: Makes sense, Kath.

Thank you very much for the helpful update. He's greatly missed, as I hope he knows.

I have let him know, Joe...

and to all
point of info.. a few have asked if care packages are okay.. and they are, for sure.

SO SO happy to hear the positive news about dear RD. And many many thanks Kath for being our eyes and ears and voice to our brave curmudgeon.

I'm glad Stella is being cared for. That worried me until I read it further down. I'm so glad to read that Richard is receiving good care. I hope that this will signal a change for the better for him all around.

I wonder if anyone out there makes octopus print pyjamas?

Thanks for the updates, Kath! This is very kind of you. And thanks for setting up RD's new thread. I thought we might hit the BIG 500!

I hope he is able to read. Fingers crossed.

>20 tiffin: Tui, if anyone can find octopus jammies, i bet it's you!

>21 msf59: He can read, i have sent some books, i have another box ready to go, Mark

That is great news! Books are the best medicine, I always say!

>16 mckait: Totally agree! And so glad to know he is on the mend and being well cared for.

((((((Richard)))))) I am really, really glad to hear that you are doing better.

Thank you so much Kath for letting us all know. It's relieved a lot of worry.

Thanks so much for the update, Kath! I too was concerned about Stella and so thanks for that, too.

Richard, I'm so happy to hear not only that you are safe, but that you are getting some medical care. Be well and know that you are missed!

Can we get a list together of what books people are sending? If mckait doesn't want to do it, I can.

That is a great idea!

>27 Morphidae: Great idea, @Morphidae.

@mckait. So happy to hear all of his needs are taken care of, I'm crying. Great idea about limiting access, mist folks here are among the most caring I have met, but I have seen messages to Richard that were nasty. Thank you for giving us the news we are longing to hear while protecting Richard.

Smooches to you, RD!

>1 mckait: On a lesser note, I am very grateful about the new thread. Had this idea that some folks wouldn't be able to load the old thread to get news about Richard. It bugged me.

Thanks again.

>27 Morphidae: What to get the man who's read everything! :) I'll have to ponder things for a bit. I definitely want to send him something.

Kath, thank you so much for an update. So good to hear Richard is doing better. He is very much missed. Please extend my get well wishes to him!! Hugs to him!!

I'm so glad to hear RD is doing well and his dog is cared for! I've been a little worried.

Oh, what a wonderful message to end the week with! Kath, thanks for starting a new thread, and for all of the updates. I'm so relieved that Richard is receiving wonderful care and is in less pain. And that Stella is being taken care of too! As soon as I think of something appropriate to send to Richard, I'll be in contact for mailing address info.

We love you Richard, and look forward to hearing from yourownself very soon! ((((Richard))))
and (((Kath))) for keeping us posted!!!!

Thank you for the update. Get well soon Richard!

Thank you so much for updating. If anyone can get together a list it would be great - also any ideas :)

Big love RD.

xoxo to you and Stella dear

Thanks so much for the update.

Rdear, I send you a load of healing vibes. Gentle hugs xx

Someone mentioned books..Getting together a book list will be rough... there are people who don't post on LT sending books, too. At rd's request, the books sent so far are mostly thriller type books that take no thinking to enjoy them.

I would definitely suggest avoiding James Rollins for now. He likes Steve Berry, but i'm not sure which he has. Maybe looking at his Amazon WL or if he has one here is a good idea? But even then, don't send heavy duty reading for now. That is what he said to me.

So by all means send a book or more if you like, but check his lists. Also, remember that at this time he has no internet connection.

If you do send a book(s), pop a PM off to me. I'll make a list and put up a wiki.

His ginormous Amazon wish list is at http://www.amazon.com/gp/registry/wishlist/ref=cm_wl_search_1?ie=UTF8&cid=A3....

As mckait said, keep it light and preferably aimed at thriller types.

Thanks, Kath, for this thread and the updates. I greatly appreciate it.

*smooches* to dear RD when you speak with him. Tell him Horrible is asking after him...

Keeping you in my thoughts, Richard, and happy to hear that you're receiving the care you need. Get well, get rest, and then get yourself back here!

Love you and miss you, Richard.

Thank you for the update. Continuing to send good vibes.

I'm very relieved to hear that Richard is being well-cared for, and that there is something we can all do to brighten his world a touch, even if only a card or note, as he can't see all the care and concern we're posting here right now.

Thanks for the updates. It's so good to know that Richard and his dog are being cared for. Hoping that he'll soon be able to do so himself.

A note or a card is great, you know... lets him know that you are thinking of him. That is what matters.

Just trying to order a book for Richard which I've found is out of print - any idea if he has his kindle with him? Also anyone know whether you can order on Kindle for delivery to someone's account (I'm a bit of a kindle virgin...). Ta :)

He has nothing with him. Really nothing.

And he has no internet access. I hope that he will sometime soon when he gets out of the hospital. I sincerely hope that when he is moved to where he will live next that he has it, or at least will be well enough to make trips to a library. . .

I am a ditz - I had read that. Paper it is :)

Loving thoughts and healing vibes Richard.

I am going to put a box of books in the mail for rd today... and I had one of those DRAT moments.

If someone would like to send him something, maybe some stamps and a box of small cards could be nice for him to have? It might make him feel like he has some way to reach out.

Just a thought, if someone is looking for a small gift for him....

>51 mckait: - Alas, I could send him stamps but I fear British ones wouldn't be much good to him!

>51 mckait: What a good idea. I am going to jump on that, because I was waffling about whether to send a book. I'm sure he'll now get quite a bounty of those.

The box I sent on Saturday had half a dozen postcards already stamped and ready to go out. Plus some pens, hand cream, a little notepad, eye mask and earplugs, Kleenex, a deck of playing cards, coffee candies and rice crispy treats. Couldn't recall if he like rice crispy treats, but figured he could use them to bribe nurses! A couple books and an Ammy gift card. The post office said it should get to him today or tomorrow.

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That is a very good idea. Stamps and writing equipment are always welcome. So is the hand cream. I swear that hospitals have the driest air outside of Yuma, AZ. The rice crispy treats also made me laugh. Those are always useful as well.

A couple of statements made by Richard this summer:

"*I* merely comment upon the passing book-scene in an informative and, one hopes, entertaining fashion."

"*I* am but a flâneur on the streets of literature."

What are the top books that Richard recommended to you?

This is my list, just off the top of my head. I do a terrible job of recording who recommended a book that makes it on to TBR.

Chronicles of St. Mary's
Ella Minnow Pea
An Uncommon Reader
Mr. Penumbra's 24 Hour Bookstore

Do you think there has been a downturn in the publishing business in his absence?

Top RD recommendations for me lately have been A Man Without a Country, by Kurt Vonnegut (who I was very hesitant about reading), and The Crocodile Bird by Ruth Rendell.

The RD recommendations that I've read and appreciated that come to mind are the Jodi Taylor time travel St. Mary's series, and The Blind Contessa's New Machine, but there have been many.

>47 mckait: A note or a card is great, you know... lets him know that you are thinking of him. That is what matters. What a good idea, Kath. I'll do it. I also sent a Montalbano mystery and Marie Antoinette, Serial Killer (which our daughter got a kick out of when she read it) from his WL.

I had gifted him with the two latest Imogen Robertson books for his b-day. I'll ensure they find their way to wherever he is bound.

I am so out of the loop I did not realize that RD was in dire straits. Please pass on my regards, Kath - and ((hugs)) and xx smooches xx!

You all all super! Richard is going to be so happy! Everything from notes and letters to all sorts of great things he will be able to really use.

There is no way to beat an LTer for thoughtfulness

You got that right!

IF you are able to do that >59 Chatterbox:, there may be other belongings he can use. Right now .....I am just waiting to hear where to pay for storage for his things.

Well, if you and R want to pass on a list to me, I can get it to C. I can't imagine that there would be a problem, and I'll be down in NY sometime in the next few weeks.

Well, in a few weeks he may have been moved. Let me know when you go. We can take it from there... ok?

Sending books is a great idea!

Do you think he would like it if I sent a kitten?

No, you're right. Probably not.

Richard, we miss you, dear curmudgeonly friend!

So glad to read that Richard is receiving good care and that Stella is being taken care of. *Sending you loads of love Rdear*

Books recommended to me by Richard are many but real standouts this year are Life on the Mississippi by Mark Twain and the St Mary's time travel historians series.

Richard got me clued into the Armande Gamache series by Louise Penny, one of my favorite series ever.

I wonder if I could send him some flavored coffee?

A kind thought morphy, but he has no access to making his own coffee at this time.

He is probably desperate for a decent cup of coffee by now.

I will hold the good thought that his hospital is "up to date" and makes really good coffee possible. I was blown away at the hospital where I had my first hip replacement: food could be ordered from a menu, at any time of the day or night. If I wanted breakfast at 3 pm, I could have it. And the food was good. I don't remember if the coffee was good, but being that it was in Seattle, I imagine it was. So, I think it is reasonable to hope!

>66 EBT1002: Sending him a kitten - what a great idea, Ellen. Maybe I'll send him some of my favorite Charles Dickens books.

No, you're right. Probably not.

Hope you're doing okay, Mr. D.

um... due to circumstances...
feel free to send visa gift cards if you are looking for things or a way to help.....
we need to pay for storage and a few things he neeeds

just sayin

When he is on line again, he will have access to this:
for-our-beloved-curmudgeon - a way to donate to help Richard with medical and other costs associated with this difficult time in his life. Thanks again to @Morphidae for setting it up.

Is Richard able to make use of actual dollars? As I don't know how I'd send a donation directly to him from the UK - I've never come across visa gift cards here. I don't want to donate to the fund as he doesn't have access to it right now. Would a card with a few dollars in it be able to be used for little things in the hospital, snacks or magazines etc?

<75.. I had no idea that was there.. I missed it somehow... is that a new one? Thanks to morphy

>76 lunacat: YES! by all means a few dollars in a card would be good..
That would be very thoughtful..

>75 MDGentleReader: That is the old one... I know that he has used some of that for insurance and meds which thankfully he was able to o thanks to morphy..

So I am pretty sure that much of that money is gone... I already talked to him today and dso won't again for a day or two.

>78 mckait: it is still valid (for another 72 days). I donated again when it appeared that the looming housing crisis was not going solved in a timely manner. I thought that it would be nice to have it replenished when he has Internet access again. It might be an easier way for some folks to help out.

>77 mckait: Fab, it will be in the post tomorrow or thursday (our postoffice closes at 12pm on Wednesdays and I'm not sure I'll make it in the morning).

>79 MDGentleReader: I think that is a good idea. RD needs money for moving and it would be a great place to consolidate donations so that he can pay the movers.

Okay, great news!

>79 MDGentleReader: & >81 luvamystery65: Glad it still works. I don't know much about those things, in fact I know nothing. Thank you both for that...

>80 lunacat: Fab indeed, and thank you!

I will add it to the top of this thread, and as a public post on his profile page so we ( I) don't lose track of it ..

Thank you!

The fundraisers don't really expire and if there is a worry that it will do so, I can change the date when it gets closer.

I discovered, from Richard, that I am not the only person who doesn't really like Charles Dickens. That made me happy because it proved I was not alone in the world.

I sent Richard a box of Charles Dickens novels, darn it.

Hope our friend is improving. There will be some book porn waiting for his return.

Checking in and nice to see the updates that Richard receiving care.

Hope things continue to improve and he'll be back soon.

Please welcome new member @VargasMcPherson, a friend of rdear's who just joined. I hope that Vargas will find time to be a regular visitor!

You are very welcome here.

A friend of Richard's is a friend of mine. Welcome.

Glad to know that Richard is safe and, Kath, thank you for reposting the giving site up top. Missing you Ricardo!! Smooches, lots of them!

THIS IS URGENT

IF you are LOCAL or able to get to Hempstead...
it is essential, ESSENTIAL that we find someone willing to take responsibility for being at the storage unit to take responsibility for the key.

HIS BELONGINGS NEED TO BE OUT OF THE HOUSE BY THE END OF THe MONTH..

Richard is very worried. , he has little ,very little and he will lose ALL of it. PLEASE HELP

Can YOU PLEASE HELP in any way?
Claudia is saying that his belongings NEED to be out by the end of the month...

Someone has to be available to get the key
Are you able to help with that? at all?

The storage place will not accept his belongings without someone to take the key.
time is running out .. only days left

Ah jeez. That poor man. Other than LTers I don't know anyone who lives in NY.

I've posted a thread asking if someone lives near the area.

http://www.librarything.com/topic/182108

I will hopefully have more details on exactly where and when no later than tomorrow.

NO $ is involved here.. I just have no details yet. I just learned this info an hour ago.

PLEASE .. local folk... consider doing this if you are able.
The storage facility will not allow the boxes in unless someone is there to take the key.

His belonging NEED to be out of the house before the end of the month.

GAH!

Who is moving his boxes any way? Couldn't they get the key?

Is a bonded courier a possibility?

A moving company is going to move his belonging. IF it were a friend, there would be no issues. The friend could do it.

$$ is a huge issue, and I honestly don't know about a bonded courier... I can ask his social worker.

Listen..... rd is much worse off physically than you know. MUCH. He isn't dying, or anything like that.. but he needs care. Living on his own is just not a possibility at this point. Two options only. Family to take him in, or a nursing home. He needs to be cared for, because he can't care for himself right now. And it will be a while before he can.

I have no idea why his things can't just be put into a corner of an unused room or garage, but that is apparently not an option. They NEED to be moved. And soon.

His family is of zero help, believe me, I have tried to get help from one of his family members, and gave her contact info and so on... but ..no.

>98 mckait: What also is amazing is, if the person who owns the house (is that Claudia?) is adamant that his stuff has to go, why wouldn't they be willing to accept the key and send it to you or RD.

I know I don't know the particulars and it sounds like it was a very toxic situation. Its a shame there isn't room for common decency. I would offer to help, but I'm about as far away as you can get.

Fingers crossed.

I am sure that you would help, Jeff. A lot of us here, would. Toxic.... you have no idea how bad it got in the end. He is much better off where he is right now.

Common decency would be nice, wouldn't it?
:-(

What about his gentleman caller? What happened to him?

I have no idea, at the very least, he is out of the state, for sure.

How about someone from his bookcircle?

That doesn't seem to be working out so far....not that I know all of them by any means, but so far.......no.

Wow, people can be really nasty, can't they? I wish I could help, but wrong part of the country. :-( I miss you, Richard. There's no one to tell me not to bother reading any more Edgar Rice Burroughs when you're not here. Sending good thoughts your way! **pushes a steaming coffee cup and a warm chocolate chip cookie toward you**

One last post today...if there is anyone out there who still wants to send something to rd...please consider a visa gift card .

eta

it will allow him some immediate access to "cash"

Everyone has been so generous... her is overwhelmed and filled with gratitude.

Sent a VGC with a little note to him yesterday. I've only known him for less than a year and sure he's a curmudgeon, but no one deserves this.

Where are our teleporters that Star Trek promised us. Then we could just hop over and lend a hand.

>107 mahsdad: Thank you Jeff!

Much appreciated

Oh my god, this is terrible! Wish I were closer than halfway across the country. Will be sending a visa gift card ASAP. Ugh, poor Richard! And Stella, too, probably wondering where her Dad is.

Bless you, Kath, for helping so much and being a wonderful friend.

Man, this situation just gets worse and worse. Unfortunately, unless Texas is moved closer to New York I cannot help.

Kath, let me know if I can do anything to help you help out Richard.

Kath, A BIG thanks to you for all you are doing for Richard. What an incredible person you are! You are still mourning your beloved Duncan, yet you take time to help others.

What the hell is wrong with Claudia? Never mind, you cannot answer that. Nobody can.

Poor RD in some respects but what a lucky fellow he is to have so many wonderful friends here on LT. I agree wholeheartedly with the senitments expressed by others on the thread. Kath you are a lovely lady with a big, big heart.

Hoping that things work out for Richard and his belongings, I am sure one or more of our Eastern Seaboard LT'ers may be able to do something for him.

Oh my goodness, having not checked in to LT properly in a while, I had no idea this was going on - poor Richard! I thought he'd gone quieter than usual in my fb feed.

I'll find that link, but will you send hugs mckait? Have you managed to find someone to sort out the key? I wish I could help.

No key help as of yet...

One person offered to allw the key yo be sent to her... but that won't do. The storage people want a body with a hand out to take the key. ANY of us can agree to have the key sent, but that just won't work .

I try to keep him updated as much as possible on who is sending him good wishes, but our conversations are brief, and I also need to learn things about what he needs. It is my hope that he lands somewhere with internet.. and I have told one of his caregivers that his mental health may depend on that, since his friends and way of life need the internet. Without it, I am afraid he will whither away. They promised to try. I do make sure that he knows that many friends are posting many good wishes.

Well, it looks like we may have a key solution.. if the social worker / storage company accept it, an LT and RL friend of rd's may be saving the day!!!

oh, how I wish I could hop a jet plane.....

There must be someone we could hire to pick up the key. A courier service seems a possibility, and if it is expensive I'm sure we could raise enough money here to cover that expense. Dang! This is frustrating.

ETA: >115 mckait: I hope you are right!!!! Crossing my fingers, and holding my thumbs. (might be hard to get ready to drive up to the kids' house, but I'll do it!)

#115: Good news! I hope it all works out!

>115 mckait: Great news!

Oh, good news indeed! I was trying to figure out how to manage driving over, which does not make much sense..

Hooray for the key solution, Kath!

Hugs to you. What a great job you're doing helping our friend Richard.

Good work, Kath. You are a friend indeed.

It's only up from here on in for Richard, having hit the bottom. With all my heart I hope that he can move to a place of security, good care, comfort, and some peace in his life.

Can Richard actually make use of Visa gift cards in his current situation?

Well... the key thing isn't quite resolved yet....but hopefully it will be soon. Seems the social workers had a meeting today.

>122 laytonwoman3rd: No. Not at this time. Any cards will be put into a safe and will leave with him when he goes to the nursing home.There he can use the cards for his needs. He is not allowed to have anything of value at all. But he will be leaving the hospital before too long ( hopefully) and when in the nursing home, yes! Especially if he ends up losing his belongings due to no one being able to help with the key. They will help to pay the storage if need be...I am just waiting for things to come together in order to get his bills paid for him. Hope there are no snafu's because we are on a time limit here.

Richard is going to be in care for some time to come. Any income he has from the state will go towards his care.

i just talked to him for a bit, and he sounds pretty good...
Some problems with his feet, pain etc... but he will be seeing a doctor for that, thank goodness!

>120 jnwelch: Ditto - You are doing an amazing thing helping out Richard at this time ..... I can't help much down under here only wish I could ....

Tried to persuade work that I was desperately needed in New York for a case... they didn't buy it. Wish I was on the right side of the world :/ Big love to RD and various things flying snail mail. Fingers crossed for solutions - and adding to the thanks to Kath for keeping us up to date and for doing so much.

The key thing is complicated by logistics, money, someone who is being very rigid about timing and so many things. I am waiting to hear if the offer from our LT friend will work...having a bonded courier stand in..

I am really not doing any much more than trying co-ordinate and beg a bit. Just being a friend.

Kath - you are our hands, hearts, and feet there for us; thank you. Take really good care of yourself, too. Let us know at any time you know of things that we, from afar, can do. I made another donation to the medical fund (>1 mckait:). I sent a card, and will send another. I have all my powers of good wishes on high!

>128 maggie1944: What she said. Thank you and do take good care of yourself.

You are ALL amazing, I have tried to make sure he knows how his friends are stepping up and reaching out. It is helping him to get well, knowing that people care.

This is about all of us here at 75 helping in any way we can. This is huge, do you realize that? Stranger friends encircling one of our ranks in need...

Morphy, who has so much on her plate stepping up, too.. ALL of you...

huge hugs

Tip o' the hat to you, my Kait

Hi Kath, if you lived over here my dear I would nominate you for an honour in either the New Year's Honours or the Queen's birthday honours, what you have done is worthy of receiving an honour and makes me proud to be an LT member and a member of the 75 ers. Please pass on our best wishes to dear Richard and please let him know that Little Hannah sends smooches, he will know what you are on about.

Oh my! Geez. Well, Thank you all of you...
*blush*

I just had a call from one of the social workers. Richard is going to be right where he is for a while. Perhaps as long as 2 months... or? They are waiting for placement for him. She is astounded at the piles of gifts he is receiving and agrees that the visa gift cards will be good for now, should anyone else want to send them. They will be locked in a safe.

rd himself mentioned surgery, one or two and hopefully this will get his feet back in working order.

So.

My plan is to try to print off some of the posts that have been made here and send them along to him so he can see for himself that people are caring.

The woman laughed when i mentioned internet access and said of course! They all have it now. I will get an update on monday.

So there you go.. you and the huge bounty of books and gifts and notes that you have all been sending rd has pretty much made history in that facility, judging from what his 2 social workers have said so GOOD on EVERYONE.

She left me feeling better. I have a feeling that she has been doing this for a long time and she seems to think it will be ok.. they are waiting for a place in a nursing home, So same old news as earlier but repeated by a lovely mature woman with what she described as a New York Jewish accent that was very cheering...

>133 mckait: You are an amazing friend, Kath! Your kindness and generosity are boundless. Hugs!

Yes, the 75 Group is pretty damn special too!

The 75 group is amazing indeed!

Info has been sent your way mark

I am very worried because the money to pay for the move and storage has not yet arrived, and i simply dont have it. Send good moving energy to that money arriving in time . Cross crossables please

> #136 - Kath - is it an issue of transfer or is more $ needed? Can we help?

Stopping by to send positive energy and say hi. Miss you Richard, hope everything works out.

I don't have the words to add to everyone's well wishes, but mine are certainly included and I wanted to check in. Wish I could be of more concrete help :(

Kath, would you or someone in the group be able to PM me an address to send along a card and small package to Richard? I'd really appreciate it! (Sorry to add one more thing to your plate... I know you've been coordinating a lot)

I'd also like to have an address to send a card to.

Add me to the list of wannabe card senders too!

Same here, please.

Kath, With all you are handling, I simply am amazed! Words cannot describe the wonderful person you are.

Kath you are an angel. Thanks a lot for everything you have done amd still are doing. Please send my well wishes and love to Rdear, too and if possible PM his adress where I can send a card. Hugs xx

Rdear, sending you gentle wing beats. xx

Okay, I think I got to everyone who has asked.

I am not posting it here because there are two people who have been beyond rude, and at least one who has been threatening to to rd in the past. I would prefer it if they couldn't reach rd. Especially since I have just seen posts by one of them attacking another member in a third party's thread. Again. So I guess I am trying to protect him, because the last thing he needs is unkind words hurled at him right now, and I just don't know how far these two would go. I am asking you to not share the address with them, as i have to assume that you all know who they are?

So there ya go.

No, I don't. Can you PM me their names? I had someone ask for his address and I gave it to them. Now, I *know* it wasn't one of those people, but what if it had been someone else?

Morphy... sure..

which.. btw... i need to mention that without that fundraiser Morphy started, he would have no insurance... and this would all have been a much bigger nightmare

Morphy is the one y'all should be thanking ...

But all of you donated! So everyone should be thanked!

That's what i have been saying.. WE all did or are doing our parts, we all rock, eh? But having insurance saved him.

Sending more good, strong, healing thoughts, and mojo, to Richard, and Kath. We all need all the strength and positive thinking these days. Richard just needs a few more.

Kath, Would you pm me Richard's address, as well? I was going to hold off sending anything but it sounds like he'll be where he is for several weeks, at least.

Thank you for all you do.

A few twists and turns in a life and this could be any of us.

"A few twists and turns in a life and this could be any of us." That's what I keep thinking.

Could you send me Richard's address also? I've wanted to send something also but didn't know where. And I promise not to share the info with anyone. What is the best thing to send to him, aside from good wishes? I don't know him very well but he is so well loved here on LT.

Can you add me to the PM list .... (esp as He will be there a few weeks so anything from down under will still reach him).

So, I had a very convoluted dream last night where my husband and I set out in the car to run errands and ended up in Long Island at the storage locker--fricking unbelievable! And not only that we did it in less than 6 days, too.

:) oh roni!

maybe it's a good sign, though?

Wow, that's some dream Roni, esp with all else on yr. plate.

OK, checking in here for the first time in ages and I'm blown away by everything and everyone here!

I surely hope Richard has an inkling of how many lives he has touched!

And.... There's a special corner of hell reserved for people like Claudia who treat folks the way she is treating our Richard. I'm just saying. I know most of y'all aren't religious in the least, but c'mon now. She's the devil!

>146 mckait: Kath, I would hate to think that anyone would be so crass as to send nasty messages at a time like this. I think I know who you mean - the one who sent the book designed to hurt him may well strike again, the other one I don't believe so, but you are right to ensure that things like addresses go only to people who have his best interests at heart. Hani would like to send him a card so I would appreciate a PM too. xx

>159 TinaV95: Tina.. I know! I have to try to print these posts, and sent them to him. I officially hate my chromebook, but I will give it a try. 75ers are fabulous!

>160 PaulCranswick: Hi Paul! I tend to agree with you about who might send a nasty-gram and who most likely would not.. but I just want to be sure. I'm pretty sure that the first one has been blocked from the site, or has at least left it, but I am just not sure. I will certainly send the address! I honestly cant remember who I have given it to and who I haven't... but I will send it off to you right away...

Kath, there is a chance I will be down in NYC on Thursday, although I may not know until Tuesday. If so, I will have a midday meeting and then be free. I may be able to swing things to stay over until Friday, if need be, if logistical help is needed.

Can I suggest/request that we keep some of the vitriol down to a more manageable level? I'm not trying to tell people what to think or feel. Simply pointing out that I, at least, have known both Richard and Claudia IRL for more than four years, and a few other people are in a similar position. This is a very complex situation, and the end of a quarter-century friendship. Let's keep the focus on helping Richard, rather than venting about people that some of us know, please? Richard himself is aware of my feelings on this matter.

I have been rereading this forum, due to Suzanne's post.

I see that I missed some questions.

I think.

>137 Helenoel: Helen It is at least a matter of transfer. It was supposedly sent, but has not arrived. I have no idea about amount sent or amount needed. This is greying my hair a bit more than it already is.

A fellow LTer who has asked to remain nameless is planning to send a donation that will help this situation, if it works out. The big problem is the date. IF there was more wiggle room it would be easier. I have zero control of a situation that i am trying to handle.. that is unnerving to me.

I really appreciate all of the offers of helping me. If I could think of anything I would share, believe me. But I am just waiting for the transfer and for info on the mover, and the storage place. I have no idea how I am going to pay either of them, but I think i will buy a Visa gift card, and pay with that over the phone IF that works. Since I have no idea of who the movers are, and no control over when it will happen, and no idea of which storage facility will be used, I am really at sea here. I have asked for this information...but have not received it. I still hope to, but I work three days this week during regular business hours, so it is going to be hard to make contact with these companies if I DO get it now

Also, I would like to ask that >162 Chatterbox: Suz's request be honored.
We are all feeling pretty frustrated and angry... and that is ok. Just don't post what you feel.

I understand that it isn't helpful. So lets all be nice here, ok?

>162 Chatterbox: Suz Any help you can give as far as ANYTHING will be appreciated. If you can PM me and let me know if and when you will be available, and what you are able to help with, it would be great. I can give you my cell# if you need it to contact me. Logistics is one of the biggest problems right now.

I agree, Suz. One of the things I like about this group is the degree of respect and support people bring to each other, with even disagreements worded carefully and with decency for the most part. My only interest is in supporting Richard as well as I am able to from umpteen miles away. Geography, real life, and certain realities mean that I can only do a very small bit, so I am grateful for those who are able to do more.

Kath, you amaze me with how you have stepped up over this whole issue. You modestly bat aside all praise but seriously, you do deserve a lot of credit for how involved you have chosen to be.

Tui... i can't imagine having no one to turn to when you are in trouble. This will pass, rd will be where he is cared for and can get healthy and he will have all of his 75er friends to thank for the good energy, cards, gifts and friendship.

Kath, PM sent with my contact details and stuff.

>164 mckait: >165 tiffin: Thanks. This is a complex situation, and while venting spleen might make the person doing so feel better it (a) is guaranteed to make others on this board feel worse and (b) doesn't actually do justice to that complexity. We can at least try to keep this respectful.

You are right, Suz. Since the majority of us don't know her at all, this just seems like an awfully mean-spirited thing to do to a friend. But the situation is, I'm sure, complex, and it's easy to gloss that over when someone we know well (or as well as you can in an online-only friendship) is hurting and about to lose all of his possessions. Thank you for the reminder.

Kath, I can't do very much from over here, but I really am in awe about all you do and the help Richard is receiving from everyone on LT. It is really a miracle! I hope you will say hello to RD for me.

Now I'm going to find the link to the fund raising thing.

You posted earlier that Richard did NOT have access to the internet. Has that situation changed? I am not trying to be nosey but is it because he does not have his own computer with him?

He still has no access to the internet. He is not allowed to have anything of value with him.. so no computer. I tried to find out more on friday but his SW needed to run.. it was 5 pm and time to go. I don't blame her at all. I want to go home on time, too. Whether that will change before he leaves that hospital or if they have it available at all for their patients, i just don't know.

Hi Kath

As someone who has been in and out of hospitals a lot these last few years, I can verify that patients are not allowed to have anything of value. The hospital cannot be responsible for lost or stolen goods, and it places them in a very difficult position if something gets taken.

I agree that we should respect this complex situation, and Suzanne, your comments are very valid.

We don't know the "other side." We only react because we love Richard. I believe that Richard was given an extension, still how does one move when there are no options? It is Claudia's house. That's a fact. I am sure there is sadness all the way around.

Kath, I am not surprised at the many things you are trying to accomplish for Richard! I am in awe of you; you remain one of the most sensitive, kind people I know.

I just wanted to come by and leave my best wishes for Richard. Also Kath if you find that you need funds to help keep things flowing smoothly, please let us know, I would be glad to sent some. I have donated to Richard's fundraiser, but if you need to get your hands on something fast, please don't hesitate to let us know.

Kath I plan on sending Richard a gift card tomorrow but I also agree with Judy and if you need funds directly to help RD I would be happy to send you money. You have been above and beyond a great friend.

It does sound as if there's an immediate need to get the storage funded and set up vs a future need for Richard to have spending money (as he won't have access to these gift cards that are locked away for a few months), it might make more sense that way, Kath? To the extent you're comfortable handling those finances, that is?

Does Richard get to keep the books we send?

Phoof. (that was a tired sigh)
Poor RD, and go everyone for rallying around. I had so little idea of the extent of the situation! I hope when RD gets back online (HI RD!!!) he will read these messages of support and about the coordination of events to get him sorted and settle again.
*fingers crossed*

Keep crossing Megan... all crossables when you have time.

I have sent my address to those who have offered to send the cards here. IF the money doesn't arrive here on time, it will help a great deal.

Also, Tina has advised me that we will need to see that rd has a lockbox when he gets to the nursing home. I had forgotten that this was her area of expertise. So, While the hospital is keeping his valuables under lock and key, the nursing home will not, and we will have to see to it that is in place wherever he goes. Thanks to Tina! I have never had to handle anything like this, so appreciate any input and advice.

So any cards sent here, and not used for him, I will send to him after that is done. No worries to anyone who has already sent cards. As i said they are safe and sound in a safe and I will contact the social worker today and keep that in the forefront for when he moves.

This whole thing is getting very complicated... I'm doing my best to keep it going smoothly, but ....I think I'm managing that very well.

Also, since an LTer has offered to send funds will be sending enough to cover the move! if that money gets to the account in time.. PLEASE rest assured that any cards or cash will be returned to Richard. Any cash left over will be turned into gift cards and sent.

All I can do is assure you that this is the case.

There is yet another LTer who is going to pay the storage for a while... So that will be taken care of.

Please identify yourselves if you want to... or let me know if it is okay for me to do so.

So things are coming together... everything depends on things out of my control. Mail, money transfers and information on movers and storage...

I will hopefully be getting that information today as one more LTer will be trying to get me that info today. Again..
shout out if you are okay with people knowing who you are.
I will be offline for most of the day as i will be at work.

>162 Chatterbox: Suzanne thanks for posting this. Said what I wanted to say and said it better

Thanks again for doing such a great job on this, Kath.

Adding my thanks, Kath. Such a responsibility!

So back to my question above. I know Richard is getting a lot of little goodies along with cards at the hospital. Is he able to keep his books, etc., that are coming in?

Kath, I want to also say what Joe said (>181 jnwelch:). Please post any request for support you need here, and I'm hoping we will find ways to provide it.

I finally managed to use paypal. It's not easy since I only have a mobile phone. But I managed to get it working using the number for my work place.

Thanks for all the things you are doing, Kath. You are awesome!

OK, I have talked to Kath, and here is what I am going to do.

-- I am getting in touch with Claudia to find out what movers and what storage companies are involved here, so that I can figure out PRECISELY what we're talking about in terms of expenses, also to fine-tune timing. I'll undertake to oversee the removal of the stuff from the house and into a storage unit, the documents signed and passed on along with the key to whoever will be responsible for them (social worker, presumably).
-- I then am somehow going to finance a train trip down to NYC and out to Hempstead to oversee the removal, assuming we can coordinate this.
-- What I cannot do is finance the costs of the movers and the storage.

I will follow up with Kathleen on the details within the next 24 hours, I hope, as soon as there is something more detailed to say. Right now, unless/until we know precisely what we're dealing with in terms of cost/timing, the rest of any logistical discussion falls into the realm of the academic and hypothetical. But when those details are in place, somehow the $$ will need to be there as well. I'm not sure what resources Richard has, but Kathleen will look into that and the other commitments and follow up with me and I'll be sure to find out what forms of payment these various providers accept.

Kath and Suzanne: loving your work. I am sure it is much appreciated from RDs end, and it is really touching to see that all-hands-(where-possible)-on-deck is being applied here.

I am waiting to see if the money that is supposed to hit my account does... Without it, there is no way to pay the bills.

There is still someone who is willing to help storage and is waiting for a gift card to be returned.. one that didn't get to where it was going. That will be one thing. And please.. I am only not using your name because I'm not sure you want to be identified... it is a big deal that you are willing to do that, so do speak up if you want to . This is a huge huge help.

I was supposed to receive $ no later than today from rd for the move. IT has not arrived. Another friend has stepped up to offer help, so I am waiting for that anonymous and generous donor to update me..

Suzanne is in a unique position to be extremely helpful and is doing all that she can, under the circumstances. I am grateful, EXTREMELY grateful.

And right now.. i am just waiting to hear if we have details. And dollars. And time.

So as Suz said, we are going to gather info and see what we've got .

Wow to mckait and Suz for your logistical awesomeness. And what a privilege to be a member of such a caring community. So glad to hear our dear Richard's health needs are being taken care of. Sending love and hugs all around for such a fantastic bunch of people!

I can loan some of the monies my fundraiser gave if it can be re-funded in the next couple of weeks. Would that help?

Here is the update following my conversation with Claudia:

She spent several days cleaning up Richard's room and packing up all his personal belongings. They amounted to 80 boxes (mostly books), 15 bags of clothes, a few boxes of original artwork (which she packed up individually to make sure they could be transported and stored carefully), and a box or so of fragile items, ditto.

These are now ready to be picked up by the movers.

She contacted a moving company, which came in and provided an estimate of $758, for 3 guys, 2 to 4 hours of work. She arranged for a storage facility nearby; the unit will cost $1 for the first month and $160/month thereafter.

She will be there on Saturday to oversee the movers, to follow them to the storage unit, to sign the contract, accept the keys and take them to the hospital and leave them there for Richard's social worker.

She is not, however, willing to pay for the moving and storage costs. That's where she draws the line.

She has passed along ALL the relevant information to Richard and his social worker. Richard apparently is uncomfortable with the cost of the movers. (For what it's worth, I think it might be reasonable in light of the quantity of stuff; it cost me $2,000 to move a truckload of stuff six blocks within Brooklyn, and that was more than a decade ago.) He has passed along that he knows someone with a van or truck that he wants to handle it. Who this is, Claudia doesn't know. She doesn't know how much this person might want to be paid, or how he would be paid.

At this point, Claudia is expecting SOMEONE to show up on Saturday -- whether man in van/truck, or the movers -- to pick up the stuff, at which point everything should go smoothly.

But the missing link right now is the information about payment, which Kathleen is trying to track down. We need to know which firms these are, and whether Richard and/or his social worker has actually requested that they show up, and whether payment arrangements have been made. If they don't, or if payment arrangements haven't been made, that's another kettle of fish.

Richard does have some resources, thanks to disability, and there are other monies floating around, so it may just be a matter of coordinating those. Since Kath has already been talking to the social workers and to Richard, I'm going to step back and let her carry on from here. It's clear, however, that the actual physical logistics of it -- having people around to pick up keys, etc. -- is not an issue at all, and that Claudia is quite prepared to do the stuff that I was going to step in and handle, so no need for me to muddy the waters further.

>162 Chatterbox: I will respect what you have asked Suzanne. I will not change the way I feel about the situation, however.

I am sorry that I vented on a friend's wall. I should have kept my opinions to myself. That said, I will keep all future opinions to myself. Please know that I have worked with elder care and watched folks be mistreated for years and I have a particular tender spot for the older person and disadvantaged on top of Richard being a dear friend.

That is all I will say on the subject.

I was able to talk to Richard today and he sounded very good. He wanted me to tell everyone that he misses you and he is very grateful for all that you have done and are doing.

I told him how much we love him, how much he is well and truly missed and how we are all wanting to reach out and help. I know he was truly touched.

Just a small point: movers are bonded, so if anything went missing, it would be covered. Private individuals aren't usually bonded or insured to cover lost possessions.

>193 tiffin: Yes, that is my feeling about this, too. There are some valuable and fragile items, and Claudia picked a firm of movers that is insured/bonded because of it. She mentioned this issue to the social worker, but ultimately Richard has the final word about how his possessions are handled and transported, and the last information that C had was that he had rejected this choice.

>191 TinaV95: Tina, I wasn't asking for anyone to defer their opinions or change them. Just to be respectful and civil. It's just complicated, and the most important thing for Richard to find the care he needs and a place where he can move forward with his life.

You are all awesome. What a complicated situation. I hope the money shows up where it is supposed to show up. I am sending my mojo your way and awaiting word if there is more that the rest of us can do from our various far flung distances.

>195 maggie1944: Mojo is a Good Thing. There cannot be too much de-tangling Mojo at this point in time!! And it's Kath who has to tackle all the heavy lifting from this point on, alas and alack, dealing with the bureaucracy and social workers, and with a balky Chromebook, yet. So I'm holding up a mirror to deflect all Mojo her way!

This place continues to astound. What an amazing group of people. Resourceful, generous and saintly. Hugs to all!

I wish I lived closer! I could do that move with no problem.

Kudos to Kath and Suz and Tina, and everyone chipping in on this. I'm sure it means a lot to Richard to know he has this kind of support.

>162 Chatterbox: Thanks for posting that. Suz. Always the calming voice of civility and diplomacy. Better to focus on what's truly important and that's to help Richard.

>190 Chatterbox: It's good to know his belongings have been well taken care of. Seems there *had* been a good plan in place for moving/storage. I agree the amount the mover was asking seemed to be reasonable -- especially with those heavy book boxes!

I'm dismayed that RD has scuttled the plan and seems to be delaying on making a choice re: another mover. Fingers crossed and major MOJO to Suz and Kath for getting that on track, finding out who the mover is and how this is going to be paid.

Please keep us posted!

>199 michigantrumpet: To be fair, Marianne, we just don't KNOW what is going on with the choice of mover. Richard has limited assets, so there's that to consider. There is the fact that all of this information is going through social workers, who have a lot of stuff for a lot of clients to juggle, and clearly somewhere along the line bits and pieces of critical information wasn't getting through clearly. At this point, we know that if a choice has been made re a mover, and if there are funds there, then everything else falls into place and should move forward very smoothly indeed. So it's getting clear and coherent info on this that now is crucial, and I'm confident that Kathleen can coax this out of the social workers or ensure that Richard confirm with her the names of the providers so that she can check what forms of payment they accept. That is the sole hurdle.

And then, onwards.

It's really just like unraveling a tangled skein of wool, one knot at a time.

I have nothing but praise and support to offer those of this community who have stepped up and have the willingness, and the capacity, to give Richard some critical help. Yay, Team! I look forward to the day when I see Richard is posting his opinions and experiences here, again.

Suzanne is Spock.

There is a reason she writes about money....

I am going to ask that everyone take a breather right now, because it looks like finances are handled and hopefully things will play out. Suzanne and a couple of other RL friends are going to be handling a lot of things for him. He is fortunate to have them in his life, and just so you know, they are 75ers too.

I think from here out, it is a matter of the plans working out as they need to and I am intending to have faith that they will.

We need to remember Mr Morphy, too... his surgery is coming up.. i have not visited Morphy's thread or even my own much... but I hope things are going well for the Morphys

"... Suzanne is Spock."

Hooray!

>202 mckait:: what a wonderful relief. So thankful that things got sorted out. Parcel incoming!

OK, to set the record straight, I AM NOT SPOCK. I do not have pointy little ears. I am not a Vulcan.

I am just practical. Sometimes.

Claudia has heard from the mover, who has confirmed that he will be there on Saturday (although it seems he was expecting less stuff than RD actually has...) Someone from within our group is getting $$ to Claudia in person this week in NYC and will be reimbursed (fingers and toes crossed) by week's end. There may be a small snafu with the storage -- the social worker/Richard thought that Claudia was organizing/paying for that, for some reason, according to an e-mail that Claudia received today, so Kathleen is going to delve into the question tomorrow with both Richard and social worker and ensure that the storage unit is booked and ready to receive everything Saturday evening.

All I have done is coordinate and facilitate. No money has changed hands (luckily, since I ain't got much TO change hands; I just write about money.)

So yes, as Kathleen says, it's about taking a step back, and waiting.

I'd also say that once these immediate things are paid for, there's probably no immediate need for cash on RD's part. It's likely a bit tricky for Kath to handle his finances and cash donations and juggle that stuff, and even putting stuff in a safe at a hospital is second best. His needs will be met until he's in his permanent home in a month or two's time, after which there will be an ongoing need for some kind of help -- and more importantly, Richard will be able to take advantage of any financial generosity and keep any Visa gift cards secure himself. Right now, he can't do either, personally, and Kath has been juggling a lot already. So perhaps hitting the "hold" button on cash gifts until that time might not be a bad idea.

But no, I am not Spock. More like Mork, really. Nanoo, nanoo.

Well, Nanoo nanoo back at you! And thanks.

Not Spock?! Shazbot!

Sending prayers and positive vibes Richard's way. Praying that things work out - all the way 'round - for the best for everybody. Stella included.

Wow! I haven't been here past two weeks, and I can only applaud everyone who has stepped up to help Richard. I would love to send a GC, or even just a note, Kath can you PM an address? Thanks! Richard, sending you lots of love and smooches.

I spoke with rd when I came in from work. He is happy, getting healthier and grateful beyond words ( hard to imagine rd without words....) for all of the love and friendship and good wishes and gifts .

He wishes that he could get here himself, and will when he can, sooner or later. But for now, he has asked me to tall everyone that he is grateful.

His feet are still bad, he can only stand to talk for short periods of time ( nowhere to sit) and so we have weird run on conversations...

But! Thank you to each and every one from Richard...

:)

He has received some gift cards and other gifts and the valuables are locked up tight and the clothing is available for his use.. and he is quite cozy..
So to those who have sent things to him, or to me, it looks like pretty much everything is getting there. I think Caro had some trouble with a couple of books, but I'm not certain if they eventually got to him or not.

Thank you yet again for being the news conduit, Kath. It is very reassuring. I look forward to the day when he is able to pilot the spaceship once again but for now, you are doing yeoman service.

(-:

Can I be an honorary 75er? I keep coming back here to find out how Richard is doing. We miss him at "What are you reading now," too. I'm so grateful that people have been so generous with pitching in to help! I'm hoping and praying that everything works out and that Richard can come back here himself soon.

Tui...you're welcome :)

Karen... :)

And >213 Coffeehag: absolutely....being a 75er is a state of mind.

>209 mckait: I'm finally free, Kath and I want to call him but I'm sure he's resting comfortably by now!

I'll try to give it a go at a more normal hour tomorrow or Friday. :)

I want to thank everyone who has helped with this difficult situation. I simply want to say that I care about Richard. And, I care about Claudia. I met her at Richard's 50th birthday celebration. She graciously welcomed a rather large group of strangers into her house. Something that I would personally be hesitant to do.

She also repeatedly took people back and forth to the train station. This took a lot of time and energy in addition to all the preparations for the party. The meal prepared was bountifully beautiful. She ensured that Richard had a lovely birthday and she took time to chat with his LT friends.

I want to state that I am having trouble with painting her with a broad black brush. She opened her house to Richard and he lived there. I don't know all the details, and I don't need to know all the details. I know it is her house and she does have the right to make decisions.

I simply know that it is very wrong to blame when there usually are two sides to every story. Please do not misunderstand me. I am not invalidating Richard's feelings. I am simply asking for rational, kind thoughts. I've been a member of this group since 2008. I know how loving, kind generous and wonderful the members are.

For those of you who haven't met her, I simply want to state that Claudia was indeed very gracious, kind and welcoming. Her Aunt was very ill and in the throes of dementia. She validly could have legitimately said it wasn't the time to invite a lot of strangers into her home. She did just the opposite. She made very sure Richard had a wonderful celebration.

That's what I witnessed and experienced. I can't jump on the evil Claudia band wagon and I appreciate the ability to express my feelings and thoughts. Thanks.

I am glad you took the time to tell us of your experience with Claudia, and Richard. I am also glad that it seems as though the moving of his belongings will be handled and he will be given a new place to live and thrive. Whew.

I also want to say that all the positive and warm feeling and good wishes for Richard, and for Mr and Mrs Morphidae, does give witness to what a wonderful, warm, and caring group we find here. Thank you.

You are spot on Karen. This is one of the best things that has happened in my life. Finding this group was like a miracle. So very many times, the outreach and kindness has been off the charts positive.

And, how blessed to have you as part of the group. I so enjoy your participation. I continue to think about you and your health woes. I hope today was a pain free one for you.

Hugs to you.

>216 Whisper1: Thank you for that perspective, Linda. I remember vicariously attending that party through various attendees' posts, and at the time I really didn't understand Richard's living arrangements, although I knew the home was not "his", strictly speaking. I think we all filter our offerings here, to some extent, even in the comfort of this wonderful group of people, and it is best to draw as few conclusions as possible. I don't know what I would do without the connections I have made here, and I have never needed the kind of support the group is so obviously capable of providing in extreme circumstances. It's just become an essential part of my daily life to interact with so many kindred souls. Long may it continue.

Very well said Linda

perhaps Suzanne is Groot?

>221 magicians_nephew: I had to Google that one. And I think not... *rolls eyes, bemusedly*

As a SF character, Groot was loads of fun, Suz. Gave his life for his friends and, like the phoenix, was reborn. But I do think your analytical mind is decidedly Spockish, even if your ears aren't.

I can see several people of my RL acquaintanceship choking back laughter on the "analytical mind" bit. Much less the superhero. And I'm unlikely to die for anything, although OF exhaustion and general fed-up-ed-ness might is certainly on the agenda. Rebirth? Only in a complete do-over please. But tks, Tui.

Haven't been on LT for some time and am sad to read about Richards health problems, but on the other hand sooo happy about you all reaching out for him!

smooches for Richard and hoping all goes well today...

Another one hoping everything works out for Richard with his health and living arrangements and everything else. I think that the efforts made collectively by the group for Richard and Morphy and others is simply remarkable. It is difficult for those of us so far away to help as concretely as those nearer to hand but I trust that we help as we are able.

Three cheers for Kath whose energy, effort, care and integrity continue to astound and also for Suz for stepping into the breach on the ground.

I do think that at least three cheers are in order for @PaulCranswick, as well! He has been very generous and contributed to the rd-fund. With his, and everyone else's help,
Richards belongings will be stored as long as need be and there will most likely funds left over to for getting him settled into his living situation comfortably. The gift cards and clothing, books, money and all sorts of gifts have all made a huge difference.

Three cheers for the 75'ers!

>227 mckait: I will admit to giving Kath a nice but rather early surprise as I gave her a call to discuss helping the Grouchmeister. Have to say the dulcet tones indicate a lady as sweet as she makes absolutely obvious here. xx

This is all such wonderful news! Thank you, all, again! I know Richard's recovery will be speeded by the knowledge that so many folks are pulling for him.

I will admit that it was a surprise, and a wonderful one! Paul has the nicest voice, and the most interesting accent.. I could have listened to him for hours!

Poor guy, I hadn't spoken to anyone yet and I'm sure i dulcet was not quite how I sounded :) But do ring me any time Paul!

The money that has been sent my way by any 75er, has been deposited into an account of mine. I opened a new account for my own money so that could be dedicated to rd funds only.

I am finally home from my errands, making another pot of soup and am going to try again to read, which has been eluding me lately..

>230 mckait: You deserve that soup, and a lot of quiet reading time. I hope you get it.

Just checking in and seeing how RDear is doing. *Hugs*

It sounds as things are coming together for Richard thanks to everyone here.

As Shere Khan says, "Bravo!...." :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rTXL75wutvY

>233 avidmom: And that led me to this...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8N_tupPBtWQ

So glad to hear that things are working out.

Kath, I truly hope you've been able to relax with a good book!

>234 Morphidae: LOL! I love that song; it's a staple in our house. So are the Muppets. I just got finished pasting this on my FB page: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uiirjuMxzPc

I am so glad to hear that things are going well for Richard and, Linda, thank you for sharing your perspective. Wishing everyone here a wonderful weekend!!

Rdear, wishing you a wonderful weekend.

Hurry back! Glad to hear the situation is improving...

So glad things seem to be moving along. I have been out of touch and had no idea things were in such a state for Richard. Although we have never met, he offered me much needed solace when my husband died. Please tell him my thoughts are with him. I am stunned at the great generosity of this group. You are all amazing.

I hope everything worked out yesterday with the move.

Hoping good things happened yesterday. Thanks, too, Linda for sharing your thoughts. This is a special group.

me, too

No one has heard anything about the move, including Richard, so i am calling it a success. No news good news sort of thing. RD is doing well. He is getting good care, the right meds and so. . . is improving. He sounds good, too. So, not much else to say, same message.. he is doing well and is grateful for all of his friends here and there, too.

Thanks, as always, for keeping us in the loop. I hope your weekend was restful. It is cold today.

Hello Richard! I'm so glad you are safe and warm and that your health issues are addressed.

All the best!

I'll shoot off a quick e-mail tomorrow to verify that everything went smoothly with the move, which is the most that I'll be able to manage, and provide an update here whenever I get a confirmation and have a second to do so.

After that, however, I'll bow out of this thread, especially since at this point there seems to be little more that I can contribute that others can't. It seems that some folks took exception to my previous comments requesting civility. I'm glad this thread has remained so; my PMs haven't, alas. Far from it, and I simply choose not to engage on that level.

^ aw, nuts Suz. I'm sorry to hear that.

Hi RD!! Are you back yet? (((hugs)))

I am so sorry to read that the less than civil behavior has moved to PMs. I recently had a problem with a woman who loved to sabatoge and ambush me (in the home owner association environment) only through the emails which went to the Board only. Very dis-spiriting. I found I could, in time, convince myself to remember that it said more about her, and what kind of a person she was, than it said about me and my many errors, omissions, and mistakes. But in the end, her unrelenting criticism and negativity did provide an atmosphere in which I did not wish to continue. I was very glad when my term on the Board was completed and stated that I did not have a thick enough skin to continue. And I was tired of the work, too.

This is all to say that I guess we all encounter some of that type of behavior when we step forward and are willing to take on some tasks in the name of the whole group. I am sorry and I want you to know that it does usually say a good deal more about the "shooter" of those slings and arrows than it does about you.

I thank you very deeply for stepping up and in our name volunteering to support Richard in a time when he was unable to take care of his own belongings. None of us wants to lose everything we own. I know he is relieved to know it all went well.

Thanks to Kath and Suzanne and Paul and all the anonymous others I am so glad to hear that things are settling down and improving for Richard.

You know what? i don't feel well. And the last thing i need to find here is drama. There is plenty of that to go around.

I am starting a new thread. We can carry on there, and we can all be nice. ok?