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One of the nice walks in the Yorkshire Moors is the wonderfully named Hole of Horcum
This one is a bit confessional for me. Hairaa - the title of this poem - is the Mongolian word for "My Love" or "Darling" and more than hints at the nationality of the subject.
Leaves in the tempest we are blown
But still find ourselves holding on.
When words fail we can communicate -
Harmony encouraged from discordant chords.
Understanding achieved as physicality affords;
Expressing ourselves, soundless yet sensate.
Salt specks on raging oceans we are tossed
But still find ourselves holding on.
How our fates entwine
You with that feline grace
Love's light upon your face
Love's light upon mine.
As the world races by we seek moments
But still find ourselves holding on.
From the basement to the 18th floor
And our haven of peace
Where passions unleash
Behind that serenely closed door.
Haira, I will face down all of life's travails
That we still find ourselves holding on.
ME & MINE
I was 50 in September 2016 and have enough unread reading material on my shelves to take me safely into my seventies! I have lived in Malaysia since 1994 and have a long suffering (but never quietly) wife, Hani (sometimes referred to as SWMBO), three children Yasmyne (19), Kyran (17) and Belle (12), as well as a supporting cast which includes my book smuggling assistants Azim (also my driver and a part time bouncer who, despite his muscles, lives in almost as much fear of my wife as I do) and Erni (my housemaid, almost-little sister and the worlds greatest coffee maker). On this thread you'll probably read as much about the vagaries of life, book buying and group related statistics as you do about the actual books themselves.
I have added 3,000 books to my shelves in four years but late last year I decided to sort my books from the 4,500 books unread into the essentials of 900 fiction and 180 non-fiction books and I will try to make a serious dent in that list this year.
I will also be reading, as usual, plenty of poetry which is another passion and, as you have seen above, a faltering pastime.
1. The Magician's Wife by Brian Moore (1997) 229 pp
2. Maus I : My Father Bleeds History by Art Spiegelman (1986) 159 pp
3. Midwinter Sacrifice by Mons Kallentoft (2006) 440 pp
4. Out in the Midday Sun : The British in Malaya 1880-1960 by Margaret Shennan (2000) 471 pp
5. Blood Child and Other Stories by Octavia E. Butler (2003) 214 pp
6. The Assault by Harry Mulisch (1985) 185 pp
7. 100 Prized Poems : Twenty-Five Years of the Forward Books (2016) 176 pp
8. The Broken Shore by Peter Temple (2005) 400 pp
9. Spring Flowers, Spring Frost by Ismail Kadare (2000) 182 pp
10. The Hare with Amber Eyes by Edmund de Waal (2010) 352 pp
11. Varamo by Cesar Aira (2002) 89 pp
12. The House in Paris by Elizabeth Bowen (1935) 250 pp
13. The Crystal Cave by Mary Stewart (1970) 456 pp
14. A Blaze of Autumn Sunshine : The Last Diaries by Tony Benn (2013) 294 pp
15. City of Secrets by Stewart O'Nan (2016) 190 pp
16. The Colour of Magic by Terry Pratchett (1983) 210 pp
17. The Poetry of Jaroslav Seifert by Jaroslav Seifert (1998) 246 pp
18. Dogs at the Perimeter by Madeleine Thien (2011) 253 pp
19. Up the Junction by Nell Dunn (1963) 133 pp
20. Middle Passages by Kamau Brathwaite (1992) 120 pp
21. Maus II : A Survivor's Tale : And Here My Troubles Began (1991) 136 pp
22. Sapiens : A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari (2011) 466 pp
23. Fences by August Wilson (1985) 101 pp
24. No Great Mischief by Alistair MacLeod (1999) 262 pp
25. Seabiscuit by Laura Hillenbrand (2001) 399 pp
26. Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi (2003) 343 pp
27. Strange Shores by Arnaldur Indridason (2010) 296 pp
28. The Confessions of Nat Turner by William Styron (1967) 415 pp
29. When I Was Old by Georges Simenon (1970) 452 pp
30. On the Black Hill by Bruce Chatwin (1982) 262 pp
31. And the Mountains Echoed by Khaled Hosseini (2013) 444 pp
32. The Cry by Helen Fitzgerald (2013) 307 pp
33. I Shall Not Hate by Izzeldin Abuelaish (2010) 236 pp
34. Ariel by Sylvia Plath (1965) 81 pp
35. Shout at the Devil by Wilbur Smith (1968) 391 pp
36. A Perfidious Distortion of History : The Versailles Peace Treaty and the Success of the Nazis by Jurgen Tampke (2017) 269 pp
37. Doctor Who and the Web of Fear by Terrance Dicks (1976) 150 pp
38. The Haw Lantern by Seamus Heaney (1987) 51 pp
39. Then by Morris Gleitzman (2009) 196 pp
40. March: Book One by John Lewis (2013) 121 pp
41. Selected Poems : 1940-1982 by Norman Nicholson (1982) 78 pp
42. Doomsday Book by Connie Willis (1992) 587 pp
43. The Englishman's Boy by Guy Vanderhaeghe (1997) 402 pp
44. Castle Rackrent by Maria Edgeworth (1800) 97 pp
45. Disgrace by J.M. Coetzee (1999) 220 pp
46. And the Weak Suffer What They Must? by Yaris Varoufakis (2016) 246 pp
47. Il Postino by Antonio Skarmeta (1985) 112 pp
48. How to Fight Islamist Terror from the Missionary Position by Tabish Khair (2012) 190 pp
49. 1914 by Jean Echenoz (2012) 118 pp
50. Resistance by Carla Jablonski (2010) 121 pp
>18 Ameise1: Thanks Barbara. It is a quiet one. I took Belle for pancakes in the early afternoon but Hani, Yasmyne and Tobias went to Johor Bahru yesterday and will only be back in time for supper.
>19 msf59: I think you would like the place Mark. Plenty of scope for ornithology.
>20 avatiakh: Thank you, Kerry. xx
Hi Paul and congratulations on your new thread.
I think most of us have much darker thoughts than we share here on LT. I admire you for the way you're weathering the work crises. Lesser men might have just given up and run screaming into the night, but your devotion to your family and dependents has kept you working hard to come through as best as you can. That's all any of us can do, really, is try as hard as we can for the things that are most important to us. I hope that the scares of this year are a thing of the past and your family returns to its normal happy state sooner than soon!
Happy New thread, Paul! I'm going back to the last one to catch up.
I know that this is far from the best year you've had, but I too admire your tenacity and grit, your care for those trusting in you, and your mostly optimistic attitude in the face of some daunting circumstances. Much love and encouragement to you.
>22 karenmarie: Thank you for that lovely message, Karen. There are stresses and strains which have impacted Hani and myself over difficult days which will test us and the nature of our relationship in times to come. Hani has sought advice and succour from friends (male friends) via the telephone (platonically I firmly believe) and we are having some issues to work through which I hope and believe that we will. She has said things to me in the heat of the moment that would have broken less entrenched relationships but I think it is pretty obvious that I love my family dearly and won't simply give up.
>23 bohemima: Gail my friends here have provided a haven for me to turn to on so many occasions. I don't think that I would have come through nearly as well without the 75ers. xx
Happy new thread, Paul. I echo the messages above and admire your strength, resolve and devotion to what really matters. I wish you more of the same and may the light at the end of the tunnel approach at increasing speed so that plans fall rightly into their proper places, finally.
PS - that gorgeous topper looks other-worldly!
Happy new thread, Paul. I love your toppers. I want to visit all of them!
Happy new thread, Paul. I hope that this one finds a renewed level of happiness in your life. Big hugs and love the topper!!
Happy new thread, Paul! Hope the stresses in your life calm down soon and give you some time to relax!
Happy new thread, Paul! Another lovely thread topper. Wishing you well.
The picture of Hole of Horcum was intriguing enough that I looked it up on Wikipedia. It has a very interesting geologic history. I will have to add this to the places to visit list. It looks like a great area for a gentle hike. Not at all like the one Ellen took a year ago on the West Highlands Trail.
Best wishes (and hugs) for the best possible resolution to all issues, Paul.
>38 weird_O: Why is the theme song from "Rawhide" in my head now?
Happy new thread, Paul.
We all go through difficult times from time to time, surviving through hard times can make us stronger.
I hope brighter times in every aspect are ahead of you!
>36 BLBera: Remember Beth the first dozen or so of my thread toppers were Malaysian! I look forward to your visit my dear and can assure you that if you made the trip to either place I would make sure that I was there to guide you to all the places. x
>37 ronincats: Thank you Roni. Hani came back last night and was quite even tempered She, myself, Yasmyne, Tobias and Belle (Kyran had already eaten) went for a seafood supper which is always guaranteed to make her happy!
>38 weird_O: Nice to know Bill!
>39 laytonwoman3rd: Hahaha Linda and you have just put it in my head too!
>40 FAMeulstee: What doesn't kill you and all that, Anita, I suppose. Maybe I am just a little emotionally fraught considering everything I have had to struggle with in the last year. It just seems that, when the rock I was clinging to was my wife and family, to have come through the worst of the business stuff and to then realise how much it has impacted upon my wife makes it hard to bear.
Happy new thread, Paul. I hope everything turns out for the best for you on the home front.
>39 laytonwoman3rd: Verry interestink, Linda. As I typed the message, I was seeing the Blues Brothers singing that song for the upteenth time in that country-western dive. Beer bottles crashing against the chicken-wire stretched across the stage. Rolling, rolling, rolling...
Oh! Hi, Paul. What kinda dive you running here? Shattered bottles all over the place. It is a good place to blow off steam though. Thanks for having us, mate.
The beautiful Hole of Horcum ranks 11th place in 100 Rude Britain names. Wiki Link.
>43 PaulCranswick: What doesn't kill you and all that I suppose
Not exactly, Paul, what doesn't kill can disable, alter, strengthen, or ruin lives. Or do that to those close to us.
We want to keep our loved ones from the storm, but we can't always protect them. Then we can only hope the mess can be cleared out, without too much damage done...
Happy new thread, Paul! Now that things have turned the corner in your work life, with some care and thought I am sure you can bring your home life back into balance.
>46 weird_O: Bill, even after one heck of a tiring and busy day, you can always succeed in making me smile. I can remember what LT was like before you joined us but......it is better now.
>47 m.belljackson: Hahaha trust you, Marianne. Yep, I found it here:
Of course Cocks in Cornwall wins hands down or should I say off.
>50 karenmarie: Thank you Karen. I will definitely be reading Amok next month by the way.
>51 foggidawn: I will be trying to Foggi for sure. It is going to take time to have Hani's confidence back again to what it once was. She is now suffering a little from panic attacks which are actually more than a little scary.
Hi Paul, like you, as Hani is your rock, Karen is mine and after 35 years together and 33 years come this Friday as my darling wife I would not be without her. We have had things come along that have tested us but together we have overcome and got stronger as you and Hani will. We started married life with me being on strike in the 84/85 miner's dispute and when I decided to go back before the end she was with me 100%. I was more afraid for her, my parents who lived in Sharlston and hers than myself and since then things seem to go fine and then something comes along to pull the rug from under our feet. Things take time to settle back to where they were but they get there and your love is the glue that binds things together and it will not break.
We have not had the same things happen but love does conquer all mate and as long as she knows that then everything will heal and you will be back as you were. Take it from me mate, a good partnership is all that is needed and on Friday I will look back on the day in 1984 that Karen became my wife like it was yesterday and I would do it all again and again if I could just to have the years back but will look forward to many more anniversaries to come. We both send our love and best wishes to you both mate and wish we could be near you to be a shoulder if you need one.
Definitely a laugh out loud link!
(some I didn't get - like Prince Albert Court...)
and, glad you stopped at three "hahaha" since
PEARLS BEFORE SWINE said five (I think, or 6?) of them means you're drunk...
>53 PaulCranswick: - There's *Trump Street* on that list!!? No wonder it's out of favour though I see that list was actually composed long before the orange gasbag came onto the political radar
>55 PaulCranswick: I'm so sorry to hear that Hani is having panic attacks. My daughter has suffered from panic attacks (not so much recently as she's on anti-anxiety medication) and they are absolutely terrifying and heartbreaking to watch. Daughter's called me a couple of times in the middle of one and all I can do is listen, try to understand what's causing them to try to interject some balance, and say "Breathe", "It will be okay, I promise you", and "Take another deep breath". I hope that these become a thing of the past for Hani soon.
I'll be interested in hearing your opinion of Amok.
I'm sorry to hear that you and Hani are having a tough go of it, Paul. I hope that things improve for both of you soon.
Happy new thread, Paul.
Having spent a little bit of time with you and Hani, I am very confident that this is but a wee bump in the road (sharp though it may be) and that you will weather through this because it's clear to all who you share your lives with that there is a great love between you. We all deal with stress in different ways, and someone told me a long time ago that we often hurt most the ones we love dearly with words and actions because we know they will forgive us. I send you lots and lots of big hugs.
>56 drneutron: Thanks Jim.
>57 johnsimpson: Thank you for sharing that, John. It is also obvious to me the genuine love and affection that you and Karen enjoy. My bonds with Hani are deep ones indeed but we do face serious challenges. I hope that we will come through them together.
>58 m.belljackson: I must admit that Prince Albert Court has me stumped a little too.
>59 jessibud2: Trump in England means to fart which in the case of the United States President is pretty much on point.
>60 karenmarie: I think that I have made every effort over the years to understand my lovely difficult wife. She more than makes up for difficult days when she is on song and she has the biggest heart of anyone I know. She is very very difficult to live with though at the same time!
>61 kidzdoc: I hope so Darryl. I do know though that she greatly esteems your company on
>62 cameling: we often hurt most the ones we love dearly with words and actions because we know they will forgive us.
In our marriage you have probably hit upon the problem because Hani hurts with words whilst I can ruin things by actions.
Don't ask how I know, I probably read it somewhere, a Prince Albert is an intimate piercing.
>65 PaulCranswick: One of my fondest memories of 2016 was the day that you, Hani, Debbi, Joe, I and several other LTers met in London. I had many great days with LT friends in the US, England, the Netherlands and Spain last year, but none was better than that one.
>69 kidzdoc: Thanks for again putting that up my dear friend. It was indeed a lovely day.
All I could think of was that old call the drugstore to ask "Do you have Prince Albert in a can?" joke,
which did not seem to relate.
Looks like it sure doesn't work here and I won't check WIKI which
is where I found the rating for The Hole of Horcum...though I am
still mystified by Albert's connection to the procedure...
Would Hani be happier with a job outside the home to occupy unhappy thoughts?
>71 m.belljackson: According to legend Prince Albert, husband of Queen Victoria, had one so he wouldn't ruin the line of his trousers.
^^You know I LOVE those Meet Up memories, Paul. I sure wish I could have joined that illustrious crew.
Well, the plot thickens (apologies all around) -
does legend say The Prince was spectacularly (or frighteningly) well-endowed
or did he just wear his pants too tight?
>71 m.belljackson: Mmmm I can only assume that it relates to some sort of bonding of Albert to Victoria but I am only guessing. Apparently the opposite sex can have Princess Albertina adornment!
>72 m.belljackson: Quite possibly Marianne she would. Part of the problem is that she has a wrong but perceived lack of self-esteem which would be difficult for even those who know her to realise.
>73 jnwelch: Thank you Joe. They are great memories aren't they? Hopefully we will relive them again sometime soon.
>74 amanda4242: Wow, Amanda, I didn't know that. Wouldn't he have been better advised to have gotten himself a slightly more skilful tailor?!
>75 msf59: Indeed, Mark. I am sure that we will get our meet-up one fine day in the not too distant future.
>76 m.belljackson: Well it does appear that he was a well endowed individual but I cannot find anything particularly conclusive that he had such a piercing.
>77 weird_O: Just stated the blooming obvious, Bill.
If The Prince was such a prude (as many contributors to the link you provided somehow knew),
it likely would not have come to that impasse.
This was not a conversation I expected to have today!
ETA: or any day, really.
Okay, back to our usual staid personas:
here's a gentleman from the 17th Century to add to your list
of Yorkshire Authors - Andrew Marvell, satirist and "exquisite poet"
of "To his Coy Mistress," was born and raised in Hull.
From my $1.00 purchase of Peter Quenelle's
A HISTORY OF ENGLISH LITERATURE.
What did I stumble into, having neglected all of LT for a week or so?????
Peace to you, dear Paul, and to dear Hani.
Well, I have learned more about genital piercing than I ever expected to in this lifetime.....
There's never a dull moment over here, for sure.
Interesting topic here ... um, hem... anyway, Hi Paul!
>69 kidzdoc: Love the meet-up photos!!
Smiling my way through catching up with your thread.
I screwed up all my courage and googled Prince Albert piercings. Luckily Wikipedia had more than enough info to satisfy my curiosity.
Hugs for the places that hurt. May they get much better soon!
>89 LizzieD: I think that we'll be ok, Peggy, despite some fractious moments and difficult days. xx
>90 EBT1002: I was thinking about you actually when I put up the picture, Ellen, as to how much you would enjoy the walks in the Yorkshire Moors.
I am in reasonable fettle and definitely in recuperation mode!
>91 karenmarie: Karen, hand on heart, penile piercing is a subject that I never thought would surface on this thread. I am far too squeamish to have considered the topic!
>92 ChelleBearss: Hi Chelle. My wife has a friend who has multiple piercings including a vaginal one (I have that on good authority and cannot bear first hand testimony) and according to her the most painful piercing was to her navel.
>93 streamsong: Thank you Janet. I admit to doing that selfsame googling when the subject materialised.
Hi there! Well, aren't we talking about novel, I mean navel things here!! LOL Paul, it's always interesting around here. LOL
Well, give us fair warning if you plan to put up the other 99 UK fun named locations.
>100 m.belljackson: Hahaha maybe I will wait awhile! UK place names are great fun actually. I used to work with a young chap named Peter Gotobed. Imagine my merriment when I realised his family hailed from the Fenland village of Little Snoring!!
Hani and I are a little sad today. Our eldest child, Yasmyne, went off this evening to Norway to spend some time with her boyfriend's family. Here they are at dinner with us yesterday.
To balance your sad feelings, note that Norway seems to be a safer place than either England or Malaysia...
what an impressively handsome couple!
I'm glad to hear that on Tuesday you were ... in reasonable fettle and definitely in recuperation mode!
My daughter pierced her tongue when she was 19 and didn't tell us. Then she ended up in the emergency ward with a whole body rash and didn't know why. She asked me if she was allergic to anything and I said sure - when she was little she had a nickel rash. I had to put clear nail polish over Every Single Snap on Every Single Piece of Clothing she owned after Every Single Washing. I never thought to mention it to her because she basically stopped wearing snaps. She still didn't mention the piercing and we only found out 2 years later when I saw a flash of bright green one day when she smiled. Then she said she'd gotten her tongue pierced and the nickel rash explained itself - she had gotten a nickel stud. She now uses plastic.
I'm sorry that Yasmyne is away visiting boyfriend's family in Norway - it sounds serious if both families are getting to meet the boyfriend/girlfriend!
>102 PaulCranswick: Your daughter and her boyfriend are quite stunning!
>103 m.belljackson: They are travelling up to Oresund which is Tobias' home town. Scandinavia is a part of the world that Hani and I have both wanted to travel and our jet-setting daughter has beaten us to it.
>104 karenmarie: Karen, I couldn't imagine doing any piercing myself but the tongue would have certainly frightened me. Glad that the consequences for your daughter weren't more serious.
Yasmyne and Tobias already seem like an old couple in that they seem to be bickering constantly but affectionately!
>105 ChelleBearss: Thanks Chelle. xx
Ah, it's so hard when they start traveling further and further afield. As much as we want them to explore and have divine adventures, their absence leaves just a bit too much silence.
Gorgeous photo of the two of them and I hope they bring you a present from their travels.
>107 EBT1002: I am surprisingly quite comfortable with Yasmyne travelling so long as she has company and stays safe. Hani misses her eldest daughter tremendously especially when she is less enamoured of her husband than is usual.
>49 FAMeulstee: aah, good advice.
Paul, you have a lot of supporters here!
>102 PaulCranswick: BYT's! (beautiful young things)
I'm sure they will have a safe and fun trip- and you'll see her/them again soon.
I'll avoid extending conversation on genital piercings...oop! I just extended it! ;) I just have my tragus pierced. I'd think about getting the other side done too, but recall to vividly the issues with sleeping on my side after the first one.
Eta: auto correct! What a pain
>109 LovingLit: I am a lucky fellow, Megan.
They do make a striking couple even though I am a little biased!
OK I will admit to looking up (and rather worriedly) to see what the heck the tragus is! I am a little bit relieved in truth. Hope it didn't hurt you overly.
>110 PaulCranswick: ha ha!! Just don't ever do the image search before the text one, you can't unseen some things!
Tragus is a safe one though, even if the noise of the needle going through the gristle was pretty bad... :)
My life is a horrid mess at the moment. Hani and I are struggling to stay together for a multitude of reasons but which largely stem from events a few years ago which keep haunting us.
I am so sorry that I have been an absentee landlord here somewhat but I am more than a little down in the dumps and will struggle for a while to contribute as I used to.
I have only read one book this month and read virtually nothing for two weeks. Despondency is my way of life for the time being.
Failed to see that the Booker longlist is out. I have three of them on the shelves already and may try to read some of them - I can make no predictions about my ability to do so at present but I would like to.
For the one per cent of the group that is unaware; here is the longlist.
he 2017 longlist:
4 3 2 1 by Paul Auster (US) (Faber & Faber)
Days Without End by Sebastian Barry (Ireland) (Faber & Faber)
History of Wolves by Emily Fridlund (US) (Weidenfeld & Nicolson)
Exit West by Mohsin Hamid (Pakistan-UK) (Hamish Hamilton)
Solar Bones by Mike McCormack (Ireland) (Canongate)
Reservoir 13 by Jon McGregor (UK) (4th Estate)
Elmet by Fiona Mozley (UK) (JM Originals)
The Ministry Of Utmost Happiness by Arundhati Roy (India) (Hamish Hamilton)
Lincoln in the Bardo by George Saunders (US) (Bloomsbury Publishing)
Home Fire by Kamila Shamsie (UK-Pakistan) (Bloomsbury Circus)
Autumn by Ali Smith (UK) (Hamish Hamilton)
Swing Time by Zadie Smith (UK) (Hamish Hamilton)
The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead (US) (Fleet)
Can only say that I have my fingers crossed that you get through this tough time.
..and have to share this link to an article about Jacob Rees-Mogg & the names he's given his children... 'has such traditional tastes that he is rumoured to wear double-breasted pyjamas.'
>113 PaulCranswick: Paul--Sorry that life is not easy right now. Best, best wishes to you. Hug, hug, hug!!
Sorry to hear that your life is so upside-down. Sending lots of positive vibes.
>113 PaulCranswick: So sorry to hear that you are going through such difficulties, Paul. Sending positive vibes.
Ah, Paul, I am so, so sorry that you and Hani are struggling.
Remember to take care of yourself physically.
Hugs to you both.
(P.S. I am among the ignorant 1%..... thanks for sharing.)
Sorry to hear that things are so difficult for the two of you right now. Hope it all turns around soon.
Oh, Paul, I'm so sorry that you're troubled right now. Big hugs, friend, and I hope that things sort themselves out in the best possible way very soon.
We spent most of the afternoon with friends at the home of my Japanese friend as we were hosted by his wife (he is working in Thailand at the moment) four couples joined and we spent a good few hours enjoying each others company and telling stories. Hani came home tired but much more happy and is presently sleeping (for the first time in a few days, actually).
As some will know we do have something of a combustible relationship and she is a hot tempered but loving woman. I have been under the kosh somewhat over the last few years trying to rescue my businesses and keep the family afloat. Having pretty much achieved that I was devastated by Hani telling me that when things are in order again financially we had better go our separate ways. She has a habit of saying things she doesn't mean in the heat of the moment and I took this to be one of them but she repeated the message a few times. To put it mildly I went off the rails completely and it has of course made a difficult situation much worse.
We are sort of being forced to address our underlying problems and I am certain she is the person I want to grow old alongside. I do hope that she sees things the same way eventually. To be clear she is not seeking me to leave the home or anything like that at the moment but we are very awkward with each other.
I love her to bits and I know that she is a very proud and brave woman. For those who know her well and communicate with her on Facebook, I can assure you that you'll see no hint of our difficulties there as she hasn't even confided in her close RL friends that we have anything other than the most perfect of unions. Please dear friends if you do communicate with her on FB don't make reference to our troubles as my being a "blabbermouth" is just another black mark against me.
>115 amanda4242: Thank you, Amanda. xx
>116 avatiakh: What great names, Kerry! Rees-Mogg is really a stuffed shirt but a likeable and intelligent one. My politics and his are certainly in no way attuned but I do think he is a good man. Thanks for the kind words of support my good friend.
>117 mahsdad: Thanks Jeff.
>118 Berly: Those hugs are very gratefully received, Kimmers!
>119 Ameise1: Thank you dear Barbara. LT makes me less topsy-turvy at least.
>120 SandDune: Of course you are one of the group that has had the pleasure of meeting both Hani and I together and - if I am not mistaken - along with John Simpson and Megan - the only one who has met my tribe en masse. If you recall we were clearly happy together as a group in those days and I am trying to get us back to that situation.
>121 jessibud2: Thank you Shelley. As an asthmatic, I am at least very aware of the need to try and control my breathing. I must admit though yesterday driving off to my project site, I was thinking to myself that life seemed such a pointless exercise only to remember that my daughters, son and, yes, my SWMBO need me so.
>122 karenmarie: I am physically quite well at the moment, Karen, which is somewhat surprising actually!
I am pleased at least that I was able to bring the Bookers to your attention. xx
>123 Fourpawz2: Thank you Charlotte. It is lovely to see you back posting here my friend. xx
>124 scaifea: I wish that I could read, Amber. I have hardly read a page in three weeks. I have never read less in thirty five years and my huge stock of books are looking down at me from shelves, wardrobes, cupboards and piles with something approaching contempt at the moment.
Thanks for being a pal.
>125 PaulCranswick: Sorry to see you and Hani are having difficulties. Hopefully over time you can warm to each other again.
>130 ChelleBearss: Probably we have always been a little too warm, Chelle. Just looked in on her and she is sleeping peacefully. Love ought to conquer all but is it always enough?
Hi, Paul. Sorry to hear about the RL difficulties. I hope you both can work this out. Sending caring & healing vibes from the Great Midwest!
>132 msf59: The Great Midwest is certainly a place I would like to visit and soon dear buddy. Thanks for stopping by, Mark, and keeping the threads zinging whilst so many of us have been treading water.
My daughter is a Marriage and Family therapist - it sounds like a third highly intelligent and compassionate person
would be good to meet with. You have weathered too many crisis-es alone.
>134 m.belljackson: I think that you are 100% right about that Marianne. I have told Hani that I am more than happy to go to counselling with her to help to find a good way forward for us both.
Hi Paul, sorry to hear that things are not too good with you and Hani, when Karen and I met you all you were a happy bunch and hopefully that will return mate. It would be a shame to lose what you had together especially with the business turmoil you have gone through over quite a period which cannot have helped the situation. I have not mentioned anything to Karen as she converses with Hani on FB and I wouldn't want her to slip up but we both thought you would go into your dotage together as me and Mrs S hope to do. I think Marianne is probably right in suggesting a third party to help as that is what we have suggested to Rob with his problems.
Sending love and hugs to you both and that things slowly start to heal and you can recoup your lovely, loving relationship.
Sorry to read you and Hani are going through such rough times with, Paul. I hope you two can work this out...
Sorry to hear about your troubles, Paul. I am probably the worst person to give advice but having a counsellor to help get to the root of things sounds like a good plan.
>136 johnsimpson: I am sure that Karen and yourself will make that dotage ambition John! We will try I am sure to work things out but Hani needs a little space at the moment, I think.
>137 FAMeulstee: Thank you, Anita. I am getting somewhat used to tough times!
>138 BLBera: Thanks for your supportive post, Beth. xx
>139 drneutron: Thanks Jim. My friends here and elsewhere certainly play a part in keeping me sane and her friends are extremely good to Hani and I am grateful in the extreme for their love and support of her - even when they don't fully realise how much it is needed.
>140 Familyhistorian: I am prepared to have a third party help Hani and myself. I am not so sure about her yet. Thanks, Meg.
Sorry to hear about your current troubles, Paul. Don't beat yourself up over not reading, on top of everything else. The books will always be there when you are in the frame of mind for them.
My sympathy, too, Paul. You and Hani are great together, so I know you'll find a way.
A couple in my white bread hometown have named their children Scholastica and Benidictia. Both named for obscure saints. Now they have another child on the way, so people are wondering what obscure saint will be on the birth certificate this time.
Hey Paul, so sorry to hear things haven't been going so well. Sending my best wishes, and hope for you. >128 PaulCranswick: There is a point, and you are valued here too.
I have seen flowers come in stony places
And kind things done by men with ugly faces
And the gold cup won by the worst horse at the races,
So I trust too.
Hugs to you, Paul. I'm so sorry you're going through a bad patch, just when you've managed to climb over the financial hurdles. A good counselor could help you guys talk things out in a neutral setting, and perhaps allow each of you to find a way back to rowing your marital boat together in the same direction. Or perhaps a short vacation somewhere close by could be the break you need together?
Paul, my friend! I am so sorry to read of the rift you are experiencing right now with Hani. I want you to know that my husband Dom and I split up for two years almost ten years ago. I knew he had to move out for the sake of my daughters. They were being subjected to too much fighting between us and they were still young. I knew that I loved him but I knew it had to be done. I was so devastated I cried and cried and wanted nothing more than to be back with him but he had personal problems that I thought he would never resolve, even for me who he claimed to love and for our children whom he claimed he had no wish to hurt. But we did work things out and I love him as much if not more than I did then. I also learned to be a kinder person which was his issue with me. I was very capable of being a verbal harridan and there was no arguing with me, I promise you that. I was quite the wordsmith and used them like a weapon. (I think you mentioned that Hani can be hurtful sometimes with what she says. I know I used my words to bring him pain because I felt so powerless to make things right between us, and wanted to punish him.) It quickly became shouting and we resolved nothing. We did try counseling but if I'm honest what really worked was that we promised each other we would work on the issues we brought to each other, and we did. But it might help to get suggestions on how to listen to each other and an objective referee often helps to turn your arguments into discussions. Hang in there, buddy! PS. Things are better here for me although I still cry when I think about what happened with my dogs. But we are doing okay living with our friends and have had some good laughs together. We are still looking for a place of our own, though.
Sorry to read of your troubles Paul, I hope you and Hani can sort it out. Take it slowly.
>148 benitastrnad: The naming of children is an interesting subject, Benita. We came up with Kyra Yasmyne Amanda for our first born after much debate and then proceeded to use the same initials for our next two. Kyran Yousuf Adrian and Karyn Ysabelle Amylea. Hani is responsible for the spellings!
>149 charl08: A nice surprise, Charlotte, to be greeted by John Masefield this early morning! Thanks for the kind words and sentiments - I am quite determined that somehow we will get through this intact if a little battered.
>150 cameling: Thanks Caro. I have suggested a holiday together but Hani has decided to go on holiday with a close friend and she will go off to Sabah and Sarawak next week for a few days. She believes that separate counselling would be of more benefit than joint counselling and I am mulling this over.
>151 mmignano11: Lovely to hear from you Mary Beth and thank you for the kind advice. I am against moving out actually as I don't think it would lead to my coming back. Hani told me that she doesn't want to be separated from me but the issues we have certainly do need a lot of work.
I am glad to see that you are coping after that dreadful incident with your dogs. xxx
>152 Caroline_McElwee: That is very observant, Caroline. Actually one of my biggest faults is to try and rush to solve things and force their resolution. I am trying my utmost to give Hani time and space such that we can come to terms with each other properly.
Just an unsolicited opinion here but speaking from experience, separate counselling is often helpful for a variety of reasons, but if the problem is between 2 people in a couple, couple counselling is, I think, necessary. How else to resolve issues that involve both parties? I will not relate my own experiences except to say that if one half of a couple does not have an interest in working together for the couple, well, it makes a tough situation harder
>155 jessibud2: Personally, Shelley, I agree with you but with Hani I believe it is incremental steps. She has anger management issues, panic attack issues, self-worth issues and my own issues relate to coming to terms with a relationship that quite suddenly ceased its full dimensions a number of years ago. I blame myself actually as work distracted me and I should have tried much harder.
One of the things funnily enough that has hurt me as much as most things is that Hani had ceased for the longest time to cook for the house, abrogating responsibility for this into the capable hands of Erni.
She cooked my dinner last night which touched me immensely.
Paul--Thanks for posting the challenges and taking care of us here at LT even in the midst of all you are going through. Sending love and hugs to you and to Hani.
It is funny and perhaps a-typical of our little troupe that I am firmly of the view that, if only I can get my reading back on track, everything else will be fine.
Sending love to you both. I'll say that I agree with Hani on the incremental steps re: counseling. She or you might more easily express any anger or disappointment in separate sessions, perhaps get some light on those factors, and then come together as a couple to forge forward as full partners.
My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time.
>164 bohemima: That is wise, Gail and I will certainly be following her in the idea she has put forward.
Sending love and hugs to you and Hani, Paul. And I will second Gail's suggestion in >164 bohemima: - if Hani feels individual counselling will be beneficial at the moment that may be the best way to go for now and then you both may feel ready to have some counselling together if still needed.
>166 souloftherose: Thank you Heather. She is a wise, if often difficult, woman and I will follow her wishes.
>168 Berly: Incremental steps dear Kimmers. Tuesday is done and I am looking forward to Wednesday. xx
Stopping by for a quick visit and very sorry to read about the troubles you and Hani are going through. Here is hoping that August will be a more positive month for both of you.
>170 lkernagh: Thank you, Lori. I am very much hoping that August is a good month in so many ways for me and all of us.
July Month in Review:
A disastrous month to be honest.
Books finished : 1 : The Endless Steppe by Esther Hautzig.
Nothing much else to report reading wise, other than started probably 20 books some of which I read a couple of pages and set aside and some of which I made some progress.
Now to August!
Good evening, Paul. I hope all is well with you.
Random Q: Do you ever read popcorn? And, if so, what is popcorn to you?
>173 brodiew2: Hi Brodie. I am struggling on!
It is not often that I am flummoxed completely by a question but you have got me with that one - I honestly have no idea what "reading popcorn" means. Please clarify, buddy.
August Reading Plans
After the desperate state of my reading affairs for July, I am not setting myself the most onerous of tasks for August.
Books to Complete
1 Miss Buncle's Book by D.E. Stevenson (BAC)
2 Song Yet Sung by James McBride (AAC)
3 South Riding by Winifred Holtby
4 Count Belisarius by Robert Graves
5 The Talented Mr. Ripley by Patricia Highsmith
6 A Tale for the Time Being by Ruth Ozeki
7 The Rehearsal by Eleanor Catton (Around the World in 80 Books)
AROUND THE WORLD IN 80 BOOKS
8 Sputnik Sweetheart by Haruki Murakami
9 Amok by Stefan Zweig
10 The Trouble With Poetry by Billy Collins
11 The Face of Battle by John Keegan
12 The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead
I think that is achievable.
HA! No worries, Paul. By popcorn, I mean more popular fiction; summer reads, bestsellers, perhaps, even genre fiction. That's what I meant. ;-)
Nah - you need MORE Challenges - join the 2017 Non-fiction Reading - this month, it's about what you've been curious about,
which will likely overlap what you have planned.
>178 m.belljackson: I do sometimes join the non-fiction challenge, Marianne and will coincide the reading if at all possible.
The Non-Fiction challenge is of course administered by Suz (Chatterbox) and I noticed yesterday that she and Anita are still kicking up a storm and are still neck and neck for most books read amongst the top 140 threads posting wise.
Suz had 247 books as of yesterday &
Anita had 246
>177 PaulCranswick: Very good, Paul. Archer is good stuff. I've listened to a few of his over the years. Nothing new, mind you. If you get a chance, try A Twist in the Tale. I love this collection of short stories. I may be time to revisit it as it was a long time ago. I also enjoyed False Impression.
Or you could try Kafka on the Shore...just saying. Feel the love; not the pressure!!
Hi, Paul! Wishing you well in this troublous time.
I've scaled back my list of planned reads for August myself — I don't anticipate a big drop in reading, but interlibrary loan books, whose arrival is unpredictable, and new acquisitions regularly push others aside, so I decided to leave more space for flexibility.
Best wishes for your August reading. Picking up and putting down books is the worst for a serious reader, and I hope you can get your reading mojo back soon.
Hugs to you and Hani as you continue to work on your relationship.
>182 Berly: Hahaha no pressure at all Kimmers!
>183 harrygbutler: I am trying to be realistic and at the same time hopeful. I have never had a month before when I only read 1 book and so I can't believe that I am in for a repeat.
>184 karenmarie: I hope so to Karen. Hani will take a short holiday to Sabah next week with a friend and I hope it will help us both. xx
Hani cooking dinner for you could be a sign that she's trying too. Hope her holiday to Sabah and Sarawak will be the ticket she needs to put some things in perspective. I think individual counseling first followed by couple counseling might be the speed of progression that works better for her. You may have to be a bit more patient that things aren't being resolved as quickly as you would like.
Perhaps since there won't be an awkward tension in the air at home while she's on holiday, you'll get over your book funk and get to immerse yourself into some good reads. Uplifted mood and all from holiday and book reading could result in a warm and joyous homecoming at the end of the week. Fingers crossed.
>186 cameling: It is a sign that she is trying for sure, Caro. There is still a spark or two there for sure. Well I have read a few pages today at least.
>191 Berly: It is one of your challenges Kimmers - how on earth would i be able to resist?
>192 PaulCranswick: Awwww! So glad to have you on board. And not just because you say the nicest things. ; ) I look forward to your witty insights.
>193 Berly: So you are happy because I say both the nicest and the baddest things!
>195 Berly: I am finding a slight twinge of mojo coming back thanks to you guys. I might actually finish a book today! Watch this space. xx
>197 brodiew2: Thanks Brodie - Mojo dancing slowly into clear sight!
>199 m.belljackson: Now rock n roll is just my thing, Marianne!
>125 PaulCranswick: Gosh, Paul, that news comes as a bit of a shock to the system. Hopefully, it's just a reaction to the reduction in pressure in other parts of your lives. Incremental steps, as long as they're in the right direction, are still steps. Wishing you guys the best.
As for your books looming over you, I think they're trying to send you message ;0)
>201 humouress: Well Nina, the stresses and strains of the last few years have certainly taken their toll on the both of us but there is a willingness to work at it so I suppose it is not damaged beyond repair.
Those books - their ominous silence is booming!
Oh Paul, I'm so sorry for you and Hani. I hope there's still love and strength. Big hugs. xx
>179 PaulCranswick: So are you going to post up your stats list?
Sorry to hear about the issues at home, and I hope you find a way forward.
Oh dear, catching up since my last post has been a trial. Paul, hugs to you and Hani in these tough times. It sounds very stressful for you all. I am sure things can be worked out if everyone is honest with themselves and each other....so hard to do in reality, but something good to aspire to. I wish you both the best of luck (((hugs)))
(I remember in your early LT days you affectionately referred to her as SWMBO, that was so cute! I think my lovely other could rightfully refer to
Yay for slight twinges of reading mojo, and see you on the Kafka on the Shore thread.
>203 DianaNL: Hani spent the entire day out with her pals and came home near 11 pm with a smile on her face which makes a very welcome change. I hope and pray we will get over the various bumps in the road and all our friends including all my friends here are nothing but a comfort and a help to us both.
>204 sirfurboy: I will get both regular stats out by this weekend Sir F. Mark has of course overtaken me in the posting league this month both as a result of me treading water but also because he is a posting postie machine!
>205 LovingLit: I still do refer to her as SWMBO occasionally, Megan, but reduced it as a moniker for her as a number of the group got to know her via FB and through meet-ups.
To be really candid with each other is of course a tough, tough thing to do.
>206 karenmarie: I will be venturing to that particular shore Karen when I finish the book I am actually now reading. xx
>209 sirfurboy: Been over and read your review Sir F of Varoufakis' book. Both book and your review, excellent.
>210 PaulCranswick: Thanks Paul. The book is definitely a recommended read.
>211 sirfurboy: I am not as sure that it would appeal to non-Europeans, but I do think it makes some very salient points about the hypocrisy of national and intra-national debt.
Good whatever it is where ever you are! ;-P It's morning here.
>125 PaulCranswick: I am sorry for ignoring these comments. I missed them the first time around. I can sympathize and empathize. I wish you and Hani the best.
>213 brodiew2: Thank you Brodie. Getting a little better day by day.
Hi Paul, sorry to read that you and Hanni are having some difficulties right now. I'm sending sympathy and the hope that everything works out for the two of you.
>215 DeltaQueen50: Thank you dear Guru. xx Having good friends visit is a tonic in any event.
I watched a TV program last night on one of the big country houses in South Yorkshire. The program was aired here on my local PBS station and was done by a Englishmn named Dan Cruickshank. The program was titled the Country House Revealed and the episode was about Wentworth Woodhouse. It was very interesting and so much history about South Yorkshire.
Dear Paul, love to you and Hani both. You know I wish the best for you and great loads of patience and tolerance and honesty and grit along the road; I know that the love is there. Your investment in each other is too huge to give up. Peace, friend.
come back to your threads after a mini break & found myself chortling away .... never though would see discussion of Prince Albert piercings here .....
see life is rather turbulent for you currently, hold on there .....nothing to add as not a member of international coupledom
>217 benitastrnad: & 218 Wentworth House is a lovely place and I used to cycle past the place on my training rides every day, Benita.
I was brought up in a village which bisects South and West Yorkshire and, although I consider myself from the latter (i.e. Wakefield rather than Barnsley) I am inordinately proud of the history and culture of the area.
As I understand it the house is up for sale......anybody?
>219 LizzieD: Thank you dear Peggy. I think that deep down we both know that too. Neither of us are quitters so we will make it through somehow.
>220 roundballnz: Who would have thought it, Alex, all that fuss over just a small prick? - well you know what I mean!
Sometimes I think that bachelorhood has its advantages but then Hani will go and cook me something or give me a smile and I'll realise I don't really want to go back to that state of being.
>221 Ameise1: Thanks Barbara. So far so very good.
There is a distinct sound of trumpets blaring........
Miss Buncle's Book by D.E. Stevenson
Date of Publication : 1936
Pages : 299
British Author Challenge
Hurrah and Huzzah!
What a nice way to break my reading drought. A book about a lady whose share dividends dwindle and who then writes a book of "fiction" about her village and its inhabitants which is a rip roaring bestseller only for the villagers to not take so kindly to her unerring portrayals.
The word charming was fixed in my mind as I prepared to jot down some thoughts on this book and charmed indeed I was despite myself and my present gloomy moods. Ms. Stevenson had a light but a very sure touch and this book is thoroughly enjoyable.
Now here is probably why I have been stuck. I have curtailed some of my reading started last month and I will return to it when I am in a better frame of mind.
>223 PaulCranswick: I think some are wired for bachelorhood, others not so, good thing we live in an age where both are socially acceptable ...
funny how that prick had peeps running from the keyboards 😂
>226 roundballnz: Indeed Alex. It isn't and shouldn't be a stigma anymore whether one is married or not, what colour you are, what your sexuality is, your political orientation (within reason), your creed, your ethnicity, your age, your gender etc etc etc. This group is one place I have found where genuinely those things don't matter a whit and long may it continue so.
Good old Albert - rather him than me; surely would have been painful enough looking down on a scowling Queen Vic without having your wedding tackle trussed up tight as well.
Happy weekend, Paul. I like those current reads. I love the cover of the Collins collection. I have not read that one. If you see anything that resonates, share it over on the AAC poetry thread.
I hope you like the Murakami. I know he is not a natural for you.
>228 msf59: I will do, Mark. I wouldn't rate Collins in the top drawer of poets but he is so accessible and always makes interesting reading.
I have only read Norwegian Wood thus far buddy and didn't hate it. Anyway Kimmers called on me to read it so read it I must!
Listening to Fleetwood Mac's Tusk as part of my random spotify playlist today - what a great track that is!
Glad to hear that you have broken the reading duck. Sounds like fun - I'll have a look for it online.
Just breezing through to keep up with you and your doings, Paul.
Very glad your reading slump is disappearing!
Happy weekend, Paul! I hope you enjoy the strangeness of Kafka. ; ) Saw you over on the thread.
Oh joy! I'm so happy your reading funk may be diminishing! It boggles my mind why these funks afflict so many of us.
Ya know, I haven't listened to Tusk in ages. I've got the vinyl so maybe, now that you've got me pining for it, I'll throw it on the turnstile this weekend.
Congratulations on breaking the book-finishing drought. Nice review. I was going to add Miss Buncle's Book to my wishlist, but it's already there!
Wishing you a restful weekend.
Happy weekend, Paul! Maybe the 75ers should pool our funds for that little place up there in >222 PaulCranswick: as a readers' retreat...
>230 charl08: I do think that you would enjoy it Charlotte. It is something of a throwback to a simpler and happier time.
>231 bohemima: I am sort of ushering it over the horizon, Gail. I went out with Kyran this evening to have a boys night out and we caught the movie Dunkirk. Overall I think I enjoyed it and it was good to see Anthony Andrews once again on the big screen with Mark Rylance as always playing a great but understated role.
>232 Berly: Told ya I would join in Kimmers! So far so good with it too. It is quirky certainly but readable too.
>233 Carmenere: It is funny, Lynda, that following the success of "Rumours", Tusk was deemed by the critics as an overindulgent mess but there are some real gems on it. At times of personal stress I often fail to concentrate on my reading.
Miss Buncle's Book is a great pick to break a reading drought. I'm glad you enjoyed it.
I'm glad you're going to read Kafka on the Shore. What a book. Norwegian Wood is misleading as to his style. The only other one remotely similar to it is Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki, IMO.
I think I like the poetry of Billy Collins more than you do. He's an excellent "entry poet" for folks not used to reading poetry. Plus he's very funny and humane in person.
So happy that you enjoyed Miss Buncle, Paul. You know that there are 2 or 3 more, right? Anyway, DE was Robert Louis's niece - a piece of information I didn't know for years. AND she's one of my mother's favorite authors - gently funny and sweet.
I really enjoyed *Kafka*, but my heart still belongs to *Wind-up Bird*!
>239 jnwelch: I am not off put so far by any designs on quirkiness, Joe.
I do enjoy Billy Collins and I certainly recognise that there is abundant skill in his simplicity. That I don't place him amongst the top echelon of poets is no slight to a very digestible wordsmith.
>240 LizzieD: Your mother obviously retains excellent taste, Peggy. The Stevenson clan were a remarkable bunch indeed. Many of the lighthouses dotted around the UK had the family hand upon them at one stage or another.
I have just gulped and started to brave one of his epics and you go and plug the other one for me!
>241 Ameise1: Very nearly missed you Barbara. There is much to like about DE Stevenson's writing, I think.
You have great plans for your August reading. Your minimal list is far more than I have been achieving lately. :( I have just started Kafka on the Shore which is my first Murakami. I'd also love to reread The Talented Mr. Ripley this month, but we shall see.
All I can say about your problems, is it's worth the struggle. ;-) Separate counseling is good. You can then come together for some joint counseling if you like.
>236 PaulCranswick: Oh, Anthony Andrews! I've seen him in so many wonderful roles I've lost count. An under-appreciated one is, I think, the lead in the old tv series: Danger: UXB. It was a tense and moving series about bomb disposal in Britain during WW2. I watched it a second time with my late husband and he loved it as well.
All the Buncle lover here is moving that one up my list.
And to keep you company in an odd way, I'm reading volume 2 about Emperor Claudius by Graves. He's quite a versatile author, as well as being brilliant in that old polymath way.
Every time I read a Haruki Murakami I am envious of the interestingly quirky world his mind lives in and want an invite to live in it too. The only work of his (so far, since I've not read all he's written yet) I am not enamored with is The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle .. I couldn't work out what he was trying to get at with that one.
hmm.. touchstones don't seem to be working...
I also enjoyed Miss Buncle's Book and Miss Buncle Married, Paul. I look forward to the last one in the trilogy.
Hope you are having a good weekend mate. What a shame Bairstow couldn't get his century although I was puzzled by his shot selection when the field was set back and he could have got a single easily. I think England are in a good position as long as they bat sensibly in the second dig.
I will back up what Joe said about Norwegian Wood. That title is not the norm for a work by Murakami. It does pair well with Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki but most of his work is clearly surreal in nature and is magical realism. Kafka is something totally different from Norwegian Wood and much more like most of his other works.
I read once that Murakami said that Wind-Up Bird is about the loss of memory and how memory gets altered if we don't write it down and document things. In paticular Murakami was concerned about the attempts to white wash Japanese history and allow Japan off the hook when it comes to historical misdeeds. Murakami was very concerned about what he saw as attempts to clean up the impact of what Japan and done in China and Manchuria and to the indigenous people's living inside its borders before WWII. He was not a fan of "japan indication" of the conqueror end areas and thinks that Japan must never forget what was done as a matter of policy. He thinks that many present day Japanese politicians and community leaders are forgetting the lessons of WWII and of Empire making.
>244 streamsong: Lovely to see you Janet. I am hoping that I achieve my reading plans (for the first time this year!) and get a little bit back on track in my reading just as I hope to get back on track with other things too.
Initial separate counselling will work I think as Hani needs to address her anger issues and can more probably do this in a separate forum.
>245 bohemima: And just to be extremely embarrassed Gail, it was actually Kenneth Branagh and not Anthony Andrews I thought I was watching! What a chump I am. Anyway Andrews was and is a very good actor.
I love the Claudius books by Robert Graves. I, Claudius would be on my list of top ten novels without a qualm.
>246 cameling: Sometimes Caro I think we have just got to let the writing and the writer take us where he/she will and not try to second guess all the time. Enjoy without understanding is something I may have to get myself used to!
>247 BLBera: I will certainly look for the next two instalments, Beth. It was nice to read something about small concerns in life when I have much more serious issues at hand. xx
>248 johnsimpson: Couldn't agree more John but what a fantastic knock it was. He really is one of the first names on the team sheet already isn't he? I am not so sure that we are quite geared up for batting sensibly Root and Cook aside.
The soccer season starts for Leeds United this afternoon (UK time) and we are going into the new campaign, I think, with higher hopes than I can remember for many a moon. A new Head Coach who wants to play good football, a bevy of new international players albeit some new names to me who appear to be fast, hungry and very skilful. The pundits have partially written us off but I reckon we'll win the thing and be back in the Premier League at last where (we think) we belong.
>249 benitastrnad: I should probably read it then whilst smoking weed, Benita, but unfortunately I don't know how to inhale so the stuff would be entirely wasted on me!
>250 benitastrnad: Fascinating. I must bear that in mind when I eventually get to that one too.
This is what the brilliant English novelist David Mitchell (often referred to as our Murakami) had to say when he reviewed Kafka on the Shore for the Guardian newspaper:
When the English translation of Haruki Murakami's bestselling A Wind-Up Bird Chronicle transformed one of Japan's best-kept literary secrets into the world's best-known living Japanese novelist, this reviewer's acquaintances neatly subdivided themselves into three groups: besotted devotees (one British friend went so far as to name his newborn son "Haruki"); critical admirers; and people who came out in a nasty rash. Kafka on the Shore, published in the old country in 2002 and now translated into English by Phillip Gabriel, shares many common denominators with its wind-up predecessor, but that triad of readers' reactions looks set for a reshuffle.
He is very much a devotee.
I'm sorry to hear things are so strained between you and Hani, Paul. I believe that if you both want to heal the marriage and stay together, you will find a way to make it work. Time and attention...and possibly outside help, as has been suggested, can work wonders.
>254 laytonwoman3rd: Thank you Linda. I took Kyran, my son, out for cinema yesterday and he was in tears over food at TGI Friday. The food actually wasn't all that bad but he was upset that his hopes of overseas study were being compromised by my difficulties in saving my businesses and the subsequent fall out of that pressure to our marriage. I assured him that the former was now more on track and that in respect of the latter I had no intention of walking away.
Things are tough because, though we lay side by side every night (or the bits she doesn't get up to call her phone-pals in Europe) every touch, accidental or otherwise, results in a wince from Hani involuntary or not. Time.
>224 PaulCranswick: Glad Miss Buncle was a hit with you. I love that sort of light comic novel for getting out of a funk.
Dear, dear Paul, I am grossly overdue for a visit, and I thank you for always keeping my thread warm what I am away. I am so sorry to hear of the heartache and turmoil in your life right now. I don't know that I can add anything to what our friends have already said, but I am cheering for you, and thinking of you, and hoping that you will find peace and an easing of your sorrows and strife. Life is fraught with so many difficulties. Stelios owns his own business, so I understand the unique pressures you business owners face, and the pressures to provide for your families and your employees. The journey is not easy, and I am hoping yours will get easier. Love to you and your family.
>258 AMQS: Thank you for that lovely message, Anne. I have missed you around but must say that your photos of Cyprus and Greece made me so pleased that you all managed to have such a great family holiday before Callia goes away for college. Stelios of course got to trace his ancestry too but it is also the roots of our western civilisation too isn't it? xx
Update on the Posting League.
Mark has had a stellar month and waltzed past me at the top whilst I have spent mine floundering in life, in love and in LT.
Top 100 threads as per a few minutes ago:
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35 Chatterbox 716
36 alcottacre 713
37 LizzieD 711
38 jessibud2 709
39 lit_chick 694
40 Streamsong 681
41 storeetllr 643
42 Carmenere 612
43 Ursula 591
44 rebarelishesreading 590
45 morphy 572
46 lkernagh 566
47 Whisper1 564
48 MichiganTrumpet 550
49 laurelkeet 548
50 MickyFine 546
51 cameling 542
52 laytonwoman3rd 527
53 sibyx 522
54 mahsdad 518
55 AMQS 516
56 Oberon 512
57 coppers 502
58 rretzler 490
59 foggidawn 488
60 bell7 487
61 Weird_O 471
62 Swynn 444
63 cammykitty 435
64 Banjo 431
65 norabelle414 431
66 The_Hibernator 431
67 souloftherose 425
68 ffortsa 422
69 tymfos 420
70 mdoris 419
71 PaulStalder 418
72 maggie1944 417
73 SirFurboy 413
74 smiler69 406
75 thearlybirdy 393
76 lindapanzo 380
77 Deern 364
78 ctpress 356
79 bohemima 343
80 klobrien2 341
81 PawsForThought 325
82 BBGirl55 323
83 brodiew2 319
84 ape 316
85 EllaTim 316
86 Dianekeenoy 305
87 amanda4242 304
88 aktakukac 285
89 SqueakyChu 271
90 Caroline_McElwee 260
91 inge87 260
92 lycomayflower 253
93 Zoe 248
94 fuzzi 242
95 witchyrichy 218
96 SuziQOregon 211
97 archerygirl 209
98 arubabookwoman 196
99 eclecticdodo 196
100 seasonoflove 196
Update on Books Read League.
Using the same top 100 threads as a qualifying post. Only 99 listed as I have absolutely no idea how many books Morphy has read. Usual disclaimers in that I depend on you also to be update and I am prone to error. Updated over a couple of days so I may have missed some of your latest updates. Real battle royal up top.
1 FAMeulstee 253
2 Chatterbox 252
3 Charl08 154
4 amanda4242 153
5 avatiakh 150
6 SirFurboy 146
7 seasonoflove 141
8 klobrien2 133
9 scaifea 130
10 inge87 127
11 lyzard 126
12 rretzler 116
13 harrygbutler 109
14 jnwelch 106
15 foggidawn 103
16 nittnut 102
17 SusanJ67 98
18 souloftherose 95
19 ronincats 93
20 thornton37814 93
21 aktakukac 92
22 msf59 90
23 BBLBera 85
24 alcottacre 84
25 sibyx 83
26 Swynn 83
27 bohemima 74
28 bell7 73
29 lkernagh 72
30 storeetllr 70
31 Zoe 67
32 archerygirl 67
33 lindapanzo 66
34 EBT1002 65
35 Ameise1 64
36 FamilyHistorian 64
37 Berly 63
38 crazymamie 63
39 Lunacat 63
40 mstrust 63
41 laytonwoman3rd 63
42 Oberon 63
43 Dianekeenoy 63
44 drneutron 62
45 Banjo 61
46 cbl_tn 60
47 MickyFine 60
48 karenmarie 59
49 arubabookwoman 58
50 smiler69 57
51 cameling 56
52 Weird_O 55
53 ChelleBearss 54
54 mahsdad 54
55 witchyrichy 54
56 AMQS 53
57 PaulStalder 53
58 Deern 53
59 PaulCranswick 52
60 lycomayflower 51
61 rebarelishesreading 50
62 mdoris 50
63 Caroline_McElwee 49
64 Donna 48
65 jessibud2 48
66 cammykitty 48
67 johnsimpson 47
68 Streamsong 47
69 Whisper1 47
70 SandDune 46
71 rosalita 45
72 Ursula 45
73 DianaNL 43
74 LizzieD 43
75 laurelkeet 43
76 EllaTim 42
77 fuzzi 42
78 SuziQOregon 42
79 KatieKrug 40
80 ffortsa 40
81 coppers 39
82 ireadthereforeiam 35
83 tymfos 35
84 MichiganTrumpet 33
85 kidzdoc 32
86 norabelle414 31
87 eclecticdodo 31
88 lit_chick 29
89 vancouverdeb 25
90 ctpress 24
91 Carmenere 21
92 PawsForThought 21
93 ape 21
94 thearlybirdy 17
95 SqueakyChu 17
96 BBGirl55 16
97 brodiew2 14
98 The_Hibernator 9
99 maggie1944 9
Some comments on the make up of the top 100 threads
68 resident in the USA
New Zealand 2
Of the reading league:
2 already have 3x75
5 have 2x75
16 have passed 100 books
26 have already reached the 75 book target
72 are on target to pass the target (44 books by July end)
Yessss! I'm 82nd in the reading league! That coveted 82nd spot is all mine ;)
Thanks for the stats, Paul!
Top 10 in both, 10+1=11, my other favourite number :-D
Now back to reading ;-)
>267 FAMeulstee: To be in the top ten in both lists is a remarkable achievement Anita and both yourself, Amber and Charlotte are comfortably doing just that. What a trio of incredible ladies!
I was wondering how your children were doing with the financial and marriage stresses, and I am sorry to hear that Kyran was in tears. Is Belle doing okay? I get the sense that Yasmyne's focus is on her boyfriend, and she's at the age where they tend to separate themselves anyway.
Thank you so much for the stats. 13th in posting - I'm happy and gratified! (1+3=4, 1/2 of my lucky number). 48th in books read, - serendipitous with a 4 and an 8.
How are you liking Kafka on the Shore?
>260 PaulCranswick: Hooray for Mark and his stellar mouth! LOL! I should show this to my wife. She would get a kick out of it.
Could you imagine if I didn't work? Grins...
>261 PaulCranswick: Glad to see I am holding my own here too. How can someone read 260 books and it is only August? Green with envy...
>269 karenmarie: Belle is introverted at the best of times so it is not so easy to say. I took both Kyran and Belle to supper just now in the twin towers and they were happy enough; Hani cried off as she is having problems with her period this month and is convinced that she has fibroids. She will go for a check up this week.
KOTS is so far hitting the spot to be fair.
>270 msf59: Go back and read it carefully dear Postie - it does say STELLAR MONTH! I am sure there are letters and postcards getting delivered to the wrong addresses all over Chicago!!
It is splendid that you just keep on keeping on whilst others move more in fits and starts (myself in particular).
How one can average more than a book a day is beyond me entirely.
>271 PaulCranswick: How one can average more than a book a day is beyond me entirely
I don't know how, it just happens!
>271 PaulCranswick: LOL. I must have been a little bleary-eyed when I typed that and I was completely sober too. I still think "stellar mouth" is pretty funny. I am sure there are plenty here that think I am quite long-winded, but I yam who I yam. Grins...
>274 msf59: It would have been a classic typo though Mark for sure. Not sure that you have a stellar mouth buddy but you certainly do have most of us wanting to visit your thread with more than a little regularity.
>261 PaulCranswick: Ooh, sixth place in that list :)
And I have climbed a good few places in the Top 100 threads since June. Now at 72nd place... sixth place is going to be impossible in that list but I may break into the top 50.
Thanks for posting those up.
>278 sirfurboy: I did say that I would get them done over the weekend. I would like to include all the top 140 but I am not as speedy around the threads as I once was so 100 was the best I could manage and have it done for Sunday.
Heartbreak! I've fallen out of the league. I feel like Middlesbrough.
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