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Paul C's 2017 Reading & Life - 21

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1PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:42am Top

One of the nice walks in the Yorkshire Moors is the wonderfully named Hole of Horcum


2PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:47am Top

Paul's Poetry

This one is a bit confessional for me. Hairaa - the title of this poem - is the Mongolian word for "My Love" or "Darling" and more than hints at the nationality of the subject.

HAIRAA

Leaves in the tempest we are blown
But still find ourselves holding on.

When words fail we can communicate -
Harmony encouraged from discordant chords.
Understanding achieved as physicality affords;
Expressing ourselves, soundless yet sensate.

Salt specks on raging oceans we are tossed
But still find ourselves holding on.

How our fates entwine
You with that feline grace
Love's light upon your face
Love's light upon mine.

As the world races by we seek moments
But still find ourselves holding on.

From the basement to the 18th floor
And our haven of peace
Where passions unleash
Behind that serenely closed door.

Haira, I will face down all of life's travails
That we still find ourselves holding on.

3PaulCranswick
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 1:14pm Top

ME & MINE

Me?
I was 50 in September 2016 and have enough unread reading material on my shelves to take me safely into my seventies! I have lived in Malaysia since 1994 and have a long suffering (but never quietly) wife, Hani (sometimes referred to as SWMBO), three children Yasmyne (19), Kyran (17) and Belle (12), as well as a supporting cast which includes my book smuggling assistants Azim (also my driver and a part time bouncer who, despite his muscles, lives in almost as much fear of my wife as I do) and Erni (my housemaid, almost-little sister and the worlds greatest coffee maker). On this thread you'll probably read as much about the vagaries of life, book buying and group related statistics as you do about the actual books themselves.



I have added 3,000 books to my shelves in four years but late last year I decided to sort my books from the 4,500 books unread into the essentials of 900 fiction and 180 non-fiction books and I will try to make a serious dent in that list this year.

I will also be reading, as usual, plenty of poetry which is another passion and, as you have seen above, a faltering pastime.

4PaulCranswick
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 1:14pm Top

.BOOKS READ

JANUARY

1. The Magician's Wife by Brian Moore (1997) 229 pp
2. Maus I : My Father Bleeds History by Art Spiegelman (1986) 159 pp
3. Midwinter Sacrifice by Mons Kallentoft (2006) 440 pp
4. Out in the Midday Sun : The British in Malaya 1880-1960 by Margaret Shennan (2000) 471 pp
5. Blood Child and Other Stories by Octavia E. Butler (2003) 214 pp
6. The Assault by Harry Mulisch (1985) 185 pp
7. 100 Prized Poems : Twenty-Five Years of the Forward Books (2016) 176 pp
8. The Broken Shore by Peter Temple (2005) 400 pp
9. Spring Flowers, Spring Frost by Ismail Kadare (2000) 182 pp
10. The Hare with Amber Eyes by Edmund de Waal (2010) 352 pp
11. Varamo by Cesar Aira (2002) 89 pp
12. The House in Paris by Elizabeth Bowen (1935) 250 pp

FEBRUARY

13. The Crystal Cave by Mary Stewart (1970) 456 pp
14. A Blaze of Autumn Sunshine : The Last Diaries by Tony Benn (2013) 294 pp
15. City of Secrets by Stewart O'Nan (2016) 190 pp
16. The Colour of Magic by Terry Pratchett (1983) 210 pp
17. The Poetry of Jaroslav Seifert by Jaroslav Seifert (1998) 246 pp
18. Dogs at the Perimeter by Madeleine Thien (2011) 253 pp

MARCH

19. Up the Junction by Nell Dunn (1963) 133 pp
20. Middle Passages by Kamau Brathwaite (1992) 120 pp
21. Maus II : A Survivor's Tale : And Here My Troubles Began (1991) 136 pp
22. Sapiens : A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari (2011) 466 pp
23. Fences by August Wilson (1985) 101 pp
24. No Great Mischief by Alistair MacLeod (1999) 262 pp
25. Seabiscuit by Laura Hillenbrand (2001) 399 pp

5PaulCranswick
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 1:15pm Top

BOOKS READ

APRIL

26. Persepolis by Marjane Satrapi (2003) 343 pp
27. Strange Shores by Arnaldur Indridason (2010) 296 pp
28. The Confessions of Nat Turner by William Styron (1967) 415 pp
29. When I Was Old by Georges Simenon (1970) 452 pp
30. On the Black Hill by Bruce Chatwin (1982) 262 pp
31. And the Mountains Echoed by Khaled Hosseini (2013) 444 pp
32. The Cry by Helen Fitzgerald (2013) 307 pp
33. I Shall Not Hate by Izzeldin Abuelaish (2010) 236 pp
34. Ariel by Sylvia Plath (1965) 81 pp
35. Shout at the Devil by Wilbur Smith (1968) 391 pp
36. A Perfidious Distortion of History : The Versailles Peace Treaty and the Success of the Nazis by Jurgen Tampke (2017) 269 pp
37. Doctor Who and the Web of Fear by Terrance Dicks (1976) 150 pp
38. The Haw Lantern by Seamus Heaney (1987) 51 pp

May

39. Then by Morris Gleitzman (2009) 196 pp
40. March: Book One by John Lewis (2013) 121 pp
41. Selected Poems : 1940-1982 by Norman Nicholson (1982) 78 pp
42. Doomsday Book by Connie Willis (1992) 587 pp
43. The Englishman's Boy by Guy Vanderhaeghe (1997) 402 pp
44. Castle Rackrent by Maria Edgeworth (1800) 97 pp
45. Disgrace by J.M. Coetzee (1999) 220 pp
46. And the Weak Suffer What They Must? by Yaris Varoufakis (2016) 246 pp

June

47. Il Postino by Antonio Skarmeta (1985) 112 pp
48. How to Fight Islamist Terror from the Missionary Position by Tabish Khair (2012) 190 pp
49. 1914 by Jean Echenoz (2012) 118 pp
50. Resistance by Carla Jablonski (2010) 121 pp

6PaulCranswick
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 1:16pm Top

BOOKS READ

July

51. The Endless Steppe by Esther Hautzig (1968) 281 pp

August

52. Miss Buncle's Book by D.E. Stevenson (1936) 299 pp

7PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:48am Top

BRITISH AUTHOR CHALLENGE

8PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:49am Top

AMERICAN AUTHOR CHALLENGE

9PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:52am Top

CANADIAN AUTHOR CHALLENGE

10PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:52am Top

ANZAC BINGO CHALLENGE

11PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:52am Top

OTHER CHALLENGES

12PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:53am Top

TBR RECORDS

13PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:53am Top

JULY READING PLANS

14PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:53am Top

CURRENTLY READING

15PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:53am Top

LITERARY WORLDS

16PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:53am Top

AROUND THE WORLD IN 80 BOOKS

17PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 6:54am Top

NEXT IS YOURS

18Ameise1
Jul 23, 2017, 7:20am Top

Happy new one, Paul. I hope your Sunday is going well.

19msf59
Jul 23, 2017, 7:28am Top

Happy New Thread, Paul. Love the Hole of Horcum topper!

20avatiakh
Jul 23, 2017, 7:36am Top

Congrats on the new thread.

21PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 7:46am Top

>18 Ameise1: Thanks Barbara. It is a quiet one. I took Belle for pancakes in the early afternoon but Hani, Yasmyne and Tobias went to Johor Bahru yesterday and will only be back in time for supper.

>19 msf59: I think you would like the place Mark. Plenty of scope for ornithology.

>20 avatiakh: Thank you, Kerry. xx

22karenmarie
Jul 23, 2017, 7:46am Top

Hi Paul and congratulations on your new thread.

I think most of us have much darker thoughts than we share here on LT. I admire you for the way you're weathering the work crises. Lesser men might have just given up and run screaming into the night, but your devotion to your family and dependents has kept you working hard to come through as best as you can. That's all any of us can do, really, is try as hard as we can for the things that are most important to us. I hope that the scares of this year are a thing of the past and your family returns to its normal happy state sooner than soon!

23bohemima
Jul 23, 2017, 7:55am Top

Happy New thread, Paul! I'm going back to the last one to catch up.

I know that this is far from the best year you've had, but I too admire your tenacity and grit, your care for those trusting in you, and your mostly optimistic attitude in the face of some daunting circumstances. Much love and encouragement to you.

24PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 8:02am Top

>22 karenmarie: Thank you for that lovely message, Karen. There are stresses and strains which have impacted Hani and myself over difficult days which will test us and the nature of our relationship in times to come. Hani has sought advice and succour from friends (male friends) via the telephone (platonically I firmly believe) and we are having some issues to work through which I hope and believe that we will. She has said things to me in the heat of the moment that would have broken less entrenched relationships but I think it is pretty obvious that I love my family dearly and won't simply give up.

>23 bohemima: Gail my friends here have provided a haven for me to turn to on so many occasions. I don't think that I would have come through nearly as well without the 75ers. xx

25jessibud2
Edited: Jul 23, 2017, 8:21am Top

Happy new thread, Paul. I echo the messages above and admire your strength, resolve and devotion to what really matters. I wish you more of the same and may the light at the end of the tunnel approach at increasing speed so that plans fall rightly into their proper places, finally.

PS - that gorgeous topper looks other-worldly!

26scaifea
Jul 23, 2017, 8:40am Top

Happy new thread, Paul!

27PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 8:55am Top

>25 jessibud2: Thanks Shelley. I have often thought myself something of a spent force these days but have slowly gotten things back on track work wise and am working on life issues now.

>26 scaifea: Thank you Amber dear.

28BLBera
Jul 23, 2017, 10:06am Top

Happy new thread, Paul. I love your toppers. I want to visit all of them!

29Berly
Jul 23, 2017, 10:49am Top

Happy new thread, Paul. I hope that this one finds a renewed level of happiness in your life. Big hugs and love the topper!!

30ChelleBearss
Jul 23, 2017, 10:51am Top

Happy new thread, Paul! Hope the stresses in your life calm down soon and give you some time to relax!

31harrygbutler
Jul 23, 2017, 11:00am Top

Happy new thread, Paul! Another lovely thread topper. Wishing you well.

32PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 12:29pm Top

>28 BLBera: I am sure that we could arrange for you to visit all the toppers, Beth!

>29 Berly: Always a glass half-full type of fellow, Kimmers, so let's see!

33PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 12:30pm Top

>30 ChelleBearss: I am luckier than many people Chelle so I really ought not complain so much!

>31 harrygbutler: Thanks Harry. Lovely as always to see you here.

34amanda4242
Jul 23, 2017, 12:32pm Top

Happy new thread!

35benitastrnad
Jul 23, 2017, 12:41pm Top

The picture of Hole of Horcum was intriguing enough that I looked it up on Wikipedia. It has a very interesting geologic history. I will have to add this to the places to visit list. It looks like a great area for a gentle hike. Not at all like the one Ellen took a year ago on the West Highlands Trail.

36BLBera
Jul 23, 2017, 12:47pm Top

37ronincats
Jul 23, 2017, 2:01pm Top

Best wishes (and hugs) for the best possible resolution to all issues, Paul.

38weird_O
Jul 23, 2017, 2:25pm Top

Lurking lurking lurking

39laytonwoman3rd
Jul 23, 2017, 3:35pm Top

>38 weird_O: Why is the theme song from "Rawhide" in my head now?

40FAMeulstee
Jul 23, 2017, 3:58pm Top

Happy new thread, Paul.

We all go through difficult times from time to time, surviving through hard times can make us stronger.
I hope brighter times in every aspect are ahead of you!

41PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 7:15pm Top

>34 amanda4242: Thank you Amanda. xx

>35 benitastrnad: The Yorkshire moors are a little hilly Benita but nothing like the Scottish Highlands. The weather is slightly more reliable too as up in Scotland it has the habit of changing by the hour!
I think it well worth a visit.

42PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 7:18pm Top

>36 BLBera: Remember Beth the first dozen or so of my thread toppers were Malaysian! I look forward to your visit my dear and can assure you that if you made the trip to either place I would make sure that I was there to guide you to all the places. x

>37 ronincats: Thank you Roni. Hani came back last night and was quite even tempered She, myself, Yasmyne, Tobias and Belle (Kyran had already eaten) went for a seafood supper which is always guaranteed to make her happy!

>38 weird_O: Nice to know Bill!

43PaulCranswick
Jul 23, 2017, 7:22pm Top

>39 laytonwoman3rd: Hahaha Linda and you have just put it in my head too!

>40 FAMeulstee: What doesn't kill you and all that, Anita, I suppose. Maybe I am just a little emotionally fraught considering everything I have had to struggle with in the last year. It just seems that, when the rock I was clinging to was my wife and family, to have come through the worst of the business stuff and to then realise how much it has impacted upon my wife makes it hard to bear.

44Familyhistorian
Jul 23, 2017, 9:43pm Top

Happy new thread, Paul. I hope everything turns out for the best for you on the home front.

45BLBera
Jul 23, 2017, 9:53pm Top

>42 PaulCranswick: Well, Paul, you never know.

46weird_O
Jul 23, 2017, 9:57pm Top

>39 laytonwoman3rd: Verry interestink, Linda. As I typed the message, I was seeing the Blues Brothers singing that song for the upteenth time in that country-western dive. Beer bottles crashing against the chicken-wire stretched across the stage. Rolling, rolling, rolling...

Oh! Hi, Paul. What kinda dive you running here? Shattered bottles all over the place. It is a good place to blow off steam though. Thanks for having us, mate.

47m.belljackson
Jul 23, 2017, 10:25pm Top

>1 PaulCranswick:

The beautiful Hole of Horcum ranks 11th place in 100 Rude Britain names. Wiki Link.

48humouress
Jul 23, 2017, 10:25pm Top

Happy new thread, Paul! Best wishes from across the Straits.

49FAMeulstee
Jul 24, 2017, 7:59am Top

>43 PaulCranswick: What doesn't kill you and all that I suppose
Not exactly, Paul, what doesn't kill can disable, alter, strengthen, or ruin lives. Or do that to those close to us.
We want to keep our loved ones from the storm, but we can't always protect them. Then we can only hope the mess can be cleared out, without too much damage done...

50karenmarie
Jul 24, 2017, 8:15am Top

Hi Paul!

I hope you have a healthy, happy, productive week.

51foggidawn
Jul 24, 2017, 9:45am Top

Happy new thread, Paul! Now that things have turned the corner in your work life, with some care and thought I am sure you can bring your home life back into balance.

52PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 9:46am Top

>44 Familyhistorian: I will stick at things Meg and hopefully everything will be fine.

>45 BLBera: One thing I do know, Beth, is that you would sure be welcome and your tour guides honoured to guide you!

53PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 9:54am Top

>46 weird_O: Bill, even after one heck of a tiring and busy day, you can always succeed in making me smile. I can remember what LT was like before you joined us but......it is better now.

>47 m.belljackson: Hahaha trust you, Marianne. Yep, I found it here:

http://www.shaolintiger.com/2005/09/01/the-100-rudest-place-names-in-the-uk/

Of course Cocks in Cornwall wins hands down or should I say off.

54PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 9:57am Top

>48 humouress: I must think when I can get across those straits and see my friend and neighbour finally.

>49 FAMeulstee: You are right of course Anita, but behind my flippancy I do believe that these very testing times have made me a more resilient person.

55PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 10:00am Top

>50 karenmarie: Thank you Karen. I will definitely be reading Amok next month by the way.

>51 foggidawn: I will be trying to Foggi for sure. It is going to take time to have Hani's confidence back again to what it once was. She is now suffering a little from panic attacks which are actually more than a little scary.

56drneutron
Jul 24, 2017, 11:52am Top

Happy nearly-nw thread!

57johnsimpson
Jul 24, 2017, 12:00pm Top

Hi Paul, like you, as Hani is your rock, Karen is mine and after 35 years together and 33 years come this Friday as my darling wife I would not be without her. We have had things come along that have tested us but together we have overcome and got stronger as you and Hani will. We started married life with me being on strike in the 84/85 miner's dispute and when I decided to go back before the end she was with me 100%. I was more afraid for her, my parents who lived in Sharlston and hers than myself and since then things seem to go fine and then something comes along to pull the rug from under our feet. Things take time to settle back to where they were but they get there and your love is the glue that binds things together and it will not break.

We have not had the same things happen but love does conquer all mate and as long as she knows that then everything will heal and you will be back as you were. Take it from me mate, a good partnership is all that is needed and on Friday I will look back on the day in 1984 that Karen became my wife like it was yesterday and I would do it all again and again if I could just to have the years back but will look forward to many more anniversaries to come. We both send our love and best wishes to you both mate and wish we could be near you to be a shoulder if you need one.

58m.belljackson
Jul 24, 2017, 12:22pm Top

>53 PaulCranswick:

Definitely a laugh out loud link!

(some I didn't get - like Prince Albert Court...)

and, glad you stopped at three "hahaha" since
PEARLS BEFORE SWINE said five (I think, or 6?) of them means you're drunk...

59jessibud2
Jul 24, 2017, 1:13pm Top

>53 PaulCranswick: - There's *Trump Street* on that list!!? No wonder it's out of favour though I see that list was actually composed long before the orange gasbag came onto the political radar

;-p

60karenmarie
Jul 24, 2017, 3:28pm Top

Hi Paul!

>55 PaulCranswick: I'm so sorry to hear that Hani is having panic attacks. My daughter has suffered from panic attacks (not so much recently as she's on anti-anxiety medication) and they are absolutely terrifying and heartbreaking to watch. Daughter's called me a couple of times in the middle of one and all I can do is listen, try to understand what's causing them to try to interject some balance, and say "Breathe", "It will be okay, I promise you", and "Take another deep breath". I hope that these become a thing of the past for Hani soon.

I'll be interested in hearing your opinion of Amok.

61kidzdoc
Jul 24, 2017, 4:01pm Top

I'm sorry to hear that you and Hani are having a tough go of it, Paul. I hope that things improve for both of you soon.

62cameling
Jul 24, 2017, 4:13pm Top

Happy new thread, Paul.

Having spent a little bit of time with you and Hani, I am very confident that this is but a wee bump in the road (sharp though it may be) and that you will weather through this because it's clear to all who you share your lives with that there is a great love between you. We all deal with stress in different ways, and someone told me a long time ago that we often hurt most the ones we love dearly with words and actions because we know they will forgive us. I send you lots and lots of big hugs.

63PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 4:31pm Top

>56 drneutron: Thanks Jim.

>57 johnsimpson: Thank you for sharing that, John. It is also obvious to me the genuine love and affection that you and Karen enjoy. My bonds with Hani are deep ones indeed but we do face serious challenges. I hope that we will come through them together.

>58 m.belljackson: I must admit that Prince Albert Court has me stumped a little too.

64PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 4:34pm Top

>59 jessibud2: Trump in England means to fart which in the case of the United States President is pretty much on point.

>60 karenmarie: I think that I have made every effort over the years to understand my lovely difficult wife. She more than makes up for difficult days when she is on song and she has the biggest heart of anyone I know. She is very very difficult to live with though at the same time!

65PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 4:36pm Top

>61 kidzdoc: I hope so Darryl. I do know though that she greatly esteems your company on my her facebook page.

>62 cameling: we often hurt most the ones we love dearly with words and actions because we know they will forgive us.

In our marriage you have probably hit upon the problem because Hani hurts with words whilst I can ruin things by actions.

66amanda4242
Jul 24, 2017, 4:47pm Top

>58 m.belljackson: & >63 PaulCranswick: There's a type of genital piercing called Prince Albert.

67calm
Jul 24, 2017, 4:50pm Top

Don't ask how I know, I probably read it somewhere, a Prince Albert is an intimate piercing. for a penis

68PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 5:38pm Top

>66 amanda4242: & >67 calm: Wow, we learn something new every day!

69kidzdoc
Edited: Jul 24, 2017, 5:53pm Top

>65 PaulCranswick: One of my fondest memories of 2016 was the day that you, Hani, Debbi, Joe, I and several other LTers met in London. I had many great days with LT friends in the US, England, the Netherlands and Spain last year, but none was better than that one.







70PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 6:10pm Top

>69 kidzdoc: Thanks for again putting that up my dear friend. It was indeed a lovely day.

71m.belljackson
Jul 24, 2017, 6:19pm Top

>66 amanda4242:
>67 calm:

Egad.

All I could think of was that old call the drugstore to ask "Do you have Prince Albert in a can?" joke,
which did not seem to relate.

Looks like it sure doesn't work here and I won't check WIKI which
is where I found the rating for The Hole of Horcum...though I am
still mystified by Albert's connection to the procedure...

72m.belljackson
Jul 24, 2017, 6:21pm Top

>65 PaulCranswick:

Would Hani be happier with a job outside the home to occupy unhappy thoughts?

73jnwelch
Jul 24, 2017, 6:32pm Top

Happy New Thread, Paul.

>69 kidzdoc: Great memories!

74amanda4242
Jul 24, 2017, 6:33pm Top

>71 m.belljackson: According to legend Prince Albert, husband of Queen Victoria, had one so he wouldn't ruin the line of his trousers.

75msf59
Jul 24, 2017, 6:34pm Top

^^You know I LOVE those Meet Up memories, Paul. I sure wish I could have joined that illustrious crew.

76m.belljackson
Jul 24, 2017, 7:12pm Top

>74 amanda4242:

Well, the plot thickens (apologies all around) -

does legend say The Prince was spectacularly (or frighteningly) well-endowed

or did he just wear his pants too tight?

77weird_O
Jul 24, 2017, 7:13pm Top

>53 PaulCranswick: Paul, you make me blush.

78PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 7:30pm Top

>71 m.belljackson: Mmmm I can only assume that it relates to some sort of bonding of Albert to Victoria but I am only guessing. Apparently the opposite sex can have Princess Albertina adornment!

>72 m.belljackson: Quite possibly Marianne she would. Part of the problem is that she has a wrong but perceived lack of self-esteem which would be difficult for even those who know her to realise.

79PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 7:32pm Top

>73 jnwelch: Thank you Joe. They are great memories aren't they? Hopefully we will relive them again sometime soon.

>74 amanda4242: Wow, Amanda, I didn't know that. Wouldn't he have been better advised to have gotten himself a slightly more skilful tailor?!

>75 msf59: Indeed, Mark. I am sure that we will get our meet-up one fine day in the not too distant future.

80amanda4242
Jul 24, 2017, 7:32pm Top

>76 m.belljackson: Maybe a bit of both?

81amanda4242
Jul 24, 2017, 7:33pm Top

>79 PaulCranswick: That does sound like the more sensible option.

82PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 7:42pm Top

>76 m.belljackson: Well it does appear that he was a well endowed individual but I cannot find anything particularly conclusive that he had such a piercing.

https://www.theguardian.com/notesandqueries/query/0,5753,-19293,00.html

>77 weird_O: Just stated the blooming obvious, Bill.

83PaulCranswick
Jul 24, 2017, 7:43pm Top

>80 amanda4242: & >81 amanda4242: Make no wonder Queen Vic's catchphrase was "I am not amused". If legend was true it is lucky the poor lady didn't choke!

84m.belljackson
Jul 24, 2017, 8:08pm Top

>83 PaulCranswick:

If The Prince was such a prude (as many contributors to the link you provided somehow knew),
it likely would not have come to that impasse.

85amanda4242
Edited: Jul 24, 2017, 8:18pm Top

This was not a conversation I expected to have today!

ETA: or any day, really.

86m.belljackson
Jul 24, 2017, 8:20pm Top

>85 amanda4242:
>83 PaulCranswick:

Thanks Amanda, Paul, and The Hole of Horcum for livening up the Threads!

87amanda4242
Jul 24, 2017, 8:28pm Top

88m.belljackson
Jul 24, 2017, 10:20pm Top

Okay, back to our usual staid personas:

here's a gentleman from the 17th Century to add to your list
of Yorkshire Authors - Andrew Marvell, satirist and "exquisite poet"
of "To his Coy Mistress," was born and raised in Hull.

From my $1.00 purchase of Peter Quenelle's
A HISTORY OF ENGLISH LITERATURE.

89LizzieD
Jul 24, 2017, 10:31pm Top

What did I stumble into, having neglected all of LT for a week or so?????
Peace to you, dear Paul, and to dear Hani.

90EBT1002
Jul 25, 2017, 11:54am Top

>1 PaulCranswick: That is drop dead gorgeous. Happy New Thread, Paul!

>69 kidzdoc: Envious.

Skimming through, chuckling at my desk. Such fun here.
I take it you are feeling better, my friend!

91karenmarie
Jul 25, 2017, 1:31pm Top

Hi Paul!

Well, I have learned more about genital piercing than I ever expected to in this lifetime.....

There's never a dull moment over here, for sure.

92ChelleBearss
Jul 25, 2017, 2:07pm Top

Interesting topic here ... um, hem... anyway, Hi Paul!

>69 kidzdoc: Love the meet-up photos!!

93streamsong
Jul 25, 2017, 2:13pm Top

Smiling my way through catching up with your thread.

I screwed up all my courage and googled Prince Albert piercings. Luckily Wikipedia had more than enough info to satisfy my curiosity.

Hugs for the places that hurt. May they get much better soon!

94PaulCranswick
Jul 25, 2017, 6:58pm Top

>84 m.belljackson: I don't think I could have coped with the buables etc never mind the prudery.

>85 amanda4242: I was not expecting it either, Amanda. Prince Albert has become a more interesting character to me over the last couple of days!

95PaulCranswick
Jul 25, 2017, 7:01pm Top

>86 m.belljackson: That is quite a threesome you are giving thanks to, Marianne!

>87 amanda4242: Surely :D

>88 m.belljackson: Andrew Marvell is a favourite poet of mine from earlier days and another Yorkshireman.

96PaulCranswick
Jul 25, 2017, 7:04pm Top

>89 LizzieD: I think that we'll be ok, Peggy, despite some fractious moments and difficult days. xx

>90 EBT1002: I was thinking about you actually when I put up the picture, Ellen, as to how much you would enjoy the walks in the Yorkshire Moors.
I am in reasonable fettle and definitely in recuperation mode!

97PaulCranswick
Jul 25, 2017, 7:09pm Top

>91 karenmarie: Karen, hand on heart, penile piercing is a subject that I never thought would surface on this thread. I am far too squeamish to have considered the topic!

>92 ChelleBearss: Hi Chelle. My wife has a friend who has multiple piercings including a vaginal one (I have that on good authority and cannot bear first hand testimony) and according to her the most painful piercing was to her navel.

>93 streamsong: Thank you Janet. I admit to doing that selfsame googling when the subject materialised.

98Berly
Jul 25, 2017, 7:29pm Top

Hi there! Well, aren't we talking about novel, I mean navel things here!! LOL Paul, it's always interesting around here. LOL

99PaulCranswick
Jul 25, 2017, 8:06pm Top

>98 Berly: And the navel is certainly not maritime.

100m.belljackson
Jul 25, 2017, 9:30pm Top

>97 PaulCranswick:

Well, give us fair warning if you plan to put up the other 99 UK fun named locations.

101PaulCranswick
Jul 26, 2017, 11:55am Top

>100 m.belljackson: Hahaha maybe I will wait awhile! UK place names are great fun actually. I used to work with a young chap named Peter Gotobed. Imagine my merriment when I realised his family hailed from the Fenland village of Little Snoring!!

102PaulCranswick
Jul 26, 2017, 11:56am Top

Hani and I are a little sad today. Our eldest child, Yasmyne, went off this evening to Norway to spend some time with her boyfriend's family. Here they are at dinner with us yesterday.

103m.belljackson
Jul 26, 2017, 6:29pm Top

>102 PaulCranswick:

To balance your sad feelings, note that Norway seems to be a safer place than either England or Malaysia...

what an impressively handsome couple!

104karenmarie
Jul 27, 2017, 7:51am Top

Hi Paul!

I'm glad to hear that on Tuesday you were ... in reasonable fettle and definitely in recuperation mode!

My daughter pierced her tongue when she was 19 and didn't tell us. Then she ended up in the emergency ward with a whole body rash and didn't know why. She asked me if she was allergic to anything and I said sure - when she was little she had a nickel rash. I had to put clear nail polish over Every Single Snap on Every Single Piece of Clothing she owned after Every Single Washing. I never thought to mention it to her because she basically stopped wearing snaps. She still didn't mention the piercing and we only found out 2 years later when I saw a flash of bright green one day when she smiled. Then she said she'd gotten her tongue pierced and the nickel rash explained itself - she had gotten a nickel stud. She now uses plastic.

I'm sorry that Yasmyne is away visiting boyfriend's family in Norway - it sounds serious if both families are getting to meet the boyfriend/girlfriend!

105ChelleBearss
Jul 27, 2017, 2:11pm Top

>102 PaulCranswick: Your daughter and her boyfriend are quite stunning!

106PaulCranswick
Jul 27, 2017, 7:15pm Top

>103 m.belljackson: They are travelling up to Oresund which is Tobias' home town. Scandinavia is a part of the world that Hani and I have both wanted to travel and our jet-setting daughter has beaten us to it.

>104 karenmarie: Karen, I couldn't imagine doing any piercing myself but the tongue would have certainly frightened me. Glad that the consequences for your daughter weren't more serious.
Yasmyne and Tobias already seem like an old couple in that they seem to be bickering constantly but affectionately!

>105 ChelleBearss: Thanks Chelle. xx

107EBT1002
Jul 28, 2017, 3:23pm Top

Ah, it's so hard when they start traveling further and further afield. As much as we want them to explore and have divine adventures, their absence leaves just a bit too much silence.

Gorgeous photo of the two of them and I hope they bring you a present from their travels.

108PaulCranswick
Jul 28, 2017, 8:11pm Top

>107 EBT1002: I am surprisingly quite comfortable with Yasmyne travelling so long as she has company and stays safe. Hani misses her eldest daughter tremendously especially when she is less enamoured of her husband than is usual.

109LovingLit
Edited: Jul 29, 2017, 4:50am Top

>49 FAMeulstee: aah, good advice.
Paul, you have a lot of supporters here!

>102 PaulCranswick: BYT's! (beautiful young things)
I'm sure they will have a safe and fun trip- and you'll see her/them again soon.

I'll avoid extending conversation on genital piercings...oop! I just extended it! ;) I just have my tragus pierced. I'd think about getting the other side done too, but recall to vividly the issues with sleeping on my side after the first one.
Eta: auto correct! What a pain

110PaulCranswick
Jul 29, 2017, 5:21am Top

>109 LovingLit: I am a lucky fellow, Megan.

They do make a striking couple even though I am a little biased!

OK I will admit to looking up (and rather worriedly) to see what the heck the tragus is! I am a little bit relieved in truth. Hope it didn't hurt you overly.

111LovingLit
Jul 29, 2017, 5:34am Top

>110 PaulCranswick: ha ha!! Just don't ever do the image search before the text one, you can't unseen some things!
Tragus is a safe one though, even if the noise of the needle going through the gristle was pretty bad... :)

112PaulCranswick
Jul 29, 2017, 6:10am Top

>111 LovingLit: I went "ouch" just thinking about the gristle!

113PaulCranswick
Jul 29, 2017, 11:13pm Top

My life is a horrid mess at the moment. Hani and I are struggling to stay together for a multitude of reasons but which largely stem from events a few years ago which keep haunting us.

I am so sorry that I have been an absentee landlord here somewhat but I am more than a little down in the dumps and will struggle for a while to contribute as I used to.

I have only read one book this month and read virtually nothing for two weeks. Despondency is my way of life for the time being.

114PaulCranswick
Jul 29, 2017, 11:16pm Top

Failed to see that the Booker longlist is out. I have three of them on the shelves already and may try to read some of them - I can make no predictions about my ability to do so at present but I would like to.

For the one per cent of the group that is unaware; here is the longlist.
he 2017 longlist:

4 3 2 1 by Paul Auster (US) (Faber & Faber)
Days Without End by Sebastian Barry (Ireland) (Faber & Faber)
History of Wolves by Emily Fridlund (US) (Weidenfeld & Nicolson)
Exit West by Mohsin Hamid (Pakistan-UK) (Hamish Hamilton)
Solar Bones by Mike McCormack (Ireland) (Canongate)
Reservoir 13 by Jon McGregor (UK) (4th Estate)
Elmet by Fiona Mozley (UK) (JM Originals)
The Ministry Of Utmost Happiness by Arundhati Roy (India) (Hamish Hamilton)
Lincoln in the Bardo by George Saunders (US) (Bloomsbury Publishing)
Home Fire by Kamila Shamsie (UK-Pakistan) (Bloomsbury Circus)
Autumn by Ali Smith (UK) (Hamish Hamilton)
Swing Time by Zadie Smith (UK) (Hamish Hamilton)
The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead (US) (Fleet)

115amanda4242
Jul 29, 2017, 11:33pm Top

116avatiakh
Jul 30, 2017, 12:50am Top

Can only say that I have my fingers crossed that you get through this tough time.

..and have to share this link to an article about Jacob Rees-Mogg & the names he's given his children... 'has such traditional tastes that he is rumoured to wear double-breasted pyjamas.'

117mahsdad
Jul 30, 2017, 1:29am Top

Hang in there buddy!

118Berly
Jul 30, 2017, 1:35am Top

>113 PaulCranswick: Paul--Sorry that life is not easy right now. Best, best wishes to you. Hug, hug, hug!!

119Ameise1
Jul 30, 2017, 4:01am Top

Sorry to hear that your life is so upside-down. Sending lots of positive vibes.

120SandDune
Jul 30, 2017, 4:09am Top

>113 PaulCranswick: So sorry to hear that you are going through such difficulties, Paul. Sending positive vibes.

121jessibud2
Jul 30, 2017, 6:10am Top

{{{hugs}}} Breathe in, breathe out, Paul.

122karenmarie
Jul 30, 2017, 8:29am Top

Ah, Paul, I am so, so sorry that you and Hani are struggling.

Remember to take care of yourself physically.

Hugs to you both.

(P.S. I am among the ignorant 1%..... thanks for sharing.)

123Fourpawz2
Jul 30, 2017, 8:30am Top

Sorry to hear that things are so difficult for the two of you right now. Hope it all turns around soon.

124scaifea
Jul 30, 2017, 8:52am Top

Oh, Paul, I'm so sorry that you're troubled right now. Big hugs, friend, and I hope that things sort themselves out in the best possible way very soon.

125PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 9:25am Top

We spent most of the afternoon with friends at the home of my Japanese friend as we were hosted by his wife (he is working in Thailand at the moment) four couples joined and we spent a good few hours enjoying each others company and telling stories. Hani came home tired but much more happy and is presently sleeping (for the first time in a few days, actually).

As some will know we do have something of a combustible relationship and she is a hot tempered but loving woman. I have been under the kosh somewhat over the last few years trying to rescue my businesses and keep the family afloat. Having pretty much achieved that I was devastated by Hani telling me that when things are in order again financially we had better go our separate ways. She has a habit of saying things she doesn't mean in the heat of the moment and I took this to be one of them but she repeated the message a few times. To put it mildly I went off the rails completely and it has of course made a difficult situation much worse.

We are sort of being forced to address our underlying problems and I am certain she is the person I want to grow old alongside. I do hope that she sees things the same way eventually. To be clear she is not seeking me to leave the home or anything like that at the moment but we are very awkward with each other.

I love her to bits and I know that she is a very proud and brave woman. For those who know her well and communicate with her on Facebook, I can assure you that you'll see no hint of our difficulties there as she hasn't even confided in her close RL friends that we have anything other than the most perfect of unions. Please dear friends if you do communicate with her on FB don't make reference to our troubles as my being a "blabbermouth" is just another black mark against me.

126PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 9:28am Top

>115 amanda4242: Thank you, Amanda. xx

>116 avatiakh: What great names, Kerry! Rees-Mogg is really a stuffed shirt but a likeable and intelligent one. My politics and his are certainly in no way attuned but I do think he is a good man. Thanks for the kind words of support my good friend.

>117 mahsdad: Thanks Jeff.

127PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 9:31am Top

>118 Berly: Those hugs are very gratefully received, Kimmers!

>119 Ameise1: Thank you dear Barbara. LT makes me less topsy-turvy at least.

>120 SandDune: Of course you are one of the group that has had the pleasure of meeting both Hani and I together and - if I am not mistaken - along with John Simpson and Megan - the only one who has met my tribe en masse. If you recall we were clearly happy together as a group in those days and I am trying to get us back to that situation.

128PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 9:35am Top

>121 jessibud2: Thank you Shelley. As an asthmatic, I am at least very aware of the need to try and control my breathing. I must admit though yesterday driving off to my project site, I was thinking to myself that life seemed such a pointless exercise only to remember that my daughters, son and, yes, my SWMBO need me so.

>122 karenmarie: I am physically quite well at the moment, Karen, which is somewhat surprising actually!
I am pleased at least that I was able to bring the Bookers to your attention. xx

129PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 9:37am Top

>123 Fourpawz2: Thank you Charlotte. It is lovely to see you back posting here my friend. xx

>124 scaifea: I wish that I could read, Amber. I have hardly read a page in three weeks. I have never read less in thirty five years and my huge stock of books are looking down at me from shelves, wardrobes, cupboards and piles with something approaching contempt at the moment.

Thanks for being a pal.

130ChelleBearss
Jul 30, 2017, 10:03am Top

>125 PaulCranswick: Sorry to see you and Hani are having difficulties. Hopefully over time you can warm to each other again.

131PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 10:15am Top

>130 ChelleBearss: Probably we have always been a little too warm, Chelle. Just looked in on her and she is sleeping peacefully. Love ought to conquer all but is it always enough?

132msf59
Jul 30, 2017, 10:30am Top

Hi, Paul. Sorry to hear about the RL difficulties. I hope you both can work this out. Sending caring & healing vibes from the Great Midwest!

133PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 10:48am Top

>132 msf59: The Great Midwest is certainly a place I would like to visit and soon dear buddy. Thanks for stopping by, Mark, and keeping the threads zinging whilst so many of us have been treading water.

134m.belljackson
Jul 30, 2017, 11:52am Top

Paul -

My daughter is a Marriage and Family therapist - it sounds like a third highly intelligent and compassionate person
would be good to meet with. You have weathered too many crisis-es alone.

135PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 11:54am Top

>134 m.belljackson: I think that you are 100% right about that Marianne. I have told Hani that I am more than happy to go to counselling with her to help to find a good way forward for us both.

136johnsimpson
Jul 30, 2017, 3:26pm Top

Hi Paul, sorry to hear that things are not too good with you and Hani, when Karen and I met you all you were a happy bunch and hopefully that will return mate. It would be a shame to lose what you had together especially with the business turmoil you have gone through over quite a period which cannot have helped the situation. I have not mentioned anything to Karen as she converses with Hani on FB and I wouldn't want her to slip up but we both thought you would go into your dotage together as me and Mrs S hope to do. I think Marianne is probably right in suggesting a third party to help as that is what we have suggested to Rob with his problems.

Sending love and hugs to you both and that things slowly start to heal and you can recoup your lovely, loving relationship.

137FAMeulstee
Jul 30, 2017, 5:09pm Top

Sorry to read you and Hani are going through such rough times with, Paul. I hope you two can work this out...
((((big hugs))))

138BLBera
Jul 30, 2017, 5:12pm Top

Sorry to hear about the tough times you are going through, Paul.

139drneutron
Jul 30, 2017, 6:15pm Top

Yup, me too. Will keep you two in my thoughts and prayers.

140Familyhistorian
Jul 30, 2017, 7:45pm Top

Sorry to hear about your troubles, Paul. I am probably the worst person to give advice but having a counsellor to help get to the root of things sounds like a good plan.

141PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 8:18pm Top

>136 johnsimpson: I am sure that Karen and yourself will make that dotage ambition John! We will try I am sure to work things out but Hani needs a little space at the moment, I think.

>137 FAMeulstee: Thank you, Anita. I am getting somewhat used to tough times!

>138 BLBera: Thanks for your supportive post, Beth. xx

142PaulCranswick
Jul 30, 2017, 8:20pm Top

>139 drneutron: Thanks Jim. My friends here and elsewhere certainly play a part in keeping me sane and her friends are extremely good to Hani and I am grateful in the extreme for their love and support of her - even when they don't fully realise how much it is needed.

>140 Familyhistorian: I am prepared to have a third party help Hani and myself. I am not so sure about her yet. Thanks, Meg.

143karenmarie
Jul 31, 2017, 6:41am Top

Hi Paul!

Sending hugs to you and Hani. Hang in there.

144foggidawn
Jul 31, 2017, 7:06am Top

Sorry to hear about your current troubles, Paul. Don't beat yourself up over not reading, on top of everything else. The books will always be there when you are in the frame of mind for them.

145PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 7:14am Top

>143 karenmarie: Thank you Karen. You are truly a great pal.

>144 foggidawn: Thanks Foggy. It is funny that sometimes I just get the feeling that the books are despondent then realise - it is me!

146jnwelch
Jul 31, 2017, 9:16am Top

My sympathy, too, Paul. You and Hani are great together, so I know you'll find a way.

147PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 9:43am Top

>146 jnwelch: Thanks buddy. I sure do hope so.

148benitastrnad
Jul 31, 2017, 12:20pm Top

#116
A couple in my white bread hometown have named their children Scholastica and Benidictia. Both named for obscure saints. Now they have another child on the way, so people are wondering what obscure saint will be on the birth certificate this time.

149charl08
Jul 31, 2017, 1:08pm Top

Hey Paul, so sorry to hear things haven't been going so well. Sending my best wishes, and hope for you. >128 PaulCranswick: There is a point, and you are valued here too.

I have seen flowers come in stony places
And kind things done by men with ugly faces
And the gold cup won by the worst horse at the races,
So I trust too.
John Masefield

150cameling
Jul 31, 2017, 5:12pm Top

Hugs to you, Paul. I'm so sorry you're going through a bad patch, just when you've managed to climb over the financial hurdles. A good counselor could help you guys talk things out in a neutral setting, and perhaps allow each of you to find a way back to rowing your marital boat together in the same direction. Or perhaps a short vacation somewhere close by could be the break you need together?

151mmignano11
Jul 31, 2017, 6:23pm Top

Paul, my friend! I am so sorry to read of the rift you are experiencing right now with Hani. I want you to know that my husband Dom and I split up for two years almost ten years ago. I knew he had to move out for the sake of my daughters. They were being subjected to too much fighting between us and they were still young. I knew that I loved him but I knew it had to be done. I was so devastated I cried and cried and wanted nothing more than to be back with him but he had personal problems that I thought he would never resolve, even for me who he claimed to love and for our children whom he claimed he had no wish to hurt. But we did work things out and I love him as much if not more than I did then. I also learned to be a kinder person which was his issue with me. I was very capable of being a verbal harridan and there was no arguing with me, I promise you that. I was quite the wordsmith and used them like a weapon. (I think you mentioned that Hani can be hurtful sometimes with what she says. I know I used my words to bring him pain because I felt so powerless to make things right between us, and wanted to punish him.) It quickly became shouting and we resolved nothing. We did try counseling but if I'm honest what really worked was that we promised each other we would work on the issues we brought to each other, and we did. But it might help to get suggestions on how to listen to each other and an objective referee often helps to turn your arguments into discussions. Hang in there, buddy! PS. Things are better here for me although I still cry when I think about what happened with my dogs. But we are doing okay living with our friends and have had some good laughs together. We are still looking for a place of our own, though.

152Caroline_McElwee
Jul 31, 2017, 6:27pm Top

Sorry to read of your troubles Paul, I hope you and Hani can sort it out. Take it slowly.

153PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 7:38pm Top

>148 benitastrnad: The naming of children is an interesting subject, Benita. We came up with Kyra Yasmyne Amanda for our first born after much debate and then proceeded to use the same initials for our next two. Kyran Yousuf Adrian and Karyn Ysabelle Amylea. Hani is responsible for the spellings!

>149 charl08: A nice surprise, Charlotte, to be greeted by John Masefield this early morning! Thanks for the kind words and sentiments - I am quite determined that somehow we will get through this intact if a little battered.

154PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 7:44pm Top

>150 cameling: Thanks Caro. I have suggested a holiday together but Hani has decided to go on holiday with a close friend and she will go off to Sabah and Sarawak next week for a few days. She believes that separate counselling would be of more benefit than joint counselling and I am mulling this over.

>151 mmignano11: Lovely to hear from you Mary Beth and thank you for the kind advice. I am against moving out actually as I don't think it would lead to my coming back. Hani told me that she doesn't want to be separated from me but the issues we have certainly do need a lot of work.
I am glad to see that you are coping after that dreadful incident with your dogs. xxx

>152 Caroline_McElwee: That is very observant, Caroline. Actually one of my biggest faults is to try and rush to solve things and force their resolution. I am trying my utmost to give Hani time and space such that we can come to terms with each other properly.

155jessibud2
Jul 31, 2017, 8:14pm Top

Just an unsolicited opinion here but speaking from experience, separate counselling is often helpful for a variety of reasons, but if the problem is between 2 people in a couple, couple counselling is, I think, necessary. How else to resolve issues that involve both parties? I will not relate my own experiences except to say that if one half of a couple does not have an interest in working together for the couple, well, it makes a tough situation harder

156PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 8:27pm Top

>155 jessibud2: Personally, Shelley, I agree with you but with Hani I believe it is incremental steps. She has anger management issues, panic attack issues, self-worth issues and my own issues relate to coming to terms with a relationship that quite suddenly ceased its full dimensions a number of years ago. I blame myself actually as work distracted me and I should have tried much harder.

157PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 8:29pm Top

One of the things funnily enough that has hurt me as much as most things is that Hani had ceased for the longest time to cook for the house, abrogating responsibility for this into the capable hands of Erni.

She cooked my dinner last night which touched me immensely.

158PaulCranswick
Edited: Jul 31, 2017, 10:18pm Top

The British Author Challenge for August is up:

http://www.librarything.com/topic/266444

This month we have Winifred Holtby and Robert Graves.

159PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 10:16pm Top

The Canadian Author Challenge for August is also up:

http://www.librarything.com/topic/266446

Ruth Ozeki & Douglas Coupland

160Berly
Jul 31, 2017, 10:44pm Top

Paul--Thanks for posting the challenges and taking care of us here at LT even in the midst of all you are going through. Sending love and hugs to you and to Hani.

161PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 11:05pm Top

No problem Kimmers - it is therapeutic!

162Berly
Jul 31, 2017, 11:07pm Top

True!! : )

163PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 11:15pm Top

It is funny and perhaps a-typical of our little troupe that I am firmly of the view that, if only I can get my reading back on track, everything else will be fine.

164bohemima
Jul 31, 2017, 11:24pm Top

Sending love to you both. I'll say that I agree with Hani on the incremental steps re: counseling. She or you might more easily express any anger or disappointment in separate sessions, perhaps get some light on those factors, and then come together as a couple to forge forward as full partners.

My thoughts are with you at this very difficult time.

165PaulCranswick
Jul 31, 2017, 11:55pm Top

>164 bohemima: That is wise, Gail and I will certainly be following her in the idea she has put forward.

166souloftherose
Aug 1, 2017, 5:35am Top

Sending love and hugs to you and Hani, Paul. And I will second Gail's suggestion in >164 bohemima: - if Hani feels individual counselling will be beneficial at the moment that may be the best way to go for now and then you both may feel ready to have some counselling together if still needed.

167PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 9:17am Top

>166 souloftherose: Thank you Heather. She is a wise, if often difficult, woman and I will follow her wishes.

168Berly
Aug 1, 2017, 11:28am Top

Hi, Paul! Wishing you a better Tuesday.

169PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 12:41pm Top

>168 Berly: Incremental steps dear Kimmers. Tuesday is done and I am looking forward to Wednesday. xx

170lkernagh
Aug 1, 2017, 6:27pm Top

Stopping by for a quick visit and very sorry to read about the troubles you and Hani are going through. Here is hoping that August will be a more positive month for both of you.

171PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 7:33pm Top

>170 lkernagh: Thank you, Lori. I am very much hoping that August is a good month in so many ways for me and all of us.

172PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 7:36pm Top

July Month in Review:

A disastrous month to be honest.

Books finished : 1 : The Endless Steppe by Esther Hautzig.

Nothing much else to report reading wise, other than started probably 20 books some of which I read a couple of pages and set aside and some of which I made some progress.

Now to August!

173brodiew2
Aug 1, 2017, 7:47pm Top

Good evening, Paul. I hope all is well with you.

Random Q: Do you ever read popcorn? And, if so, what is popcorn to you?

174PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 7:53pm Top

>173 brodiew2: Hi Brodie. I am struggling on!

It is not often that I am flummoxed completely by a question but you have got me with that one - I honestly have no idea what "reading popcorn" means. Please clarify, buddy.

175PaulCranswick
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 1:29pm Top

August Reading Plans

After the desperate state of my reading affairs for July, I am not setting myself the most onerous of tasks for August.

Books to Complete

1 Miss Buncle's Book by D.E. Stevenson (BAC)
2 Song Yet Sung by James McBride (AAC)

BAC

3 South Riding by Winifred Holtby
4 Count Belisarius by Robert Graves

AAC

5 The Talented Mr. Ripley by Patricia Highsmith

CAC

6 A Tale for the Time Being by Ruth Ozeki

ANZAC Bingo

7 The Rehearsal by Eleanor Catton (Around the World in 80 Books)

AROUND THE WORLD IN 80 BOOKS

8 Sputnik Sweetheart by Haruki Murakami
9 Amok by Stefan Zweig

POETRY

10 The Trouble With Poetry by Billy Collins

NON-FICTION

11 The Face of Battle by John Keegan

BOOKER LONGLIST

12 The Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead

I think that is achievable.

176brodiew2
Aug 1, 2017, 8:12pm Top

HA! No worries, Paul. By popcorn, I mean more popular fiction; summer reads, bestsellers, perhaps, even genre fiction. That's what I meant. ;-)

177PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 8:30pm Top

>176 brodiew2: Oh I see Brodie. Well I have recently bought a book by Jeffrey Archer!

I do like Scandi crimesters
I do like some of the old thriller writers like Innes, MacLean, Bagley etc
I do like historical fiction such as Bernard Cornwell and the Genghis Khan books by Conn Iggulden

178m.belljackson
Aug 1, 2017, 8:32pm Top

>175 PaulCranswick:

Nah - you need MORE Challenges - join the 2017 Non-fiction Reading - this month, it's about what you've been curious about,
which will likely overlap what you have planned.

179PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 8:39pm Top

>178 m.belljackson: I do sometimes join the non-fiction challenge, Marianne and will coincide the reading if at all possible.

The Non-Fiction challenge is of course administered by Suz (Chatterbox) and I noticed yesterday that she and Anita are still kicking up a storm and are still neck and neck for most books read amongst the top 140 threads posting wise.

Suz had 247 books as of yesterday &
Anita had 246

180brodiew2
Aug 1, 2017, 9:04pm Top

>177 PaulCranswick: Very good, Paul. Archer is good stuff. I've listened to a few of his over the years. Nothing new, mind you. If you get a chance, try A Twist in the Tale. I love this collection of short stories. I may be time to revisit it as it was a long time ago. I also enjoyed False Impression.

181PaulCranswick
Aug 1, 2017, 9:07pm Top

>180 brodiew2: I may read it too Brodie if I have time this month. Fingers crossed. Other lighter reading i like would include Robert Goddard, Lee Child and Andrea Camilleri.

182Berly
Aug 1, 2017, 9:08pm Top

Or you could try Kafka on the Shore...just saying. Feel the love; not the pressure!!

183harrygbutler
Aug 2, 2017, 6:34am Top

Hi, Paul! Wishing you well in this troublous time.

I've scaled back my list of planned reads for August myself ÔÇö I don't anticipate a big drop in reading, but interlibrary loan books, whose arrival is unpredictable, and new acquisitions regularly push others aside, so I decided to leave more space for flexibility.

184karenmarie
Aug 2, 2017, 8:33am Top

Hi Paul!

Best wishes for your August reading. Picking up and putting down books is the worst for a serious reader, and I hope you can get your reading mojo back soon.

Hugs to you and Hani as you continue to work on your relationship.

185PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 12:19pm Top

>182 Berly: Hahaha no pressure at all Kimmers!

>183 harrygbutler: I am trying to be realistic and at the same time hopeful. I have never had a month before when I only read 1 book and so I can't believe that I am in for a repeat.

>184 karenmarie: I hope so to Karen. Hani will take a short holiday to Sabah next week with a friend and I hope it will help us both. xx

186cameling
Aug 2, 2017, 12:33pm Top

Hani cooking dinner for you could be a sign that she's trying too. Hope her holiday to Sabah and Sarawak will be the ticket she needs to put some things in perspective. I think individual counseling first followed by couple counseling might be the speed of progression that works better for her. You may have to be a bit more patient that things aren't being resolved as quickly as you would like.

Perhaps since there won't be an awkward tension in the air at home while she's on holiday, you'll get over your book funk and get to immerse yourself into some good reads. Uplifted mood and all from holiday and book reading could result in a warm and joyous homecoming at the end of the week. Fingers crossed.

187PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 1:19pm Top

>186 cameling: It is a sign that she is trying for sure, Caro. There is still a spark or two there for sure. Well I have read a few pages today at least.

188weird_O
Aug 2, 2017, 1:52pm Top

I am wishing all the best for you and your beloved, Paul.

189cameling
Aug 2, 2017, 2:20pm Top

Hey Paul, there's a group read for Kafka on the Shore .. mari-la!

190PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 7:43pm Top

>188 weird_O: Bill, thanks buddy. All the positive vibes I am receiving are definitely helping us!

>189 cameling: Ok Caro, I fold. I will go and find my copy and join in.

191Berly
Aug 2, 2017, 7:54pm Top

>189 cameling: Nicely done, Caro!!

>190 PaulCranswick: *beams*

192PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 7:55pm Top

>191 Berly: It is one of your challenges Kimmers - how on earth would i be able to resist?

193Berly
Aug 2, 2017, 7:58pm Top

>192 PaulCranswick: Awwww! So glad to have you on board. And not just because you say the nicest things. ; ) I look forward to your witty insights.

194PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 8:16pm Top

>193 Berly: So you are happy because I say both the nicest and the baddest things!

195Berly
Aug 2, 2017, 8:23pm Top

Yup. : P

196PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 8:25pm Top

>195 Berly: I am finding a slight twinge of mojo coming back thanks to you guys. I might actually finish a book today! Watch this space. xx

197brodiew2
Aug 2, 2017, 8:57pm Top

Hello Paul! Read on, Sir. Read on!

198PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 9:04pm Top

>197 brodiew2: Thanks Brodie - Mojo dancing slowly into clear sight!

199m.belljackson
Aug 2, 2017, 10:08pm Top

Rock 'n Roll!!!

200PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 10:31pm Top

>199 m.belljackson: Now rock n roll is just my thing, Marianne!

201humouress
Aug 2, 2017, 10:56pm Top

>125 PaulCranswick: Gosh, Paul, that news comes as a bit of a shock to the system. Hopefully, it's just a reaction to the reduction in pressure in other parts of your lives. Incremental steps, as long as they're in the right direction, are still steps. Wishing you guys the best.

As for your books looming over you, I think they're trying to send you message ;0)

202PaulCranswick
Aug 2, 2017, 11:08pm Top

>201 humouress: Well Nina, the stresses and strains of the last few years have certainly taken their toll on the both of us but there is a willingness to work at it so I suppose it is not damaged beyond repair.
Those books - their ominous silence is booming!

203DianaNL
Aug 3, 2017, 4:24am Top

Oh Paul, I'm so sorry for you and Hani. I hope there's still love and strength. Big hugs. xx

204sirfurboy
Aug 3, 2017, 5:57am Top

>179 PaulCranswick: So are you going to post up your stats list?

Sorry to hear about the issues at home, and I hope you find a way forward.

205LovingLit
Edited: Aug 3, 2017, 6:40am Top

Oh dear, catching up since my last post has been a trial. Paul, hugs to you and Hani in these tough times. It sounds very stressful for you all. I am sure things can be worked out if everyone is honest with themselves and each other....so hard to do in reality, but something good to aspire to. I wish you both the best of luck (((hugs)))
(I remember in your early LT days you affectionately referred to her as SWMBO, that was so cute! I think my lovely other could rightfully refer to was me as that....but that is another story)
Eta: spelling

206karenmarie
Aug 3, 2017, 7:15am Top

Hi Paul!

Yay for slight twinges of reading mojo, and see you on the Kafka on the Shore thread.

207PaulCranswick
Aug 3, 2017, 12:32pm Top

>203 DianaNL: Hani spent the entire day out with her pals and came home near 11 pm with a smile on her face which makes a very welcome change. I hope and pray we will get over the various bumps in the road and all our friends including all my friends here are nothing but a comfort and a help to us both.

>204 sirfurboy: I will get both regular stats out by this weekend Sir F. Mark has of course overtaken me in the posting league this month both as a result of me treading water but also because he is a posting postie machine!

208PaulCranswick
Aug 3, 2017, 12:34pm Top

>205 LovingLit: I still do refer to her as SWMBO occasionally, Megan, but reduced it as a moniker for her as a number of the group got to know her via FB and through meet-ups.
To be really candid with each other is of course a tough, tough thing to do.

>206 karenmarie: I will be venturing to that particular shore Karen when I finish the book I am actually now reading. xx

209sirfurboy
Aug 3, 2017, 12:37pm Top

210PaulCranswick
Aug 3, 2017, 12:50pm Top

>209 sirfurboy: Been over and read your review Sir F of Varoufakis' book. Both book and your review, excellent.

211sirfurboy
Aug 4, 2017, 5:50am Top

>210 PaulCranswick: Thanks Paul. The book is definitely a recommended read.

212PaulCranswick
Aug 4, 2017, 9:06am Top

>211 sirfurboy: I am not as sure that it would appeal to non-Europeans, but I do think it makes some very salient points about the hypocrisy of national and intra-national debt.

213brodiew2
Aug 4, 2017, 11:55am Top

Good whatever it is where ever you are! ;-P It's morning here.

>125 PaulCranswick: I am sorry for ignoring these comments. I missed them the first time around. I can sympathize and empathize. I wish you and Hani the best.

214PaulCranswick
Aug 4, 2017, 2:35pm Top

>213 brodiew2: Thank you Brodie. Getting a little better day by day.

215DeltaQueen50
Aug 4, 2017, 3:08pm Top

Hi Paul, sorry to read that you and Hanni are having some difficulties right now. I'm sending sympathy and the hope that everything works out for the two of you.

216PaulCranswick
Aug 4, 2017, 3:19pm Top

>215 DeltaQueen50: Thank you dear Guru. xx Having good friends visit is a tonic in any event.

217benitastrnad
Edited: Aug 4, 2017, 10:10pm Top

I watched a TV program last night on one of the big country houses in South Yorkshire. The program was aired here on my local PBS station and was done by a Englishmn named Dan Cruickshank. The program was titled the Country House Revealed and the episode was about Wentworth Woodhouse. It was very interesting and so much history about South Yorkshire.

218benitastrnad
Edited: Aug 4, 2017, 10:21pm Top

In reading up on Wentworth Woodhouse I learned that it was the site for the filming of the movie version of Jonathan Strange and Mr. Norell by Susanna Clarke.

219LizzieD
Aug 4, 2017, 11:13pm Top

Dear Paul, love to you and Hani both. You know I wish the best for you and great loads of patience and tolerance and honesty and grit along the road; I know that the love is there. Your investment in each other is too huge to give up. Peace, friend.

220roundballnz
Aug 4, 2017, 11:16pm Top

come back to your threads after a mini break & found myself chortling away .... never though would see discussion of Prince Albert piercings here .....

see life is rather turbulent for you currently, hold on there .....nothing to add as not a member of international coupledom

221Ameise1
Aug 5, 2017, 4:12am Top

Happy weekend, Paul.

222PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 4:25am Top

>217 benitastrnad: & 218 Wentworth House is a lovely place and I used to cycle past the place on my training rides every day, Benita.
I was brought up in a village which bisects South and West Yorkshire and, although I consider myself from the latter (i.e. Wakefield rather than Barnsley) I am inordinately proud of the history and culture of the area.

As I understand it the house is up for sale......anybody?

223PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 4:28am Top

>219 LizzieD: Thank you dear Peggy. I think that deep down we both know that too. Neither of us are quitters so we will make it through somehow.

>220 roundballnz: Who would have thought it, Alex, all that fuss over just a small prick? - well you know what I mean!

Sometimes I think that bachelorhood has its advantages but then Hani will go and cook me something or give me a smile and I'll realise I don't really want to go back to that state of being.

>221 Ameise1: Thanks Barbara. So far so very good.

224PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 4:56am Top

There is a distinct sound of trumpets blaring........

52.

Miss Buncle's Book by D.E. Stevenson

Date of Publication : 1936
Pages : 299
British Author Challenge

Hurrah and Huzzah!

What a nice way to break my reading drought. A book about a lady whose share dividends dwindle and who then writes a book of "fiction" about her village and its inhabitants which is a rip roaring bestseller only for the villagers to not take so kindly to her unerring portrayals.

The word charming was fixed in my mind as I prepared to jot down some thoughts on this book and charmed indeed I was despite myself and my present gloomy moods. Ms. Stevenson had a light but a very sure touch and this book is thoroughly enjoyable.

8/10

225PaulCranswick
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 1:26pm Top

Currently Reading:

Now here is probably why I have been stuck. I have curtailed some of my reading started last month and I will return to it when I am in a better frame of mind.


226roundballnz
Aug 5, 2017, 5:14am Top

>223 PaulCranswick: I think some are wired for bachelorhood, others not so, good thing we live in an age where both are socially acceptable ...

funny how that prick had peeps running from the keyboards ­čśé

227PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 5:26am Top

>226 roundballnz: Indeed Alex. It isn't and shouldn't be a stigma anymore whether one is married or not, what colour you are, what your sexuality is, your political orientation (within reason), your creed, your ethnicity, your age, your gender etc etc etc. This group is one place I have found where genuinely those things don't matter a whit and long may it continue so.

Good old Albert - rather him than me; surely would have been painful enough looking down on a scowling Queen Vic without having your wedding tackle trussed up tight as well.

228msf59
Aug 5, 2017, 7:10am Top

Happy weekend, Paul. I like those current reads. I love the cover of the Collins collection. I have not read that one. If you see anything that resonates, share it over on the AAC poetry thread.

I hope you like the Murakami. I know he is not a natural for you.

229PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 7:27am Top

>228 msf59: I will do, Mark. I wouldn't rate Collins in the top drawer of poets but he is so accessible and always makes interesting reading.

I have only read Norwegian Wood thus far buddy and didn't hate it. Anyway Kimmers called on me to read it so read it I must!

Listening to Fleetwood Mac's Tusk as part of my random spotify playlist today - what a great track that is!

230charl08
Aug 5, 2017, 7:34am Top

Glad to hear that you have broken the reading duck. Sounds like fun - I'll have a look for it online.

231bohemima
Aug 5, 2017, 8:37am Top

Just breezing through to keep up with you and your doings, Paul.

Very glad your reading slump is disappearing!

232Berly
Aug 5, 2017, 9:03am Top

Happy weekend, Paul! I hope you enjoy the strangeness of Kafka. ; ) Saw you over on the thread.

233Carmenere
Aug 5, 2017, 9:35am Top

Oh joy! I'm so happy your reading funk may be diminishing! It boggles my mind why these funks afflict so many of us.
Ya know, I haven't listened to Tusk in ages. I've got the vinyl so maybe, now that you've got me pining for it, I'll throw it on the turnstile this weekend.

234karenmarie
Aug 5, 2017, 10:37am Top

Hi Paul!

Congratulations on breaking the book-finishing drought. Nice review. I was going to add Miss Buncle's Book to my wishlist, but it's already there!

Wishing you a restful weekend.

235scaifea
Aug 5, 2017, 11:37am Top

Happy weekend, Paul! Maybe the 75ers should pool our funds for that little place up there in >222 PaulCranswick: as a readers' retreat...

236PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 12:26pm Top

>230 charl08: I do think that you would enjoy it Charlotte. It is something of a throwback to a simpler and happier time.

>231 bohemima: I am sort of ushering it over the horizon, Gail. I went out with Kyran this evening to have a boys night out and we caught the movie Dunkirk. Overall I think I enjoyed it and it was good to see Anthony Andrews once again on the big screen with Mark Rylance as always playing a great but understated role.

237PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 12:32pm Top

>232 Berly: Told ya I would join in Kimmers! So far so good with it too. It is quirky certainly but readable too.

>233 Carmenere: It is funny, Lynda, that following the success of "Rumours", Tusk was deemed by the critics as an overindulgent mess but there are some real gems on it. At times of personal stress I often fail to concentrate on my reading.

238PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 12:38pm Top

>234 karenmarie: Then I was preaching to the already converted, Karen!
I am sure that you'll enjoy it when you do get round to it.

>235 scaifea: Wouldn't that be just swell! Buying it would be one thing, Amber - maintaining the bloody thing would be amongst our collective lot.

239jnwelch
Aug 5, 2017, 12:50pm Top

Hi, Paul.

Miss Buncle's Book is a great pick to break a reading drought. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

I'm glad you're going to read Kafka on the Shore. What a book. Norwegian Wood is misleading as to his style. The only other one remotely similar to it is Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki, IMO.

I think I like the poetry of Billy Collins more than you do. He's an excellent "entry poet" for folks not used to reading poetry. Plus he's very funny and humane in person.

240LizzieD
Aug 5, 2017, 12:50pm Top

So happy that you enjoyed Miss Buncle, Paul. You know that there are 2 or 3 more, right? Anyway, DE was Robert Louis's niece - a piece of information I didn't know for years. AND she's one of my mother's favorite authors - gently funny and sweet.
I really enjoyed *Kafka*, but my heart still belongs to *Wind-up Bird*!

241Ameise1
Aug 5, 2017, 12:54pm Top

>224 PaulCranswick: I liked that one, too.

242PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 12:56pm Top

>239 jnwelch: I am not off put so far by any designs on quirkiness, Joe.

I do enjoy Billy Collins and I certainly recognise that there is abundant skill in his simplicity. That I don't place him amongst the top echelon of poets is no slight to a very digestible wordsmith.

>240 LizzieD: Your mother obviously retains excellent taste, Peggy. The Stevenson clan were a remarkable bunch indeed. Many of the lighthouses dotted around the UK had the family hand upon them at one stage or another.
I have just gulped and started to brave one of his epics and you go and plug the other one for me!

243PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 12:58pm Top

>241 Ameise1: Very nearly missed you Barbara. There is much to like about DE Stevenson's writing, I think.

244streamsong
Aug 5, 2017, 2:39pm Top

BYT's indeed!

You have great plans for your August reading. Your minimal list is far more than I have been achieving lately. :( I have just started Kafka on the Shore which is my first Murakami. I'd also love to reread The Talented Mr. Ripley this month, but we shall see.

All I can say about your problems, is it's worth the struggle. ;-) Separate counseling is good. You can then come together for some joint counseling if you like.

245bohemima
Aug 5, 2017, 3:45pm Top

>236 PaulCranswick: Oh, Anthony Andrews! I've seen him in so many wonderful roles I've lost count. An under-appreciated one is, I think, the lead in the old tv series: Danger: UXB. It was a tense and moving series about bomb disposal in Britain during WW2. I watched it a second time with my late husband and he loved it as well.

All the Buncle lover here is moving that one up my list.

And to keep you company in an odd way, I'm reading volume 2 about Emperor Claudius by Graves. He's quite a versatile author, as well as being brilliant in that old polymath way.

246cameling
Edited: Aug 5, 2017, 3:49pm Top

Every time I read a Haruki Murakami I am envious of the interestingly quirky world his mind lives in and want an invite to live in it too. The only work of his (so far, since I've not read all he's written yet) I am not enamored with is The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle .. I couldn't work out what he was trying to get at with that one.

hmm.. touchstones don't seem to be working...

247BLBera
Aug 5, 2017, 4:01pm Top

I also enjoyed Miss Buncle's Book and Miss Buncle Married, Paul. I look forward to the last one in the trilogy.

248johnsimpson
Aug 5, 2017, 4:40pm Top

Hope you are having a good weekend mate. What a shame Bairstow couldn't get his century although I was puzzled by his shot selection when the field was set back and he could have got a single easily. I think England are in a good position as long as they bat sensibly in the second dig.

249benitastrnad
Edited: Aug 5, 2017, 9:52pm Top

#239

I will back up what Joe said about Norwegian Wood. That title is not the norm for a work by Murakami. It does pair well with Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki but most of his work is clearly surreal in nature and is magical realism. Kafka is something totally different from Norwegian Wood and much more like most of his other works.

250benitastrnad
Edited: Aug 5, 2017, 9:52pm Top

#246

I read once that Murakami said that Wind-Up Bird is about the loss of memory and how memory gets altered if we don't write it down and document things. In paticular Murakami was concerned about the attempts to white wash Japanese history and allow Japan off the hook when it comes to historical misdeeds. Murakami was very concerned about what he saw as attempts to clean up the impact of what Japan and done in China and Manchuria and to the indigenous people's living inside its borders before WWII. He was not a fan of "japan indication" of the conqueror end areas and thinks that Japan must never forget what was done as a matter of policy. He thinks that many present day Japanese politicians and community leaders are forgetting the lessons of WWII and of Empire making.

251PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 10:07pm Top

>244 streamsong: Lovely to see you Janet. I am hoping that I achieve my reading plans (for the first time this year!) and get a little bit back on track in my reading just as I hope to get back on track with other things too.
Initial separate counselling will work I think as Hani needs to address her anger issues and can more probably do this in a separate forum.

>245 bohemima: And just to be extremely embarrassed Gail, it was actually Kenneth Branagh and not Anthony Andrews I thought I was watching! What a chump I am. Anyway Andrews was and is a very good actor.
I love the Claudius books by Robert Graves. I, Claudius would be on my list of top ten novels without a qualm.

252PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 10:09pm Top

>246 cameling: Sometimes Caro I think we have just got to let the writing and the writer take us where he/she will and not try to second guess all the time. Enjoy without understanding is something I may have to get myself used to!

>247 BLBera: I will certainly look for the next two instalments, Beth. It was nice to read something about small concerns in life when I have much more serious issues at hand. xx

253PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 10:22pm Top

>248 johnsimpson: Couldn't agree more John but what a fantastic knock it was. He really is one of the first names on the team sheet already isn't he? I am not so sure that we are quite geared up for batting sensibly Root and Cook aside.
The soccer season starts for Leeds United this afternoon (UK time) and we are going into the new campaign, I think, with higher hopes than I can remember for many a moon. A new Head Coach who wants to play good football, a bevy of new international players albeit some new names to me who appear to be fast, hungry and very skilful. The pundits have partially written us off but I reckon we'll win the thing and be back in the Premier League at last where (we think) we belong.

>249 benitastrnad: I should probably read it then whilst smoking weed, Benita, but unfortunately I don't know how to inhale so the stuff would be entirely wasted on me!

>250 benitastrnad: Fascinating. I must bear that in mind when I eventually get to that one too.
This is what the brilliant English novelist David Mitchell (often referred to as our Murakami) had to say when he reviewed Kafka on the Shore for the Guardian newspaper:

When the English translation of Haruki Murakami's bestselling A Wind-Up Bird Chronicle transformed one of Japan's best-kept literary secrets into the world's best-known living Japanese novelist, this reviewer's acquaintances neatly subdivided themselves into three groups: besotted devotees (one British friend went so far as to name his newborn son "Haruki"); critical admirers; and people who came out in a nasty rash. Kafka on the Shore, published in the old country in 2002 and now translated into English by Phillip Gabriel, shares many common denominators with its wind-up predecessor, but that triad of readers' reactions looks set for a reshuffle.

He is very much a devotee.

254laytonwoman3rd
Aug 5, 2017, 10:36pm Top

I'm sorry to hear things are so strained between you and Hani, Paul. I believe that if you both want to heal the marriage and stay together, you will find a way to make it work. Time and attention...and possibly outside help, as has been suggested, can work wonders.

255PaulCranswick
Aug 5, 2017, 10:41pm Top

>254 laytonwoman3rd: Thank you Linda. I took Kyran, my son, out for cinema yesterday and he was in tears over food at TGI Friday. The food actually wasn't all that bad but he was upset that his hopes of overseas study were being compromised by my difficulties in saving my businesses and the subsequent fall out of that pressure to our marriage. I assured him that the former was now more on track and that in respect of the latter I had no intention of walking away.
Things are tough because, though we lay side by side every night (or the bits she doesn't get up to call her phone-pals in Europe) every touch, accidental or otherwise, results in a wince from Hani involuntary or not. Time.

256amanda4242
Aug 5, 2017, 11:48pm Top

>224 PaulCranswick: Glad Miss Buncle was a hit with you. I love that sort of light comic novel for getting out of a funk.

257PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 12:00am Top

>256 amanda4242: Well it sure helped me, Amanda!

258AMQS
Aug 6, 2017, 12:53am Top

Dear, dear Paul, I am grossly overdue for a visit, and I thank you for always keeping my thread warm what I am away. I am so sorry to hear of the heartache and turmoil in your life right now. I don't know that I can add anything to what our friends have already said, but I am cheering for you, and thinking of you, and hoping that you will find peace and an easing of your sorrows and strife. Life is fraught with so many difficulties. Stelios owns his own business, so I understand the unique pressures you business owners face, and the pressures to provide for your families and your employees. The journey is not easy, and I am hoping yours will get easier. Love to you and your family.

259PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 1:01am Top

>258 AMQS: Thank you for that lovely message, Anne. I have missed you around but must say that your photos of Cyprus and Greece made me so pleased that you all managed to have such a great family holiday before Callia goes away for college. Stelios of course got to trace his ancestry too but it is also the roots of our western civilisation too isn't it? xx

260PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 2:40am Top

Update on the Posting League.

Mark has had a stellar month and waltzed past me at the top whilst I have spent mine floundering in life, in love and in LT.

Top 100 threads as per a few minutes ago:

1 msf59 6071
2 PaulCranswick 5746
3 scaifea 4678
4 jnwelch 4352
5 Berly 3188
6 crazymamie 3043
7 EBT1002 2571
8 KatieKrug 2503
9 Charl08 2331
10 FAMeulstee 2131
11 kidzdoc 2128
12 Ameise1 2022
13 karenmarie 1970
14 rosalita 1630
15 drneutron 1559
16 johnsimpson 1490
17 FamilyHistorian 1420
18 BBLBera 1385
19 lyzard 1381
20 ronincats 1354
21 SusanJ67 1324
22 ireadthereforeiam 1312
23 Lunacat 1269
24 mstrust 1178
25 ChelleBearss 1156
26 harrygbutler 1039
27 nittnut 900
28 vancouverdeb 861
29 thornton37814 786
30 cbl_tn 755
31 SandDune 731
32 avatiakh 723
33 DianaNL 722
34 Donna 721
35 Chatterbox 716
36 alcottacre 713
37 LizzieD 711
38 jessibud2 709
39 lit_chick 694
40 Streamsong 681
41 storeetllr 643
42 Carmenere 612
43 Ursula 591
44 rebarelishesreading 590
45 morphy 572
46 lkernagh 566
47 Whisper1 564
48 MichiganTrumpet 550
49 laurelkeet 548
50 MickyFine 546
51 cameling 542
52 laytonwoman3rd 527
53 sibyx 522
54 mahsdad 518
55 AMQS 516
56 Oberon 512
57 coppers 502
58 rretzler 490
59 foggidawn 488
60 bell7 487
61 Weird_O 471
62 Swynn 444
63 cammykitty 435
64 Banjo 431
65 norabelle414 431
66 The_Hibernator 431
67 souloftherose 425
68 ffortsa 422
69 tymfos 420
70 mdoris 419
71 PaulStalder 418
72 maggie1944 417
73 SirFurboy 413
74 smiler69 406
75 thearlybirdy 393
76 lindapanzo 380
77 Deern 364
78 ctpress 356
79 bohemima 343
80 klobrien2 341
81 PawsForThought 325
82 BBGirl55 323
83 brodiew2 319
84 ape 316
85 EllaTim 316
86 Dianekeenoy 305
87 amanda4242 304
88 aktakukac 285
89 SqueakyChu 271
90 Caroline_McElwee 260
91 inge87 260
92 lycomayflower 253
93 Zoe 248
94 fuzzi 242
95 witchyrichy 218
96 SuziQOregon 211
97 archerygirl 209
98 arubabookwoman 196
99 eclecticdodo 196
100 seasonoflove 196

261PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 2:45am Top

Update on Books Read League.

Using the same top 100 threads as a qualifying post. Only 99 listed as I have absolutely no idea how many books Morphy has read. Usual disclaimers in that I depend on you also to be update and I am prone to error. Updated over a couple of days so I may have missed some of your latest updates. Real battle royal up top.

1 FAMeulstee 253
2 Chatterbox 252
3 Charl08 154
4 amanda4242 153
5 avatiakh 150
6 SirFurboy 146
7 seasonoflove 141
8 klobrien2 133
9 scaifea 130
10 inge87 127
11 lyzard 126
12 rretzler 116
13 harrygbutler 109
14 jnwelch 106
15 foggidawn 103
16 nittnut 102
17 SusanJ67 98
18 souloftherose 95
19 ronincats 93
20 thornton37814 93
21 aktakukac 92
22 msf59 90
23 BBLBera 85
24 alcottacre 84
25 sibyx 83
26 Swynn 83
27 bohemima 74
28 bell7 73
29 lkernagh 72
30 storeetllr 70
31 Zoe 67
32 archerygirl 67
33 lindapanzo 66
34 EBT1002 65
35 Ameise1 64
36 FamilyHistorian 64
37 Berly 63
38 crazymamie 63
39 Lunacat 63
40 mstrust 63
41 laytonwoman3rd 63
42 Oberon 63
43 Dianekeenoy 63
44 drneutron 62
45 Banjo 61
46 cbl_tn 60
47 MickyFine 60
48 karenmarie 59
49 arubabookwoman 58
50 smiler69 57
51 cameling 56
52 Weird_O 55
53 ChelleBearss 54
54 mahsdad 54
55 witchyrichy 54
56 AMQS 53
57 PaulStalder 53
58 Deern 53
59 PaulCranswick 52
60 lycomayflower 51
61 rebarelishesreading 50
62 mdoris 50
63 Caroline_McElwee 49
64 Donna 48
65 jessibud2 48
66 cammykitty 48
67 johnsimpson 47
68 Streamsong 47
69 Whisper1 47
70 SandDune 46
71 rosalita 45
72 Ursula 45
73 DianaNL 43
74 LizzieD 43
75 laurelkeet 43
76 EllaTim 42
77 fuzzi 42
78 SuziQOregon 42
79 KatieKrug 40
80 ffortsa 40
81 coppers 39
82 ireadthereforeiam 35
83 tymfos 35
84 MichiganTrumpet 33
85 kidzdoc 32
86 norabelle414 31
87 eclecticdodo 31
88 lit_chick 29
89 vancouverdeb 25
90 ctpress 24
91 Carmenere 21
92 PawsForThought 21
93 ape 21
94 thearlybirdy 17
95 SqueakyChu 17
96 BBGirl55 16
97 brodiew2 14
98 The_Hibernator 9
99 maggie1944 9

262PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 2:54am Top

Some comments on the make up of the top 100 threads

84 ladies
16 gentlemen

68 resident in the USA
32 elsewhere

of those:

Malaysia 1
UK 10
Holland 3
Canada 10
Sweden 1
Denmark 1
Italy 1
Switzerland 2
New Zealand 2
Australia 1

263PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 2:57am Top

Of the reading league:

2 already have 3x75

5 have 2x75

16 have passed 100 books

26 have already reached the 75 book target

72 are on target to pass the target (44 books by July end)

264Ameise1
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 5:09am Top

Thanks so much for all your stats, Paul.

265LovingLit
Aug 6, 2017, 6:32am Top

Yessss! I'm 82nd in the reading league! That coveted 82nd spot is all mine ;)

266PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 7:18am Top

>264 Ameise1: Gave me something to do last night when I couldn't sleep, Barbara!

>265 LovingLit: Yes, Megan, aren't you just the lucky one?

267FAMeulstee
Aug 6, 2017, 8:05am Top

Thanks for the stats, Paul!
Top 10 in both, 10+1=11, my other favourite number :-D

Now back to reading ;-)

268PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 8:17am Top

>267 FAMeulstee: To be in the top ten in both lists is a remarkable achievement Anita and both yourself, Amber and Charlotte are comfortably doing just that. What a trio of incredible ladies!

269karenmarie
Aug 6, 2017, 8:31am Top

Hi Paul!

I was wondering how your children were doing with the financial and marriage stresses, and I am sorry to hear that Kyran was in tears. Is Belle doing okay? I get the sense that Yasmyne's focus is on her boyfriend, and she's at the age where they tend to separate themselves anyway.

Thank you so much for the stats. 13th in posting - I'm happy and gratified! (1+3=4, 1/2 of my lucky number). 48th in books read, - serendipitous with a 4 and an 8.

How are you liking Kafka on the Shore?

270msf59
Edited: Aug 6, 2017, 8:47am Top

>260 PaulCranswick: Hooray for Mark and his stellar mouth! LOL! I should show this to my wife. She would get a kick out of it.

Could you imagine if I didn't work? Grins...

>261 PaulCranswick: Glad to see I am holding my own here too. How can someone read 260 books and it is only August? Green with envy...

271PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 10:14am Top

>269 karenmarie: Belle is introverted at the best of times so it is not so easy to say. I took both Kyran and Belle to supper just now in the twin towers and they were happy enough; Hani cried off as she is having problems with her period this month and is convinced that she has fibroids. She will go for a check up this week.

KOTS is so far hitting the spot to be fair.

>270 msf59: Go back and read it carefully dear Postie - it does say STELLAR MONTH! I am sure there are letters and postcards getting delivered to the wrong addresses all over Chicago!!
It is splendid that you just keep on keeping on whilst others move more in fits and starts (myself in particular).

How one can average more than a book a day is beyond me entirely.

272FAMeulstee
Aug 6, 2017, 10:23am Top

>271 PaulCranswick: How one can average more than a book a day is beyond me entirely
I don't know how, it just happens!

273PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 10:32am Top

>272 FAMeulstee: And I am still amazed!

274msf59
Aug 6, 2017, 10:46am Top

>271 PaulCranswick: LOL. I must have been a little bleary-eyed when I typed that and I was completely sober too. I still think "stellar mouth" is pretty funny. I am sure there are plenty here that think I am quite long-winded, but I yam who I yam. Grins...

275PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 11:12am Top

>274 msf59: It would have been a classic typo though Mark for sure. Not sure that you have a stellar mouth buddy but you certainly do have most of us wanting to visit your thread with more than a little regularity.

276BLBera
Aug 6, 2017, 11:41am Top

Thanks for the stats, Paul. Have a great week.

277PaulCranswick
Aug 6, 2017, 12:17pm Top

>276 BLBera: You are welcome, Beth and thank you. xx

278sirfurboy
Aug 7, 2017, 6:11am Top

>261 PaulCranswick: Ooh, sixth place in that list :)

And I have climbed a good few places in the Top 100 threads since June. Now at 72nd place... sixth place is going to be impossible in that list but I may break into the top 50.

Thanks for posting those up.

279PaulCranswick
Aug 7, 2017, 11:13am Top

>278 sirfurboy: I did say that I would get them done over the weekend. I would like to include all the top 140 but I am not as speedy around the threads as I once was so 100 was the best I could manage and have it done for Sunday.

280humouress
Aug 11, 2017, 1:54pm Top

Heartbreak! I've fallen out of the league. I feel like Middlesbrough.

281PaulCranswick
Aug 11, 2017, 8:32pm Top

>280 humouress: Hahaha but they have high expectations of a trip back straight into the top flight. I will update the top 140 and you will be safely back in the pack, Nina. xx

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