Abigail Trafford

Although divorce can be an embarrassing, humiliating, traitorous, and vindictive event in a person’s life; it is often a necessary end to a toxic relationship. This book describes the various stages of divorce and provides examples of various men and women’s battles through the trenches of separation. Most of the separations were based on the traditional cheating/lying scenario. There was a lack of alternative situations such as abuse, mental illness, and abandonment. However, the author show more provided a detailed outline of the emotional stages that occur through the process of divorce and the grieving that happens with most people while separated from their spouses.

I found this book to be very helpful with my current situation. I like thousands of other people in the country find myself going through a divorce. Although I am not divorcing for the traditional reasons that were discussed in the book, I still found the author’s information quite useful. It is a sad day to see that so many people are losing their marriages to infidelities and immaturity. No longer are people able to stay in marriages for fifty years and be true to one another. The internet, Facebook, and Youtube have helped destroy the modern marriage; while young people are too ignorant to see it. People are in love with the idea of being married, but they don’t want to stay in a house where there are rules that require commitment. This book is an example that society has fallen to the wayside and this author provides a guide that allows those that have been broke by the stupidity of others a way back. show less

I found the book a very interesting read, and have recommended it to several people going through divorce. I don't think any of them ready it. The thesis is simply that it is normal to feel disoriented, and this too will pass.

I read this book some time ago, but I continue to recommend it for anybody going through a divorce. It gives a framework that helps one understand what went wrong. Its descriptions of what to expect and common emotions during divorce can be profoundly reassuring to a person who fears that what they are feeling is 'wrong' or out of proportion.

This is an interesting book. It's not particularly deep, scholarly, or wise, but it does give insight into the romantic relationships of seniors. While I enjoyed peeking into others' lives and bedrooms, I didn't really learn anything important about love/sex among the older set.